Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica

Paperback: 232 pages
April 17, 2012
ISBN: 1573447854
Lesbian Erotica, BDSM, Fiction: LGBTQ
© 2012 Cleis Press


“These stories weren’t gentle sweet sixty-nine and cooing. Instead, the reader is treated to some rough sex with whimpering, begging and juices a’dripping. Where is the signup sheet?”
—BDSM Book Reviews

Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica

“Each story has a different kink and a different bit of style. Every time the page turned, I got more wet.” —AlphaHarlot

Say the magic word and fulfill your deepest desires for discipline and surrender, domination and submission, and the heightened sensations of BDSM play. One request opens up a fantasy world of classic dungeon scenes, bondage and restraint, floggers and spankings, sadism and masochism, very hot sex and so much more. True to form, Sexsmith queers classic gender dynamics, with a femme daddy in Alysia Angel’s “Feathers Have Weight,” and genderqueer bois who earn their right to flag black in Sassafras Lowrey’s “Black Hanky.” In “The Cruelest Kind,” Kiki DeLovely’s naughty narrator gets her just desserts from her butch in a back alley. D.L. King’s top makes her submissive strip before an unseen audience in “A Public Spectacle.” Face slapping can be a hard limit or the most delicious craving, as Rachel Kramer Bussel’s protagonist finds out in “A Slap in the Face.” Whether you dream of surrendering to a lover or of weilding your power, Say Please to the erotic inspiration within.

“There are very few erotic writers who consistently capture my attention and admiration. John Preston did. So does Carol Queen. And I’ve added Sinclair Sexsmith to that list.” —Dr. Charlie Glickman, Make Sex Better

megallen-smSINCLAIR SEXSMITH is the “kinky queer butch top” behind Sugarbutch Chronicles, an award-winning online personal erotic writing project since 2006. They have contributed to more than twenty erotica and gender theory anthologies, edited Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica, and guest edited Best Lesbian Erotica 2012. Their previous publications include Fervor: Poems from the East Village, two more chapbooks of poetry, and one spoken word album. Sinclair is a feminist dominant, identity puzzler, poet, sacred intimate, and strap-on expert, and they use the pronouns they/them/their/themself as a way to vocalize the in-between gender space they occupy. They live in Oakland, California with their family.

“Sinclair Sexsmith’s writing is a surefire panty-wetter.” —Erika Moen, Oh Joy, Sex Toy

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North American Book Tour, 2012

I traveled to ten cities over six months to do erotica readings with folks who contributed to the book and with erotica readers and authors that I admired. The tour was amazing, I met so many people and was so pleased to get the book in front of them.

  • April 1 in San Francisco, CA with Andrea Zanin, Amy Butcher, August InFlux, TR Moss, and Ashley Young; with live drawing by rife at Good Vibrations Polk Street
  • April 13 in New York, NY with Dusty Horn, DL King, Vie La Guerre, Sassafras Lowrey, Miriam Zoila Perez, Elizabeth Thorne, and Xan West at Bluestockings Bookstore
  • April 22 in Boston, MA with Aporia, Bitches of Destiny, Gigi Frost, Idalia, Elizabeth Thorne, and Anna Watson at The Midway; coproduced by In the Streets Productions
  • May 2 in Seattle, WA with Miss Indigo Blue, Amy Butcher, Elaina Ellis, Lydia Swartz, and BB Rydell at Babeland
  • May 25 in Los Angeles, CA with Jeanne Cordova, D’Lo, Ian Harvie, rife, Claudia Rodriguez, and AJ Stacy at The Pleasure Chest; coproduced with Raquefella
  • June 30 in Atlanta, GA with Kathleen Delaney, Kristen, and Red at Cheris Books; coproduced with Stonewall Month
  • July 8 in Portland, OR with Sossity Chiricuzio, Wendi Kali, Joe LeBlanc, and BB Rydell at She Bop
  • July 24 in Chicago, IL with Christina, Vie La Guerre, and Lyzanne Trevino at The Pleasure Chest
  • October 9 in Toronto, ON with Titus Androgynous, S. Bear Bergman, Dorianne, Carrie Gray, and Andrea Zanin at Glad Day Bookshop
  • November 7 in Dallas, TX with Cheyenne Cartwright, Morgan la Fae, Lillith Grey, CD Kirven, Kasson Marroquin, and Artemis Rose at VerLes

Virtual Tour

April 1 Viviane
April 3 Rachel Kramer Bussel
April 4 Giselle Renard
April 5 Evoe Throw
April 6 Liz
April 9 Roma Mafia
April 10 Official release date! Sinclair
April 11 Dede / deviantdyke
April 12 Helena Swan
April 13 Kim Herbel
April 14 Lily Lloyd
April 16 Lyzanne
April 17 Lula Lisbon
April 18 Ali Oh
April 19 Jameson
April 21 Charlie Ninja
April 22 Meredith Guy
April 23 Wendi Kali
April 24 Lolita Wolf
April 25 Audrey at Babeland
April 26 Seth B
April 27 Danika
April 28 DL King
April 29 Kiki
April 30 Dilo Keith
April 30 Xan West

