Answers to some questions

Do you have a top five list of toys/accessories that you love and recommend? People’s sexualities are so different, so what’s best for me might…

On Butches: Coming Inside

The truth is, it’s embarrassing, really, to come while strapped on and fucking. The amount I have to let go and risk is sometimes too much for my heart to open up.

It isn’t fair to say that she doesn’t have to do the same amount of risk and letting go when I throw her down onto the bed, shove my hand between her legs, push my fingers inside until she’s screaming and thrashing under my forearm holding her down.

But it’s different, isn’t it?

Save About Face Theatre

One of About Face Theatre’s many supporters emailed me recently with this call for help to keep the theatre’s doors open, staff paid, and the youth theatre program intact. If you can help, please do.

All Five Senses (Part 1)

When I look up, a few minutes later, there she is: sitting on the floor in a row I can hardly see, at first she is only visible by her bare legs on the dirty carpet, seated like I am on the floor, knees all bent, one tucked under her gray skirt which is a small mess of cover for her thighs. I slowly shift my body further into the aisle. Her back is to me, and she holds up a mirror in front of her – I catch glimpses of her face reflected. The dark nerdy frames of her glasses, the line of her jaw, her chin, then her mouth. She takes out a tube of lipstick, twirls it erect, and paints the perfect outline of her lips. Slow, real slow. She presses them together and presses them forward in a kiss, makes an O with her mouth and touches just the tip of her finger to the edge.

How to Read Sugarbutch

Welcome to Sugarbutch 4.0! I’ve made some changes around here in the past two months, and unless you’re a purely RSS reader who never comments, you’ve probably noticed. It’s no longer a typical blog layout with the recent posts displayed chronologically on the front page of the site – the layout is more magazine or newspaper style, with the most recent post for each of the categories displayed in different sections. Here’s a breakdown of how to navigate through the front page of Sugarbutch Chronicles 4.0.

Holiday Ideas for Butches

I know it’s a bit late for this, but here’s five (fairly traditional) ideas for the masculine-leaning butches and bois and boys and transfolks in…

“I’m kind of … insatiable.” My First Date with Kristen

We lay together and I catch my breath, flex and stretch my fingers. I run my palm along her hips, the sides of her body, and she is all nerve endings and sensitive skin, writhing under my touch, rubbing her feet against the blanket on the bed. I could take her again. Could roll her into her back and listen to her breathe and moan. I like the way her moaning becomes practically laughter as she gets closer. How she turns her head to the side and strains with every muscle like she’s trying to press all the edges of her, like she’s going to tear her way out of herself, le petite mort indeed.

Define: Courtly

Back in September, I asked for a word for someone who accepts chivalry. We had a lively discussion in the comments about what that person would be called. I really like the word “courtly” – here’s why.

Shared Items – December 5, 2008

Links around the blogosphere for the week; what I’ve been reading, what has impressed me, great ideas, people in my community. Read & comment & show some love.

Marriage is so gay*

Last week, I dreamt of my future wife. That’s a strange thing to write down and admit, actually, especially publically; but I thought exactly that…

Her Best Line

This is the first Sugarbutch Star 2008 story, the submission is from Eileen at A Place to Draw Blood Laughing. Her Best Line I’ve heard the New…

What happened in August

If you’ve just tuned in, you are joining our hero, Sinclair Sexsmith, on his ongoing quest for sex, gender exploration, and relationships. This is what…

On Butches: Hair

I am a butch who shaves. Not my legs, inner thighs, stomach, underarms (though I’ll get to those in a moment), but my face. Chin,…

The Sadistic Impulse

me: I want to smack your ass her: that’s exciting to me. how do you feel when you’re doing that? me: strong, powerful. hard and…

The Photo Shoot

I know, I know – you never thought this day would come! But it’s true, here it is: the LAST Sugarbutch Star Contest story, from…

blogging for RAINN

Donate to RAINN & let ’em know I sent you – add  “GBBMC2008” and “Mr. Sinclair Sexsmith” in the information box. In April, I’m taking…

Re-Valuing Masculinity

It is no secret that I like identity categories. Anyone who has read around on Sugarbutch knows I identify strongly with some of these labels…

under my radar

My bottom lip is still tender from where she bit just a little too hard. My inner left thigh has three perfect bruises in rings…

broken, breaking

I walked home with my thumb slung in my blazer jacket pocket, fingering the tip of my favorite pink packing cock, the ridges on the…

more gender frustration

Did you see the post about gender binaries over at My Name is Lina?I’ve got all sorts of reactions. Mostly frustration. I feel inarticulate, like…

get fantasizin’!

The submissions are pouring in – by which I mean, I have six. They’re good ones, though, all of them. People, you’ve got today &…

female bloggers who rock

The lovely Ms. Sexcakes has tagged me in a meme, which actually I think is my first one. The theme is, female bloggers who rock.So,…

pure possibility

There were a couple of interesting comments on that post yesterday, related comments, specifically about “just being” rather than working so hard to change, especially…