Beautiful & horrible: Cheryl’s book won the Lammy
Kelli Dunham was in New York City last week at the Lambda Literary Foundation‘s annual award ceremony, the Lammys, to honor the latest best in…
Kelli Dunham was in New York City last week at the Lambda Literary Foundation‘s annual award ceremony, the Lammys, to honor the latest best in…
Today is my day on the Carrie’s Story blog tour. I devoured this book in the beginning of March as some escapist fiction, hoping for…
I’ve been working with The Body Electric School since 2000, since I was just barely out and hadn’t even slept with a girl yet, since…
I’ve been in Dallas with Kristen’s family for the last few days for the Thanksgiving holiday. We did a Dirty Queer Sex Tour reading on…
You are invited to … A night of DIRTY QUEER SEX! Featuring readers from the SAY PLEASE: LESBIAN BDSM EROTICA, and many special guests! Performers…
Oh, San Francisco. Why you gotta be so cool? I am having trouble enough keeping our relationship long-distance. And now, this … I can’t be…
I kind of suck at blogging lately. I have been doing all these offline things—events, trainings, readings, workshops, traveling. Tons of marketing and promotion, very…
A few years ago, a girl I dated wanted me to slap her. To hit her face. She asked for it specifically, I still remember…
There’s a release party for Say Please this Friday … this week is super busy, I know, but I’m really thrilled to be showing off…
Today is the official release date for Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica! Between a few Amazon reviews and various folks on the virtual tour, there…
A big ol’ box of Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica edited by ME and published by Cleis Press has arrived on my doorstep! I am…
It’s almost as if I have January off! I mean I don’t, I am still writing and working and preparing for workshops and etc, but…
Do y’all remember the Sugarbutch Star stories? It was a series where readers sent in a scenario and I wrote up the story. This is…
BLE is here! The first copies arrived last week and we read the first and last story out loud, and of course found a few…
Syd Blakovich & Justine Joli in Taxi Volume I Finally getting around to telling you about Taxi, which is a web series as well as…
Holy crap, there’s a lot going on this month. Events with Mr. Sexsmith Tuesday, August 16th, 8-10pm Cock Confidence workshop Camouflage sex toy shop in…
There is more to you than this identity. It makes everything make more sense, and without it you might be lost, but with it you…
I’ve had these two DVDs sitting around for months now and finally had a chance to watch ’em. The first is Crash Pad Series #6,…
ExperimentallyCurious asked: What was your first time strapping like? What advice do you have for strap-on virgins? My butch just placed the online order for…
I posted way too much on Friday, so while the Butch Lab’s second Symposium topic went live on Friday too, I waited until today to…
It’s been a long time coming, this ode to my favorite barber shop in New York City. It took a while to find it, but…
“[Butch] represents the way I walk in the world and represents the sisters and brothers who have come before me. It is a part of my herstory. By owning my female masculinity I own the word butch, thus, I own myself.”
“Butch is word that I’ve grown to embrace, I love being butch but sometimes I hate the baggage, mostly expectations and misconceptions others, friends and foes, impose on me because my gender presentation is butch.”
Purely for fun, and because a little birdie told me it’s Shine’s birthday today, here’s some of my favorite Crash Pad Series episodes. I’ve said this…
Another year is coming to a close, and aside from reflecting on my life personally, I’m reflecting on the accomplishments. I did a Year In…
The last few years, I’ve done a holiday gift guide of sorts, ideas for gifts. Last year I focused on non-gendered gifts, gifts that could…
As if the project (re)launch of Top Hot Butches wasn’t enough, I’ve got some other exciting news: I’m going to be editing an anthology for…
It’s the calendar time of year, where activists, artists, and photographers come out with annual affordable wall art to decorate your lovely walls. And here…
It is always different to fuck somebody new. New skin, new lips, new way she kisses, new way she writhes, new way she comes. I…
So BUTCH Voices NYC is over … And it was fantastic. I want to tell you all about it, and I barely know where to…
The Butch Voices NYC Regional Conference is almost here! The conference itself is tomorrow, Saturday the 25th, with registration opening up at 9am and workshops…
I’ve asked a couple people recently what their secrets were for their successful long-term relationship, how they keep the passion alive, how they keep walking…
“I wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness the astonishing light of your own being.” —Hafiz I haven’t found an…
Please, Sir edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel, arrived in my mailbox a few weeks ago and I was thrilled to see it. Right away I…
After some strong realizations about what really is the strength and foundation of my relationship with Kristen, I’ve been thinking a lot about healing past…
Kristen: perfect. well i will come by around 9 then. that is late for dinner but oh well Sinclair: okay, will be home. that will…
Remember when I used to do monthly roundup posts? I only did the first three months of 2009, which I actually kind of miss. Perhaps…
Welcome to e[lust] – your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy…
Though I did grow up celebrating Christmas, my family is not particularly religious. I’ve been to Christian church services probably less than a handful of…
I received quite a few questions about my recent post, Kristen’s Homework, especially around how the power imbalance asymmetric balance of power works when adding…
Today, December 13th, marks the anniversary of my first date with Kristen. I didn’t actually tell the story of how we met, so here’s a…
There are some standard gendered gifts – belt buckles, cuff links, handkerchiefs, pocket or wrist watches, ties & tie accessories, makeup, perfume, jewelry, lingerie –…
She looked so damn hot yesterday. I don’t know what it was exactly. She was in an outfit I’ve seen, tight slim jeans, her girly…
You may have run into this little site I co-run with Hot Movies For Her called VOD.sugarbutch.net … it’s up there in the “Mr. Sexsmith…
Back in April, for Sugarbutch’s third anniversary, I offered up an “ask me anything” thread where readers could ask any burning questions that they’d like…
There’s something I want to clear up, especially for those folks who have only been reading Sugarbutch for the last eight or so months that…
Recently, this came into my inbox: I’m in a relationship now with a wonderful person and I’m really intrigued and turned on by BDSM, but…
Ivan Coyote (#6 in the Top Hot Butches list), has just released a piece on his column for xtra.ca called A Butch Roadmap, and it…
So here’s the thing about the internet: the critical feedback is immediate, and publications are, unlike print, not static. Things do not have to stay…
More answers to questions (from bzzzzgrrrl of City Mouse Country). What’s your favorite bit of smut you’ve written in the last three years? The Sugarbutch…