Extensive Praise from Sexy People

“”Unworthy as I am” [the last story in the book] is a gentle wrap up of the book. Well, not gentle in the play, as you follow caning, piercing, and various delicious forms of torture. But the end of the story, with the collaring scene, can almost bring tears to your eyes, as you feel that this collar is for each submissive in the book, a honor of completion.” —Nina

“The stories were detailed enough to get you into it (soo into it!) but also left somethings up to your own imagination. The stories are hot, and makes you want to try more and more kinky things.” —skysbirdsnplanes

“I was delighted by the wide swathe of kink that this literary erotica cut through my imagination. I’m always interested in the myriad ways that gender expresses itself and Say Please is full of variety. The BDSM quotient zoomed through all of my favorites (except CBT, for obvious reasons) and right into areas that pushed my comfort levels. In other words, it was so hot to read that I had to get myself off.”

“Despite the impressive amount of silicone being used to tease, tantalize, and teach lessons in this collection, it remains exceptionally diverse. Though the authors had to conform to the theme of “lesbian BDSM”, both of those labels were interpreted in a variety of ways, loosely and enthusiastically. In “Say Please,” there are no baselines, no stereotypes, and certainly no “scissoring.” As the coquettish narrator of August InFlux’s “Counting Love” assures us when telling us to leave the candy hearts at home, the best acts of love are not universal. To me, “Say Please” is a beautifully structured vessel carrying creative, courageous, highly individualized demonstrations of respect and admiration.”
Roma Mafia

“This anthology is very well written. The stories are all tightly woven and fast paced. The way lesbians relate in an erotic BDSM scene is surprisingly close to m/m erotic stories, even down to calling the Top—Daddy—and the bottom—boy. There were many hot scenes of strap-on sex which was a delight. These stories weren’t gentle sweet sixty-nine and cooing. Instead, the reader is treated to some rough sex with whimpering, begging and juices a dripping. Where is the signup sheet?”
—BDSM Book Reviews

“For those who enjoy pain and pleasure as a sensual cocktail, the imagination has no limits. Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica is a collection of short erotic fiction from assorted authors as editor Sinclair Sexsmith compiles some of the best stories in the genre, focusing on stories of power, dominance, submission, humiliation, and punishment. Say Please is a strong pick for any assortment of fiction looking to add something that has a good deal of spice to it.”
—Midwest Book Review

“Once of the main things I liked about this erotic collection was the fact that it is so unique. It’s very difficult to find any BDSM book that focuses on lesbians only, and that’s exactly what this book did. The book includes a lot of women strapping on cocks/dildos, but the book is focused on the power exchange between the two females as well as the kink and BDSM. Again, though, the power exchange is the biggest feature in most of the stories, and the bottom submits quite freely while the top takes the power and uses it for deliciously kinky things.”
—Pop My Cherry Reviews

“The writers in Say Please aren’t afraid to get dirty. Although Dusty Horn’s narrator is referring to her unpolished boots, hot lines like “When you see me filthy, you know I mean it” are just dripping with innuendo and vulgar promises. And she makes good. As I turned the final page, I melodramatically went into mourning. Say Please had me practically begging for more. It got me saying please. I bet it’ll get you too.”
—Kiki DeLovely

“Definitely one of the best anthologies I’ve read, overall content quality was superb. The anthology is heavy with butch/femme characters, which I’d expected so I was happy to see a butch-butch pairing and gender binary non-conforming characters as well. I’m hoping to see these kinds of characters become more common in queer erotica, partly because I think its great to expose the erotica reading public to experiences and desires of transgressive people. But Say Please is more than a collection of hot sex scenes. No really. Great depictions of realistic D/s, with negotiation and communication and respect – aspects of D/s that are vital to mutually satisfying experiences. Consent is Sexy! Pass it on…”
—Butchtastic Blog

“Whether you’re a super-kinky mofo or just window shopping in the world of bondage erotica, there is something for everyone in this book. And as an unapologetic intellectual elitist, let me take this moment to assure you that the writing is top-notch. Gone are those old teenage days of sneaking naughty queer books out of the library only to get home and realize they all suck (and not in the good way).”
—Velvet Park

“Let me tell you, I said please more than once to this lovely little book…. These contributing writers had me on edge – on the edge of mental orgasms too which are just lovely!- so many times that I felt myself slowly submitting to the conditions and quality that came along with this well endowed book.”
DeDe Delynn