Revised: Music To Fuck To

I posted a sexmix last year, in August, but I’m constantly revising my playlists. This is the current sexmix tracklist.

This is not, however, the music I put on for a day of sex – I’d rather have a few albums on shuffle. The current favorites are Me’Shell N’degeOcello’s Bitter, as much Morphine as I have on my hard drive (especially the albums Like Swimming, Yes, and Good), and Chris Isaak’s album Heart Shaped World.

Here’s the sexmix:

  1. Come – Kinnie Starr
  2. All Your Way – Morphine
  3. Sexual Animals – Sarah Fimm
  4. Right Now & Right Here – Keren Ann
  5. Sweet The Sting – Tori Amos
  6. Wrong To Love You – Chris Isaak
  7. Slow Like Honey – Fiona Apple
  8. Beautiful – Meshell Ndegeocello
  9. Volcano – Damien Rice
  10. You Look Like Rain – Morphine
  11. Alright – Kinnie Starr
  12. Grace – Jeff Buckley
  13. Tear You Apart – She Wants Revenge
  14. Counting Bodies Like Sheep To The Rhythm Of The War Drums – A Perfect Circle
  15. Forty Six & 2 – Tool
  16. Sexyback – JT
  17. In Tha Mood – Esthero
  18. Satisfy – Meshell Ndegeocello
  19. Swing It Low – Morphine

So, lay it on me: what would you add? What’s your favorite music to fuck to? What’s the best seduction music? What tracks just need to be on this list?

Published by Sinclair Sexsmith

Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them) is "the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queers" (AfterEllen), who "is in all the books, wins all the awards, speaks at all the panels and readings, knows all the stuff, and writes for all the places" (Autostraddle). ​Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award, and they are the current editor of the Best Lesbian Erotica series. They identify as a white non-binary butch dominant, a survivor, and an introvert, and they live outside Seattle as an uninvited settler on traditional, ancestral, & unceded Snoqualmie land.

27 thoughts on “Revised: Music To Fuck To”

  1. anything by Portishead and OMG when you are having sex with an ex, 'Cross my mind' by Jill Scott…DANG the memories are coming back now…..

  2. I love Heart Shaped World.

    The Zombies-Time of the Season

    Radiohead-Karma Police

    Tom Petty-Here Comes My Girl


    Lenny Kravitz-I Belong To You

    The Smiths-How Soon Is Now

    Marvin Gaye-I Want You

    Heart-Crazy on You

    Nina Simone-I Want a Little Sugar in My Bowl

    Depeche Mode-Everything Counts

    Mazzy Star-Fade Into You

  3. blackandblue says:

    The Magnetic Fields- "Three Way" and "Xavier Says" from Distortion.

    My Bloody Valentine.

  4. riotgrrrl says:

    ooh, so many…most songs by cat power and the gossip, duke spirit (especially "cuts across the land"), interpol "slow hands", anything by make up (really, you've got to try them) and queens of the stoneage.

    my coming out years were spent mainly fucking to kd lang, indigo girls, michelle shocked and phranc, but who didn't?

  5. burn that broken bed – iron & wine & calexico

    my skin – natalie merchant

    fingers – pink

    leather – tori

    naked as we came – iron & wine

    samson – regina spektor

    delilah – the dresden dolls [no clue why.. haha]

    break me – jewel

    come away from it – ani

    intuition – feist

    she says – ani

    then so it is – melissa ferrick

    dryland – chris pureka

    naked – tracy bonham

    paperweight – josh radin & schyuler fisk

    I also love tear you apart and have had sex to it quite a few times.. also, portishead although I don't own any..

    I have more, just can't think of 'em now.. that's a lot anyway.. haha

  6. Caligula—Macy Gray

    Crimson & Clover—Joan Jett

    Float On—Modest Mouse

    Gone Daddy Gone–Violent Femmes

    Salvador—Jamie T

    Shattered—Rolling Stones

    Take Out Some Insurance—Jimmy Reed

    Tainted Love—Soft Cell



    P.S. Agreed on "Seven Nation Army," totally. Now, off to itunes to buy some new music!

  7. Joy says:

    Mmm. "Volcano" and "Grace" are smokin' picks.

    Songs on my SexMix right now include:

    "LA Woman" – The Doors

    "Dazed and Confused" – Led Zeppelin (cliche, I know)

    "She's Not There" – Santana

    "Young Lust" – Pink Floyd

    "Desire" – U2

    "Mojo Pin" – Jeff Buckley

    "No Sugar Tonight/New Mother Nature" – The Guess Who

    "Atlanta" – Stone Temple Pilots

    "Teeth in th Grass" – Iron and Wine

    …Yeah…almost all the music on this list is older than I am. *ahem*

    Favorite artists for sex are Jeff Buckley, The Doors, Fiona Apple, and Damien Rice, with a hint of Ben Harper in there, depending.

  8. Jan says:

    My faves are Tim Buckley and Bryan Ferry/Roxy Music. I LOVE LOVE LOVE Melissa Ferrick's Drive, If I Was Your Man by Joan Osborne and Truly Madly Deeply by Savage Garden.


  9. muse says:

    Evil – Interpol
    Heart in a Cage – The Strokes
    23 – Blonde Redhead
    Man – The Bird and The Bee
    I Am a Wicked Child – Radiohead
    Destroy Everything you Touch – Ladytron
    Somebody Told Me – The Killers
    Seven Nation Army – The White Stripes
    This Modern Love – Bloc Party
    My Coco – Stellastarr*
    Dark Eyes – Iron & Wine & Calexico
    House of Cards – Radiohead
    Someone Great – LCD Soundsystem
    Trust – Gravenhurst
    The Dark of the Matinee – Franz Ferdinand
    Twist – Goldfrapp
    Slow Show – The National
    Technologic – Daft Punk

    and you’ve so motivated me to start poring through my collection for more…

  10. muse says:

    p.s. the one that needs to be on your list is: Seven Nation Army, because it sounds like a fucken badass topping song to me.

