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Follow your own Kinky Desire Map

Follow your own Kinky Desire Map

12/18/2014  |  1 Comment

This past summer, while rife and I were running the Submissive Playground ecourse (which is open for registration for the... more

10 Tips for Tops

10 Tips for Tops

11/30/2014  |  2 Comments

here are many styles of dominance, mastery, and topping, from the paternal to the viciously mean, but regardless of where... more

Dear Tops: Say Thank You

Dear Tops: Say Thank You

10/25/2014  |  3 Comments

Dear tops,When someone corrects your technique while fucking, set your ego aside and say thank you.Thanks for telling me. Thanks... more

Is psychological kink play

Is psychological kink play “healthy”?

08/25/2014  |  6 Comments

Recently, I've noticed quite a few questions—both in the Submissive Playground course and in the Ask Me Anything box—concerning kink,... more

Bored Kinkster Blues

Bored Kinkster Blues

06/30/2014  |  2 Comments

You’ve been an out and proud kinkster—a submissive, let’s say—for years and years. You’ve done all the things. You’ve tried... more

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: I'm a sub, but my partner is not a dom. What do I do?

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: I’m a sub, but my partner is not a dom. What do I do?

06/06/2014  |  6 Comments

This question comes from Marie:"My partner and I have come to a difficult place in our relationship. I have long... more

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: I struggle with my feminist beliefs and my bedroom preferences  ... help!

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: I struggle with my feminist beliefs and my bedroom preferences … help!

04/18/2014  |  11 Comments

Dear Mr. Sexsmith,I am a strong, opinionated, sometimes bossy, lesbian. I have a huge passion for the empowerment, education... more

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: How Do I Use My Girlfriend for My Pleasure?

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: How Do I Use My Girlfriend for My Pleasure?

03/19/2014  |  3 Comments

Dear Mr. Sexsmith,My butch girlfriend wants me to boss her around in bed. She wants me to think of it... more

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: Didn't you mention a marketing or business ecourse recently?

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: Didn’t you mention a marketing or business ecourse recently?

01/08/2014  |  1 Comment

Dear Mr. Sexsmith,This is a terribly mundane and sadly unsexy question but I swear I saw you post a... more

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: Tomboi vs RodeoH brief-style harness?

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: Tomboi vs RodeoH brief-style harness?

11/27/2013  |  13 Comments

Dear Mr. Sexsmith,Have you tried the Spare Parts Tomboi Harness? I saw your review of the RodeoH and agree with... more