essays

This includes my personal understandings of gender theory, queer theory, BDSM theory, power theory, feminist theory, butch/femme dynamic and identity.

Open Relationship Mini Interview with Del: Freedom & Power

December 11th, 2012 • 18 minute read • by

Open Relationship Mini Interview with Roma Mafia: Acknowledging the Worst Parts of Yourself

December 11th, 2012 • 2 minute read • by

Open Relationship Mini Interview with Spark: Free Agents

December 10th, 2012 • 2 minute read • by

Open Relationship Mini Interview with Yarrow: Complex Organic Poly Web

December 10th, 2012 • 5 minute read • by

Gaga Feminism Giveaway! And Q&A with Jack Halberstam

September 19th, 2012 • 5 minute read • by

The Femme Conference in Photos

August 21st, 2012 • < 1 minute read • by

Are You “Femme Enough” For the Femme Conference?

July 25th, 2012 • 5 minute read • by

Kristen & Sinclair Answer Your Questions, Episode 3: “How Can I Be More Open About Kink?”

July 6th, 2012 • < 1 minute read • by

Kristen & Sinclair Answer Your Questions, Episode 2: “How To Have a Successful Threesome”

June 11th, 2012 • < 1 minute read • by

Reconciling the Identities of Feminist & Butch Top

June 10th, 2012 • 6 minute read • by

Kristen & Sinclair Answer Your Questions – Episode 1: “I Want To Be Taken”

May 29th, 2012 • < 1 minute read • by

On Non-Monogamy, Guest Post by Kristen

April 27th, 2012 • 4 minute read • by

Femme Invisibility & Beyond

January 15th, 2012 • 9 minute read • by

“10 Hottest Butches of 2011” & the End of the Butch Lab Project

January 6th, 2012 • 2 minute read • by

Protected: Body Hair, Pronouns, and Other Personal Gender Things I’m Figuring Out

December 14th, 2011 • 6 minute read • by

Protected: On Topping and Taking What I Want

November 1st, 2011 • 2 minute read • by

What is even DISCUSSED at a “femme conference”?

October 28th, 2011 • 5 minute read • by

Recent Sexual Assaults in My Neighborhood

October 26th, 2011 • 3 minute read • by

Ask Me Anything: What to Wear to a BDSM Weekend?

September 14th, 2011 • < 1 minute read • by

A Little Bit About Butch Voices, Butch Nation, and “Masculine of Center”

August 11th, 2011 • 6 minute read • by

Ask Me Anything: How to Give Blow Jobs Without Feeling Stupid

August 4th, 2011 • 2 minute read • by

Living Gender

July 15th, 2011 • 4 minute read • by

Unsolicited Advice to a New Butch (aka The Butch Poem)

June 14th, 2011 • 3 minute read • by

Mini Interview: Just Jess

June 10th, 2011 • 2 minute read • by

My Favorite Binder (More On Butch Bras)

June 10th, 2011 • 2 minute read • by

When “Gender Expression” Means “Masculine”

June 9th, 2011 • 3 minute read • by

Ask Me Anything: What To Do With Old Sex Toys?

June 7th, 2011 • 2 minute read • by

Ask Me Anything: Strapping On For the First Time

June 1st, 2011 • 4 minute read • by

Ask Me Anything: My Favorite Spanking

June 1st, 2011 • < 1 minute read • by

Ask Me Anything: Queer Despite the Straight Relationship

May 31st, 2011 • 3 minute read • by

Cock Confidence: How Not To Slip Out When Strapped On

May 24th, 2011 • 3 minute read • by

Ask Me Anything: Strap-On Positions When Someone is Taller

May 23rd, 2011 • 2 minute read • by

Mini Interview: Jiz Lee

May 18th, 2011 • < 1 minute read • by

Ask Me Anything: Confidence & Getting Girls Off

May 10th, 2011 • 6 minute read • by

What Are Some Sex Positive Words for Women?

May 7th, 2011 • < 1 minute read • by

Ask Me Anything: Origins of ‘Sugarbutch’, and Butch Identity Advice

May 3rd, 2011 • 3 minute read • by

Ask Me Anything: Non-Cheesy “Self-Help”

May 2nd, 2011 • 2 minute read • by

Ask Me Anything: Smut Day

April 29th, 2011 • < 1 minute read • by

Butch Lab’s Symposium #2 is Up!

April 11th, 2011 • 7 minute read • by

Angie Evans: Mini-Interview

March 28th, 2011 • 2 minute read • by

Wendi Kali: Mini-Interview

March 25th, 2011 • 2 minute read • by

Tobi Hill-Meyer: Mini-Interview

March 21st, 2011 • 3 minute read • by

What does ‘Genderqueer’ mean?

March 15th, 2011 • 4 minute read • by

Miriam Zoila Perez: Mini-Interview

March 4th, 2011 • < 1 minute read • by

Still Time to Contribute to Symposium #2

March 2nd, 2011 • < 1 minute read • by

AT: Mini-Interview

February 28th, 2011 • 2 minute read • by

Jenni Olson: Mini-Interview

February 25th, 2011 • < 1 minute read • by

Claudia Rodriguez (aka C-Rod): Mini-Interview

February 21st, 2011 • 3 minute read • by

Raquel Gutierrez: Mini-Interview

February 18th, 2011 • < 1 minute read • by

Butch Lab Symposium #2, Feb/March 2011

February 15th, 2011 • < 1 minute read • by