Kristen & Sinclair Answer Your Questions – Episode 1: “I Want To Be Taken”

So Kristen and I have a new experiment …

I’m no longer writing an advice column for acompanythatshallremainnameless, so I have this spreadsheet full of questions (65 of them at the moment) and nowhere to really put the answers. Sometimes I run them by Kristen before I write about them, or just to spark casual conversation, and we have fun bantering about the advice that we’d give. So at one point we thought, hey, what if we do a little video recording of these?

In this episode: Emma asks, “I’ve just started dating someone new, and at the same time I am figuring out that I might be submissive. How do I let her know that I want to be, well, taken? Thanks.”

References from the video:

Mollena Williams
The Topping Book & The Bottoming Book (weren’t actually mentioned but I meant to suggest them)
Savage Love

PS: Isn’t Kristen pretty?

PPS: Bonus photo outtake:

Published by Sinclair Sexsmith

Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them) is "the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queers" (AfterEllen), who "is in all the books, wins all the awards, speaks at all the panels and readings, knows all the stuff, and writes for all the places" (Autostraddle). ​Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award, and they are the current editor of the Best Lesbian Erotica series. They identify as a white non-binary butch dominant, a survivor, and an introvert, and they live outside Seattle as an uninvited settler on traditional, ancestral, & unceded Snoqualmie land.

15 thoughts on “Kristen & Sinclair Answer Your Questions – Episode 1: “I Want To Be Taken””

  1. Cowboy says:

    <3 Love this!

  2. Tanya says:

    I really loved watching this. I hope that you both continue to do these videos with the questions and answers. It is really fun to see the difference between you both in your energies and to have a glimpse into what you think about various topics. Thank you for filming and hope to see many more!

  3. Rudy says:

    Ummmmm, you two are ridiculously adorable. Ps the sexual tension between you is palpable. <3

  4. “You have to use your mouth!” It is so true, use your words! This is such a fun idea, and I was just thinking the other day how I would really love to hear more from Kristen. Yay!

  5. Sarah says:

    Quite aside from the solid advice you guys gave, you are also adorable together and yes, Kristen looks super cute.

  6. Kat says:

    Amazingly adorable :)

  7. Rach says:

    Love this! Love you both! Found it very helpful. Look forward to seeing more :)

  8. Viola says:

    Oh, the two of you are so adorable! You both have such great energy and it’s awesome to see you interact. Great advice too! I really hope you keep up with this series.

  9. gradland says:

    So much fun! And yeah, the video was adorable, but that outtake photo may be the most frickin’ adorable thing ever.

  10. alice says:

    yay! more please! it was great to finally put voices to the face/es! seeing you two interact was awesome too!

  11. Ha – you two are way adorable. You could read the phone book together and have fans watch that. I’m just sayin. Also, how are you so freakin’ young? I say, grabbing my cane and my black knee socks as I hobble out to grab the paper and yell at the neighborhood kids to get off my lawn. Haha

  12. Bettina says:


    also, shit. is that why my mom used to always leave advice column newspaper clippings on my bedside table? sheesh.

  13. Bettina says:

    oh and also, please do more of these.

  14. emily says:

    i used the “hey i read sugarbutch” tactic and it worked super well =D

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