female bloggers who rock

The lovely Ms. Sexcakes has tagged me in a meme, which actually I think is my first one. The theme is, female bloggers who rock.So, I’ve been thinking about this, going through the lists of the female bloggers that I read, making a list of the blogs I read daily, the blogs I wouldn’t want to be without, and then I started thinking about the sex blogs I love, and the queer women who I read and identify with. And, strangely enough, nearly all of those are separate lists, with very little overlap.

So my question is, where the hell are all the dyke sex blogs?

Yes, I know there are plenty of sex blogs out there where women write about having sex with women, but very few of them are explicitly queer, and also include discussions of queer identity and/or culture.

And, dammit (damnit), I’d like to find these blogs. If you know of any, let me know?

… And now we return you to your regularly scheduled meme.

  • bird on the wire: a collage blog of personal musings, music, and art, with photographs, occasional Simpsons hilarity (“Should we kiss to break the tension?”), and healing heartbreak. Also, she just happens to be my best friend. So of course she gets top billing.
  • Flying Truth: Dylan was one of the first readers here at Sugarbutch who commented regularly and continuted to contribute to my own thought processes, discussions, and revelations, and I really appreciate how much she keeps the conversations going. Her own blog is a collection of personal musings, from Harry Potter to her puppies to butch/femme identities and relationships.
  • Madeline in the Mirror: one of my first sexblog crushes, cause she’s so freakin articulate, and sexy, and bold. She doesn’t update as often as I (and many of her fans) would like, but when she does it’s always worth it. Also visit her at Mad Words.
  • Lusty Lady by Rachel Kramer Bussel. ‘Cause she’s always got something to say, usually either sexy, insightful, intelligent, or just about some sort of fantastic cupcake. Seems like the sex blog/sex writing world in New York City is centered around six-degrees-of-RKB. She’s quite the staple in this community, and she blogs frequently, regularly, and brilliantly. Also because she’s smokin’ hot.
  • Waking Vixen by Audacia Ray. Dacia is not only a blogger, editor, and sex worker these days, but also a published author and a porn director. I especially like how her explorations and musings are a window into the fascinating subculture of porn and sex work.
  • And one to grow on, ’cause I can’t leave her out: Viviane’s Sex Carnival is another staple in the sex blogging community, always insightful & interesting.

Published by Sinclair Sexsmith

Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them) is "the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queers" (AfterEllen), who "is in all the books, wins all the awards, speaks at all the panels and readings, knows all the stuff, and writes for all the places" (Autostraddle). ​Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award, and they are the current editor of the Best Lesbian Erotica series. They identify as a white non-binary butch dominant, a survivor, and an introvert, and they live outside Seattle as an uninvited settler on traditional, ancestral, & unceded Snoqualmie land.

6 thoughts on “female bloggers who rock”

  1. sexcakes says:

    right now i hardly read any queer blogs. i used to read Creepy Lesbo, and Lemon Pillows but never actually contacted either. i read a mysterious blog called Not You, The Other One. it was honest and funny and she disappeared a month after i found her.one of the (many) reasons i like your blog is because you talk about sexual identity as well as just sex. i have many issues with the ready-made labels society can award you with regards to your sexual preference. i find it hard to identify as a bisexual. that sense that it's not taken seriously, that "it's just a phase" bothers me. i came out as a lesbian while still in school, and before i had considered men. mostly when people ask, i tell them i'm gay. that's comfortable, yes, but not entirely true. so it's wonderful to hear somebody else's view on labels, self image, the wonderful and varied dynamics in a lesbian relationship…i'll prod mr sexcakes and we'll ponder things more serious than orgasms one day :)

  2. Viviane says:

    Thank you for the nod, sweetie. Now I have to get back to my regular posting… xxooxx

  3. Dylan says:

    I never knew I was one of the first serious readers at Sugarbutch. There was so much to catch up on when I found your lovely blog. It really has been a pleasure reading every day and I am filled with glee by this little nod in my direction. What a nice surprise to find upon my visit!

  4. birdonthewirenyc says:

    i'm number one! in your face!i mean, thank you. i heart you back.

  5. Dylan says:

    Have you ever heard of this blog, (laidblog.com) and if so, what do you think of it? I keep meaning to ask you when we're chatting but I never remember, so I've decided to leave a comment about it.

  6. Rachel says:

    Um…that made me blush. For reals. Thank you!

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