Are You “Femme Enough” For the Femme Conference?
I’m in Chicago this week, I return back to New York City tomorrow, and I keep talking up the Femme Conference that is coming up…
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Are You Game? Guest Post by Dilo Keith
“Wait,” Morgan said. “I could use a second sub tonight. Interested?”
“Me? A sub?” … but something about Morgan’s confidence made obeying her seem perfectly natural.
Stone Femmes Should Be Called Diamonds, Guest Post by R. Magdalen
I pulled their t-shirt out of their pants, and yanked it and their binder up, exposing their chest. The binder left bright red welts behind. These, I kissed.
Hard Handed Femme, Guest Post by Dena Hankins
This story contains consensual BDSM play, including choking, punching, and foreplay. As she circled the large structures for rope play in the middle of the…
Femming the Strap-On, Guest Post by Artemisia FemmeCock
I used to think I wasn’t gay enough to have a cock. I cringe at that now, wondering what the hell it even means to…
The Tender Sweet Young Thing, Guest Post by Xan West
Dedicated to the members of the Church of the Movie Musical As a heads up, this story includes descriptions of gender play, blade play, edge…
To the femmes on whom I’ve crushed this past year
If you think I’m not kicking myself for not making a move when I had the chance, you’re wrong. I wish I made a move….
You’re Invited to (Kinky) Summer Camp 2012
So you’ve heard about Summer Camp, or at least, about how I met the boy there. And you heard about what happened at Fusion this…
Femme Conference Call for Workshops + Bay Area Event Tonight
Now’s the time to start saving to attend the Femme Conference in Baltimore in August, to start thinking about what event or film or performance…
Femme Invisibility & Beyond
I’m still receiving questions in the Ask Me Anything form; most of the time I am turning them into pieces for my advice column over…
What is even DISCUSSED at a “femme conference”?
I caught sight that the 2012 Femme Conference dates and location have been announced—it’ll be in Baltimore, MD, August 17-19, 2012. I’m looking forward to…
Second Annual Butch/Femme Pride Sideshow! June 14th
Join us at Sideshow on June 14th for our second PRIDE month celebration of butch and femme. Readers include Rachel Kahn, Alicia Greene, & Maggie…
Femmes Needed for PhD Study
UPDATE: Matt has more than enough interviews for his study, thank you for helping! — Why hello femmes, I have a request: One of my…
Butch Enough: Butch Lab Symposium #1
The problem with butch identity—well, any identity category of social, sexual, political, geographical, or other significance really—is permission. If you get past the problem of…
Femme Conference Begins Today! & Countdown to the Butch Voices Conferences
It’s happening right now! Well not quite right now, since it’s earlier in New York City than it is over in Oakland, on the other…
Poll: What do you think about labels?
You might want to vote in the poll before you read me yammer on about my own thoughts on labels and identity, so I don’t…
femme conference countdown!
The Femme Conference is next week! August really came on me fast, I can’t believe the summer’s almost over. Wait, let me rephrase – I…
In Praise of Femmes: Trust
I’m going to attempt a new series of writings in praise of femmes. This is the first officially, but it follows in line with in…
On misperceiving someone as femme or butch (again)
A couple heated comments about my last post already, and I want to make a couple things clearer. First: I believe it is absolutely okay…
Femme Outfits, Fantasy, and more Q&A
I offered up answering any question that was asked today – you can still ask a question until, oh, let’s say, midnight tonight. These are…
An Argument For Butch/Femme
Guest post from my best friend The Muse. We were discussing a post I found earlier today called “an argument against butch/femme,” which I may…
butch/femme holiday guide
My Butch/Femme Holiday Gift List is getting out of control. I have four pages of notes in my journal, multiple notepad files with links and…
put your money where your mouth is
This is a call for donations for Scarleteen. If your values align with Scarleteen’s, and if you are willing and able to keep this necessary…
fluffer femme spy
I got my very own Fluffer Femme Spy this week, a good femme friend of mine in Seattle who has given me all sorts of…
The Best Things I Wrote About Sex, Gender, & Relationships in 2012
Lily at Black Leather Belt is putting together the #SexReader, a new roundup of the best sex blog posts, and the first one is Best…
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[Video] Sugar & Spice: Spicy Queer Kink Erotica Showcase
Here’s the replay for the Sugar & Spice Spicy Showcase! Sugar & Spice: Queer Kink Erotica Reading Sunday, December 17, 2023, 10am PT / 1pm…
Best of 2022 on Sugarbutch
2022 was a huge transition year for me. In April, I changed the Patreon from per-thing to per-month, which significantly helped me work on longer…
All Of This, Guest Erotica by A. L. Brooks
Content: marriage proposal, transmasc/femme, top surgery, daddy/girl, age play, blow job, fingering, strap-on, fucking, crying, D/s, possession. Characters are consenting adults. Cam proposes to me…
Announcing: The Dom Sessions
I’m doing a new thing! I’ve been talking about this for years and I’m excited to be actually making it happen. In 2022, through the…
Ready to Make Waves: Two Recent Inspirational Leather Speeches
I’ve heard more speeches in the leather community lately than I have ever in my life, and I gotta say — I’m moved. There is…
Let It All Go, Boy: Part Two, Guest Post by Sonya Bolus
Content: mommy/boy role play, sex. All characters are consenting adults. Read Part One here. ** Mommy: I pull away. Stand up, looking down at you….
