Re-Valuing Masculinity
It is no secret that I like identity categories. Anyone who has read around on Sugarbutch knows I identify strongly with some of these labels…
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What happened in January (2008)
Posted January 21, 2009, but back-dated. I’m late on this roundup – a year late, actually. I started writing up roundups in February of 2008, so never wrote up January. But as I’m doing a year-end roundup, I’ve been trying to get this all in order.
how much my heart can take
A 23-year-old British woman recently had a chance to look at her own heart on display, part of The Heart exhibition at the Wellcome Collection…
except when it does
In retrospect, it seems so obvious. Of course it’s hard to date while you’re falling for someone else. Of course you should work on that…
Things that happened Thursday:
I got a replacement copy of The Leather Daddy and the Femme and read the first few chapters on the subway. The writing is smooth,…
Hello! I’m Sinclair
I’m a writer and teacher, and I lead workshops about using identity and power as tools for liberation. Through fields like feminism, queerness, trans &…
do you wanna?
Oh – I forgot – this is the point of what I just wrote out:I’m extremely busy, and heading out of town for the next…
will my cock get sucked?
I stood at the foot of the bed. Standing up made me realize that my jeans were still unzipped, belt unbuckled, falling around my hipbones….
what sex bloggers do when we get together
Viviane‘s tea party of sex bloggers yesterday was yet again an amazing gathering. The conversation was mostly sex & general geekery like WordPress templates. logo…
anonymity and a writer’s life
Funny how once one thing changes, one big thing, it seems to cascade and everything else starts changing, too. Understandings of my relationships – from…
even more raunchy than expected
Wow. Sometimes I see lists like this – some of my more interesting search engine keywords – and I realize that this writing project (ugh,…
If Mick Jagger was a literary, 30-something woman
Speaking of places where Sugarbutch was mentioned, Susan Mernit called me “The Toppe” in her BlogHer Sex Bloggers 101 article: Another New Yorker, this lesbian…
workshop revelations
The workshop this weekend was phenomenal, as this workshop always is. This is my seventh time at a workshop through this same school, my third…
Butch & Trans In Conversation: Interview with Cody
When I went on that gender tirade back in August, Cody & I talked a bit about the butch/femme identities, and I was really curious…
I top on the third date
Oh, yeah, I had a date last Tuesday. A week ago now.I showed up, six-pack in hand, at her apartment on Tuesday night. She answered…
Gender Is A Sex Toy
My favorite part of last night was the way she said please. Please, please, like a whisper, or a prayer. At the bar, she told…
This week’s gender discussion: roundup
What’s been going on with this huge ol’ gender conversation, you ask? Well, here’s the roundup.This particular conversation this week was sparked by an anonymous…
Ranting about Gender Binaries & Stereotypes
I should be sleeping. And I have too many things to be writing about to be flying off the handle at some random thing, but…
another public service announcement
The early registration deadline for the Body Electric School‘s Celebrating the Body Erotic for women (only) is coming up next week. I wrote about it…
I dare you
It seems my old Fill in the blank survey has been unearthed and has made the rounds on some sexblogs (both of whom are queer…
just what you wanted
Well hello, new visitors! Thanks for a few strategically placed links (don’t I wish I’d emailed out a press release for this two weeks ago!…
female bloggers who rock
The lovely Ms. Sexcakes has tagged me in a meme, which actually I think is my first one. The theme is, female bloggers who rock.So,…
highest day so far
Jefferson, sweet man that he is, included my recent “guilty fantasies” post in his Valley of the Twenty-somethings Fleshbot sex blog roundup, and on Saturday,…
it’s all about content, anyway
Did I mention that you can subscribe to Sugarbutch Chronicles via Feedburner? Well, you can. And in fact, it’d be awesome if you did (or…
distracting myself II
Part I She does. Tenderly, her lips on the pink silicone. Tenderly, her mouth sucking her teeth, keeping her lips closed. Looking up at me…
birds or boxing
Lately, I’ve been obsessed with birds. Flight patterns. Migration. Wings. Traveling by air. The topography of a bird like the wrist, the bard of the…