Vote in AfterEllen’s Hot 100 & Increase Gender Diversity in Lesbian Pop Culture
AfterEllen.com has opened up voting for its annual Hot 100 list, which is largely a response to the “top hot list” time of year, and…
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Anal Scenes in Queer Porn with JD Bauchery
I’ve been compiling and asking around about the best anal scenes in queer porn, and I’ve got a bit to report. If you’re one of…
Quick Anal Interview with Sophia St. James
1. What one tip would you suggest (aside from the obvious: lube, communicate, go slow)? I think a person needs to be mentally ready for…
Quick Anal Interview with Madison Young
This Quick Anal Interview comes from Madison Young, feminist, art gallery owner, and porn star. If you haven’t seen her come on camera, you are…
Quick Anal Interview with Dylan Ryan
The second quick anal interview features porn star Dylan Ryan, one of my favorite people to watch fuck on camera, and anal enthusiast herself. When…
Review: Talk To Me Baby (VOD)
Do you remember Hard Love & How to Fuck in High Heels and Sugar High Glitter City? They were the very first butch/femme dyke porn…
Review: Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence (Book)
I’ve been reading Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel this past week, and it was an interesting enough read to mention it…
Come One, Come All, to SIDESHOW!
(More details & information at SideshowReadingSeries.wordpress.com.) New York City: home to some of the best performance art, spoken word, poetry, and literary culture in the…
April’s Pin-Up Giveaway
It’s April again, and you already know that means it’s my birthday, and Sugarbutch’s blogiversary. But did you also know that this year, I am…
Update! Sideshow Reading Series has a NEW VENUE
I won’t explain why Sideshow Reading Series now has a new venue, and it doesn’t really matter. Cheryl B. and I are kicking off a…
eLust #10: Weekly Sexblog Roundup
Welcome to e[lust] – The 10th edition! Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking…
Books That Changed My Life
Back when Sugarbutch was a little baby new blog (did you know it will turn 4 in April?!), I used to write a Sunday Scribblings…
Review: The Njoy Fun Wand
Let’s have a review, shall we? I’m way behind on product reviews, I have a list and it kinda just keeps getting longer. I’m moving…
How Do I Let Go of a Past Hurt?
After some strong realizations about what really is the strength and foundation of my relationship with Kristen, I’ve been thinking a lot about healing past…
And the Lezzy Goes To …
The 2009 Lezzy Awards are over, and you all voted Sugarbutch as the Best Sex/Short Story/Erotica site for the second year in a row! Thank…
Love Letter #4 (Growing Pains)
“Relationships take work,” they say. But as someone who now knows I spent way too long in failed or failing relationships, desperately clinging to any…
Consent Obsession
I’m realizing that I’m a little bit obsessed with consent, in perhaps a way that is too much. I mean, it is not a bad…
“On Dichotomies that (No Longer) Jail Me” and More From KinkForAll Providence
I really admire & adore Maymay. He is one of the big minds behind both KinkForAll, which is an “unconference” of folks coming together to…
New Book! Sometimes She Lets Me: Best Butch Femme Erotica
Sometimes She Lets Me: Best Butch Femme Erotica Edited by Tristan Taormino is due out February 16th, and I have a story in it! (I believe…
KinkForAll in Providence, RI!
First of all: I totally admit to having stolen all of this text (below) about KinkForAll from Jack at Writing Dirty (keep refreshing until you…
Lipstick Blow Job
Kristen: perfect. well i will come by around 9 then. that is late for dinner but oh well Sinclair: okay, will be home. that will…
Review: Roulette Dirty South (DVD)
It didn’t take me long to watch Courtney Trouble’s new film Roulette Dirty South, I ripped it open the minute I got it in the…
Review: Even More Bang for Your Buck 2
Buck Angel is known widely as “the man with a pussy” and is a hugely popular trans porn star. I remember hearing Buck on episode…
elust #5: Quiet Holiday Version
Welcome to e[lust] – your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy…
My Evolving Masculinity, Part Four: Personal
See also: Part One, Introduction, Part Two, Yin & Yang, and Part Three: “Daddy” I started this series in the summer, nearly six months ago…
Radical Masculinity #3: When Men Wear Skirts
… is up at Carnal Nation! A little taste of what I discuss: One of my basic tenets of gender is the deep belief that…
e[lust] #4: Reconciling Butch Top + Feminist in the Top Three!
