essays

On misperceiving someone as femme or butch

May 8th, 2008 • 4 minute read • by

Sex Drive, Bed Death, & Dealbreakers

May 6th, 2008 • < 1 minute read • by

Lesbian bed death, Butch/femme dating, and More Femme Worship (Plus Q&A)

May 1st, 2008 • 8 minute read • by

Revised: Music To Fuck To

April 30th, 2008 • < 1 minute read • by

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: Butch Identity & Misogyny

April 29th, 2008 • 3 minute read • by

Femme Outfits, Fantasy, and more Q&A

April 29th, 2008 • 7 minute read • by

Submissive Impulses & Why I Heart Sadists, Guest Post by muse

April 24th, 2008 • 2 minute read • by

On Piercing: Earlobe, Clit, Cock

April 22nd, 2008 • 2 minute read • by

The Sadistic Impulse

April 21st, 2008 • 2 minute read • by

The Red Tie Night, Six Years Ago

April 17th, 2008 • 4 minute read • by

Five Tips for Getting Laid

April 15th, 2008 • 2 minute read • by

Clitoral Anatomy: Make a Wish on That Bone

April 8th, 2008 • 2 minute read • by

How to take butch cock seriously

April 8th, 2008 • 4 minute read • by

The personal ad I’m not posting

April 8th, 2008 • 2 minute read • by

High heels lead to a stronger pelvic floor

March 21st, 2008 • 2 minute read • by

In Praise of Femmes: Stretchmarks

March 20th, 2008 • < 1 minute read • by

Protected: Reflections on Exes

March 16th, 2008 • 7 minute read • by

Tips for Dating via Personal Ads

March 15th, 2008 • 3 minute read • by

Messin’ With Your Gender Paradigm

March 14th, 2008 • < 1 minute read • by

In Response to a Rant Against Female Masculinity

March 14th, 2008 • 5 minute read • by

In Response to a Rant Against Female Masculinity, Guest Post by Jesse James

March 12th, 2008 • 4 minute read • by

“Lesbian Does Not = Butch”

March 12th, 2008 • 8 minute read • by

Femininity & Heterosexism

March 4th, 2008 • 2 minute read • by

An Argument For Butch/Femme

February 29th, 2008 • 4 minute read • by

Butch Flight, Dress-Up Test, Gender Galaxy, and Other Definitions

February 27th, 2008 • 2 minute read • by

Nostalgia for the Butch/Femme Dynamic

February 26th, 2008 • 2 minute read • by

On Privilege & Gender (Part Two)

February 22nd, 2008 • 3 minute read • by

Passing, Privilege, & Butch/Femme

February 22nd, 2008 • 3 minute read • by

Re-Valuing Masculinity

February 1st, 2008 • 4 minute read • by

Trans vs Butch Identity

December 15th, 2007 • 3 minute read • by

Femme, A Matter of Intent

December 6th, 2007 • 3 minute read • by

Femme as a Trans Identity

November 13th, 2007 • 2 minute read • by

The Gender Code

November 8th, 2007 • 2 minute read • by

Motivations behind my butch identity development process

November 2nd, 2007 • 3 minute read • by

Gender Identity vs Sexual Identity

October 31st, 2007 • 2 minute read • by

Butch Stoicism

October 31st, 2007 • < 1 minute read • by

“Femme is Pure Strength”

October 12th, 2007 • < 1 minute read • by

More on Butch Identity, Mine

September 19th, 2007 • 4 minute read • by

Butch & Trans In Conversation: Interview with Cody

September 10th, 2007 • 12 minute read • by

Why we need to examine our lives

August 30th, 2007 • 2 minute read • by

Top 10 things I love about femmes

August 28th, 2007 • < 1 minute read • by

Top 10 things I love about being butch

August 24th, 2007 • < 1 minute read • by

Top 10 things I love about being gay

August 22nd, 2007 • < 1 minute read • by

What Gender Is

August 17th, 2007 • 4 minute read • by

This week’s gender discussion: roundup

August 17th, 2007 • 3 minute read • by

Gender Dynamics in the Sexblog Community

August 15th, 2007 • 5 minute read • by

The care & feeding of a butch

August 15th, 2007 • < 1 minute read • by

Butch/femme as a Disruption of the Heteronormative Paradigm

August 14th, 2007 • 2 minute read • by

Further Points on Gender

August 13th, 2007 • 2 minute read • by

Ranting about Gender Binaries & Stereotypes

August 12th, 2007 • 5 minute read • by