A Moaning Mess of a Girl, Guest Post by Kiki DeLovely
I wake with a start, reaching for my phone. 5:35am. Shit, which way is it again? Could be either 2:35 or 8:35 where you’re at….
Looking for a good dirty read? Here ya go
Partly because I’ve been having/recovering from an emotional breakdown, and partly because I have a day job these days so I haven’t been obsessively reading…
Five Blow Jobs on the Me & My Boi blog tour
Sacchi Green’s new erotica anthology Me & My Boi is finally out! It’s been multiple years in the making, and it includes one of my…
A Personal History of Best Lesbian Erotica
Best Lesbian Erotica 20th Anniversary Edition is out now, and I’m part of the blog tour editor Sacchi Green has organized on it’s behalf. The…
Microagressions & Misgendering: “Right this way, ladies.”
Interacting with service industry folks—in restaurants, at retail stores, at airports, schools, or health care offices—can be daunting and exhausting for genderqueer folks like me….
Read These Books! (Perhaps Some Holiday Gift Ideas?)
I read a lot—and of course I obsessively read queer and sex-positive and revolutionary pleasure books all the time to figure out what’s going on…
The Best Queer Sex Blogs
A friend of mine emailed me this week asking for recommendations for other queer erotica online. I emailed her back with some links off the…
Getting Grown, Guest Post by BD Swain
BD Swain is a butch dyke who enjoys writing queer smut – not just because it’s fun, but because sex and pushing my sexual expression…
The Bootblack Boy (Mistress Elise Winter & morgan #1)
Elise is so over these regular play parties. She sits in the corner drinking sparkling water through a straw—no need to muss her lipstick over…
Queer Masculinity in Porn: Heavenly Spire, Stepfather’s Secret, & More
Weekly, rife and I have a private little ritual on Saturday mornings where we make pancakes and watch porn. I’m not sure exactly how it…
The Ten Sugarbutch Cock Commandments
I’ve been teaching strap-on workshops for about six years now, and I’ve been strapping on for about fifteen. I also coach people to have more…
Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica
Paperback: 232 pages April 17, 2012 ISBN: 1573447854 Lesbian Erotica, BDSM, Fiction: LGBTQ © 2012 Cleis Press “These stories weren’t gentle sweet sixty-nine and cooing….
The Sugarbutch Guide to Cock Confidence: Soft Packing (Part 1)
is short hand for stuffing something in one’s pants or underwear to make it feel or look as though the wearer has a factory-installed dick….
Ask Mr. Sexsmith: How Do I Use My Girlfriend for My Pleasure?
Dear Mr. Sexsmith, My butch girlfriend wants me to boss her around in bed. She wants me to think of it as just using her…
Resiliance and Rebuilding: 2013 in Books, Music, and Writings
Top Writings on Sugarbutch from 2013 In order, from most read to least, these are the writings on Sugarbutch from 2013. Which were your favorites?…
The Great Reader Mini-Interview, Part Seven: The Journey, Smut, and Black Tee Shirts
What’s your relationship with sugarbutch.net and Sinclair? What advice would you give your younger self about sex, gender, or relationships? What one resource has had…
Gender, Poetry, and Smut: Current Recommended Reads
I have stacks of books on my lists to tell y’all about, and so many other things to write to you about that I often…
Why Lesbian Erotica is Activism
Introduction to Best Lesbian Erotica 2012 I know what I want. I knew exactly what I was looking for when I read the submitted stories…
The Great Reader Mini-Interview, Part Four: “Shut up and get hit,” Communion, and fun erotica
What’s your relationship with sugarbutch.net and Sinclair? What advice would you give your younger self about sex, gender, or relationships? What one resource has had…