Thanks to the lovely judges over at e[lust], my post Reconciling the Identities of Feminist & Butch Top is featured this week in the top…
Yes, No, and Consent
In much of the workshops and trainings around sexuality and sexual expression that I have attended, we have often started with one basic concept: saying…
Review: Midori’s Expert Guide to Sensual Bondage (DVD)
Midori’s Expert Guide to Sensual Bondage DVD is directed by Tristan Taormino and written & hosted by sex expert and author Midori, and I am…
Reconciling the Identities of Feminist & Butch Top
I received quite a few questions about my recent post, Kristen’s Homework, especially around how the power imbalance asymmetric balance of power works when adding…
Year One With Kristen (Happy Anniversary)
Today, December 13th, marks the anniversary of my first date with Kristen. I didn’t actually tell the story of how we met, so here’s a…
The Dirtiest Kristen Stories
Today is my one year anniversary of dating Kristen. There’s another post coming shortly about our year together, but while that’s coming, here are some…
Kiss & Tell on Tuesday, Dec 15 in NYC
I’ll be reading at Abiola Abrams‘s new series Kiss & Tell here in New York City on Tuesday, December 15th at 7pm. Abiola is one…
My Favorite Scenes in Porn Flicks
After I mentioned my favorite porn scene of all time in the Strap On Motel review the other day (which happens to be Dylan Ryan…
Review: The Crash Pad Series: Volume 5 (DVD)
Another quick little DVD review, this one of The Crash Pad Series: Volume 5 which is just now released by Blowfish. It is no secret…
Review: Strap On Motel (Film)
It’s time for a little video review from VOD.sugarbutch.net! This one is Strap On Motel, directed by Maria Beatty and produced by Bleu Productions (same…
World AIDS Day: Safer Sex, History, and Interconnectivity
To be honest, I don’t use Sugarbutch often enough as a platform (ahem soapbox) to preach about safer sex practices, and I should. It is…
A New Sex Blog Roundup – e[lust]#2
e[lust] has come along to fill the void left when Sugasm closed down. I’ve had a lot of comments from folks saying that the Sugasm…
On Femme Invisibility
G at “Can I Help You, Sir?” asked about femme invisibility recently, and the topic has gone around the gender/queer blogs a bit, with some…
Want to write some smut with me?
This just in! Stop the presses! Last minute announcement of how to stalk me this week … As if I haven’t had enough events this…
Scarleteen: Help Lift Sex Ed to a Higher Plane
I’ve written about the sex education network Scarleteen before, calling for support and donations to help keep this invaluable resource going strong. I’ve been following…
Cock Confidence: Buck by Vixen Creations (Review)
Oh, Vixskin. (Sigh & swoon.) I often get questions about which cocks I recommend, and I always say Vixen Creation’s line of Vixskin material. They…
Fucking & Making Love
She looked so damn hot yesterday. I don’t know what it was exactly. She was in an outfit I’ve seen, tight slim jeans, her girly…
Fucking in Public in Liberator Lingerie
Kristen and I dispute how many times we’ve been to the particular play party that we attended on Halloween. I thought we’d been before at…
Review: Seven Minutes in Heaven (DVD)
On Friday, Kristen and I sat down to watch No Fauxxx‘s latest DVD from Reel Queer Productions, Seven Minutes in Heaven: Coming Out. And we…
Sometimes, I will never catch up …
Well hello! Hey look! I have an online-writing-project (aka blog)! It’s not like I’ve forgotten. I never do. I am always writing posts in my…
Bent Mentor Showcase in Seattle
If you live in Seattle, don’t miss the Mentor Showcase at Bent: A Writing Institute. I studied at Bent for almost six years, when I…
The Nearest Exit May Be Behind You by S. Bear Bergman
S. Bear Bergman has a new book out, The Nearest Exit May Be Behind You, which is a collection of personal essays, mostly on gender….
Review: Nipple Clamps 101
A while back Kristen decided she’d like to try some different nipple clamps. I had one set, a very basic tweezer set, which she liked…
Bucking the System: Buck Angel Q&A
Buck Angel, the FTM transsexual porn star known as “the man with the vagina” (who has given his permission to be included in the Top…