Sex & Relationships Coaching: D/s, Polyamory, Erotica, Strap Ons, & More

What are you struggling with?

  • Want more pleasure in your sex & kink life?
  • Do you miss the kinky play you used to have with your partner?
  • Want to become a better dominant?
  • Do you want to step up the D/s that you and your partner are already doing?
  • Want to explore submission, but don’t have anybody to try it with?
  • Are you having trouble reconciling your feminism and kink desires?
  • Do you want to find the perfect strap-on, but not sure where to start?

Sign up at the bottom of this page for a complimentary 30-minute Zoom call, where you can share a little bit about what you’re puzzling, and I’ll share about how coaching works, and we can decide if we want to work together.

I’ve coached dozens of folks through transitions, expansions, and puzzles, on issues like these:

Dominance & submission:

  • Coming to a D/s or Daddy identity or dynamic
  • D/s Dating, looking for a new dominant or submissive
  • Navigating changes in D/s
  • Getting needs met in D/s
  • D/s & Polyamory
  • Escalating your D/s dynamic
  • Collaring ceremony planning & facilitation
  • Writing your Contract &/or Household Manual
  • Daddy dynamics – attachment, healing, and challenges
  • Turning up your D/s dynamic – high protocol, more control, more surrender
  • Step up your dirty talk (no matter which role you’re in!)
  • Creating or managing protocols, a “training wheel,” and consequences
  • Transitioning from D/s to ownership or 24/7
  • Healing after ruptures in your relationship, & tools for repairing them
  • Rituals for ending D/s relationships
  • Grief and healing from D/s relationships

Erotica Writing:

  • Writing erotica & love letters
  • Sexting
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    “I have so much to think about, talk about with my partner, and explore on my own!” —K, coaching client

    What are you puzzling in your erotic life right now?


    1-hour session: $150
    2 1-hour sessions: $300
    4 1-hour sessions: $500 (normally $600 when booked individually)
    8 1-hour sessions: $800 ($100/hour instead of $150/hour)

    You can also sign up for the mentor rate via my Patreon and have a 1 hour call with me monthly for $100/month.

    Sliding scale: I have 5 slots available per month at a sliding rate. Email me for more information, [email protected].

    Payments are via my online shop, or Venmo. If those won’t work for you, let me know and we can discuss.

    Already know you want to work with me? Sign up for 1 session, or a 4-session package, here.

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    “Very good guidance. Very clear. Sinclair knows what they’re talking about!” —SK, coaching client
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    “Mr. Sexsmith, thank you for being an excellent guide. You are truly amazing to work with.” — AC, coaching client

    About me

    I see individual clients and couples for sex, gender, and relationship sessions via Zoom and, on rare occasions, in person. I am a dominant, trans butch, and sacred intimate, with 20+ years experience in bodywork, sacred sexuality, and the kink communities. I am also trained in holistic peer counseling and an experienced gender consultant, and have worked both hands-on and virtually.

    Cancellation Policy

    Please let me know by email if you need to cancel at least 24 hours before the session. If you need to cancel day of, there will be a $50 cancellation fee.

    Here’s the booking form

    Complimentary sessions are 30 minutes, where we’ll chat about what you are puzzling and I’ll share how my coaching works. (The form defaults to 1 hour, but these are 30 minutes.) If you’d like a 1-hour session, please pay for that here to ensure you receive your full hour.

    Looking forward to chatting with you!

    Email me if you have any questions: [email protected]