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Quick Anal Interview with Dylan Ryan

The second quick anal interview features porn star Dylan Ryan, one of my favorite people to watch fuck on camera, and anal enthusiast herself. When I started brainstorming queer porn scenes to feature here (upcoming!), two of hers came immediately to mind. Here’s what she had to say about anal sex.

Photo of Dylan by Aslan Leather, as featured on Dylan's website

Maximus. Hands down the best one I’ve found. Stays cushy without getting gummy. I feel like most people don’t know it… which is funny because it’s sooo good.


This is hard to describe, but I’ll try. Technically it’s doggy, BUT my upper body and chest is completely on the bed. And then the boy is on top, but he actually puts his legs on TOP of my legs, and moves his cock up higher, in a more downward and less directly into the ass angle. His hands are on the bed on either said with most his lower body on top of me. We call it the SUPER DOG!

Basically, it puts more of his body weight on me. And the angle … it feels less OOMPHy. That’s the one thing about anal, I love it really hard, but the direct right-into-the-ass feels too much like poop, like “I’m filling you up with air.” But with more of an angle that feeling goes away, and there’s more sensation, less blowing up like a balloon.

In this position I feel very mounted, too, which I personally dig. It feels nasty and taboo.


I like to do anal after I’ve already cum. So, stick to what you know, get off, and then give it a shot. Usually I’m raring at that point: the body is relaxed, the adrenaline and serotonin are flowing.

I’m really into rimming these days, and I don’t see that suggested very often. Rimming is an AWESOME way to start anal. It feels AMAZING and relaxes everything, and there can be some tongue penetration to get things started.

People tend to get really cerebral about anal, and I understand that, but internalizing all the stuff about it hurting sets people up. If anal was more a regular part of sex in people’s lives, it would be easier to do. Approaching with caution helps with injury, but the anus is pretty damn elastic. If it was something that was less associated with pain, I think people would practice and explore it more. Especially for women, the concepts around it are “oh no, thats going to hurt” as opposed to, “lets find out what I do and don’t like about it.” Just like vaginal or oral sex, everyone has different likes/needs, and exploring those can be icky and painful and weird and not hot, but it can also be amazing and sexy and hot and illuminating. Anal should be part of that package in a positive way!

Dylan Ryan is making the world a better place, one porn at a time. Follow her on Twitter @thedylanryan and check out her new website,

Published by Sinclair Sexsmith

Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them) is "the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queers" (AfterEllen), who "is in all the books, wins all the awards, speaks at all the panels and readings, knows all the stuff, and writes for all the places" (Autostraddle). ​Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award, and they are the current editor of the Best Lesbian Erotica series. They identify as a white non-binary butch dominant, a survivor, and an introvert, and they live outside Seattle as an uninvited settler on traditional, ancestral, & unceded Snoqualmie land.

8 thoughts on “Quick Anal Interview with Dylan Ryan”

  1. J says:

    You know what? I'm loving the theme week! Thanks Mr Sexsmith, and thanks Dylan for the position suggestion. Will have to give that one a whirl. Anal's one of those things I've never quite got the hang of, so this week I will be paying attention in class ;)

  2. Ivy says:

    This post made me want to grab the nearest willing sexmate and not leave my bedroom for hours!

  3. Tallace says:

    Great position description Dylan. I really empathised! I love someone's weight on me in that position in particular.

  4. shar says:

    I agree with Dylan about coming before anal. well I did now sometimes I crave anal and can't come without it. well that of course makes my stud completely insane. she loves that she made me an ass slut. (she called someone else that in Hard Love but c'mon now.) we are going to try maximus lube now. thanks!

  5. Kyle says:

    This was one of the most informative of the series, Sinclair. Now I want to try the position she's describing and I totally agree with her on coming first and rimming to get things fired up.

  6. contrary_wise says:

    This is the first time I've ever seen advice that anal for women doesn't have to be thought about in terms of pain first. I've been annoyed with how even the better anal sex how-to guides (like Tristan Taormino's) start from the assumption that a woman is going to be uncomfortable and need to ease into to, get used to the pain. It sets up the expectation of pain when that isn't necessarily the case at all. Mad props to Dylan Ryan for pointing out that anal can be just like any other kind of sex, and it's all in how you approach it. Not to mention the position tip!

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