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Is psychological kink play

Is psychological kink play “healthy”?

08/25/2014  |  6 Comments

Recently, I've noticed quite a few questions—both in the Submissive Playground course and in the Ask Me Anything box—concerning kink,... more

Bored Kinkster Blues

Bored Kinkster Blues

06/30/2014  |  2 Comments

You’ve been an out and proud kinkster—a submissive, let’s say—for years and years. You’ve done all the things. You’ve tried... more

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: I'm a sub, but my partner is not a dom. What do I do?

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: I’m a sub, but my partner is not a dom. What do I do?

06/06/2014  |  6 Comments

This question comes from Marie: "My partner and I have come to a difficult place in our relationship. I have long... more

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: I struggle with my feminist beliefs and my bedroom preferences  ... help!

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: I struggle with my feminist beliefs and my bedroom preferences … help!

04/18/2014  |  10 Comments

Dear Mr. Sexsmith, I am a strong, opinionated, sometimes bossy, lesbian. I have a huge passion for the empowerment, education... more

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: How Do I Use My Girlfriend for My Pleasure?

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: How Do I Use My Girlfriend for My Pleasure?

03/19/2014  |  3 Comments

Dear Mr. Sexsmith, My butch girlfriend wants me to boss her around in bed. She wants me to think of it... more

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: Didn't you mention a marketing or business ecourse recently?

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: Didn’t you mention a marketing or business ecourse recently?

01/08/2014  |  1 Comment

Dear Mr. Sexsmith, This is a terribly mundane and sadly unsexy question but I swear I saw you post a... more

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: Tomboi vs RodeoH brief-style harness?

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: Tomboi vs RodeoH brief-style harness?

11/27/2013  |  13 Comments

Dear Mr. Sexsmith, Have you tried the Spare Parts Tomboi Harness? I saw your review of the RodeoH and agree with... more

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: What happens to the stuff on the anal toys when you boil them?

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: What happens to the stuff on the anal toys when you boil them?

09/20/2013  |  3 Comments

Dear Mr. Sexsmith, Ok, this is a really dumb question. When you clean silicone toys used during anal sex, do... more

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: First time with a girl

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: First time with a girl

09/18/2013  |  1 Comment

Hi Sinclair, I'm in a bit of a pickle. I've been out for ages, but for reasons not worth getting... more

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: Help! I want a decent pack 'n play cock!

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: Help! I want a decent pack ‘n play cock!

09/08/2013  |  2 Comments

Hello Sinclair, My girlfriend and I have been looking for a decent pack 'n' play cock but can't seem to find... more