  11. Jessie says:

    My sex list is a mix of Massive Attack, Zero 7, Loveage, and a couple tracks off U2's Pop, which in my opinion is thoroughly under-appreciated.

  12. aimee says:

    @ muse…

    We should probably fuck.

    That is all.

  13. Madrisa says:

    Melissa Ferrick's "Drive"

  14. saintchick says:

    Wow such great songs I could not copy them fast enough..

    Here are some of my "I know I'm gettin' a lil somethin' somethin' " songs:

    We Rock The Party… Soul Rebels

    Corkscrew… Morning 40 Federation

    Blue Orchid… White Stripes

    I Feel You.. Depeche Mode

    How Soon is Now…The Smiths

    Big Dumb Sex…Soundgarden

    Ring Finger.. NIN.. A MUST FOR ALL SEX MIXES

    Heart Shaped Glasses…Marilyn Manson

    Beautiful People… Marilyn Manson

    Remedy… Black Crows, Really anything by the Crows will do.

    Dyer Maker… Led Zep

    Misery .. The Cliks

    Soul Back Driver… The Cliks

    Eyes in the Back of My Head… The Cliks

    Hell the entire Cliks CD

  15. muse says:

    I can not believe I forgot:

    Blue Monday – New Order

    E-Pro – Beck

    @ aimee – I guess I'm not the only one who likes to fuck to a good indie rock baseline, eh? no doubt it's a very good measure of compatibility. (^_^)

  16. saintchick says:

    O' wait..

    What about Joan Jett.. Do Ya Wanna Touch Me ? Such a cockteaser song.. I love it..

  17. hussyred says:

    totally agree with the suggestions of dyer maker, lovage, esthero (particularly "in tha mood," sinclair! good pick!), and absolutely any massive attack. also:

    * and you belong – scream club

    * come on closer – jem (this song is the hotness – seriously)

    * come around – m.i.a (not really about sex, but a hot beat)

    * swimming pool – freezepop

    * i've been thinking – cat power & handsome boy modeling school (any song that starts off with the lyrics 'be my boy…be my boy…' is a winner in my book)

    * i want you – common

    * don't look back – telepopmusik

    * breathing light – nitin sawhney

    * mono – life in mono (old and from the great expectations soundtrack …errr… still good sexin' music)

    yay for all the good suggestions! my appropriately named "from makin' out to makin' it" playlist is growing by the second :)

  18. oh! and 'what would happen if we kissed' by meredith brooks

  19. Essin' Em says:

    @ Muse and Aimee; threesome?

    Honestly, I am less about specific songs…I've just found some groups that work for me. Smashing Pumpkins, the Killers, the Back Row, the Cure, etc.

    Mmm. Sex. I need to get me some of that.

  20. dosia says:

    @ Essin': mmm, smashing pumpkins. My gf has been known to call this type of music 'straight boy crap' but some of it's good…

    i also love depeche mode's 'playing the angel' …

    ps: i <3 <3 <3 delilah by the dresden dolls — live they are amazing!

  21. aimee says:

    @ muse –
    baselines and hooks. Hotdamn. : )

    @ Essin’Em –
    I just whacked The Cure on about 20 seconds ago and decided they’d make my list for sure, should I ever get around to writing one. Which I probably won’t. Distractions. Anyway, good call.

  22. Jessie says:

    Oh hell, how did I forget Depeche Mode – I Feel You?

  23. victor/victoria says:

    i would have to add:

    northern state – iluvitwhenya

    outkast – speakerboxx/the love below (the whole double album)

    the beatles – tomorrow never knows

    kelly clarkson – behind these hazel eyes (really!)

    i have fucked to some ridiculous shit though, like "red light special" by TLC, and the spice girls…

  24. gerlinky says:

    Rolling Stones – Almost hear you sigh

    Massive Attack – Unfinished sympathy

    Massive Attack – Teardrop

    ebtg – Only living boy in NY

    Prince – Anotherloverholeinyohead

    Loneliness – Annie Lennox

    And no points for the 'answer's in the title…'

    D'Angelo – Feel like makin' love

  25. wow…

    with a title like "music to fuck to" you need some hot, forgot-where-you-are-and-don't-even-care, can't see straight fucking session music.

    so enjoy as follows.

    Deftones – Change (in the house of flies)

    Massive Attack – Angel

    Godsmack – Voodoo

    Ginuwine – My Pony

    Akon – I wanna Fuck You (instrumental)

    Peaches – Fuck the pain away

    Goldfrapp – Strict Machine

    Massive Attack & Portishead – Teardrop

    Timbaland – Bounce

    Orbital – Halcyon (Prodigy remix)

    DJ Kurvy – Running on Empty

    Kanye West – Love Lock Down (LMFAO remix)

    Godhead – Penetrate

    Now stop kissing, and start sweating

  26. straight girl says:

    "the artist": Thank you! That is exactly the type of music I was looking for. :)

  27. ODNOCER says:

    There’s only one sexy song and beat she will dance to when I’m deep into her…

    RIGHT ROUND – flo rida

    Has an awesome beat, it’s riding time, pounding time… on my back, she’s COWGIRL bouncing up & down, arms in the air side to side. Mmmm… Luv ya Babe!!!

    Follow it up with…


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