Archive for December, 2008

Babeland’s Best Sex Toys of 2008

12/31/2008  |  2 Comments

Celebrate the New Year by indulging yourself at Babeland's retail-wide annual four day sale. From January 1 through January 4, almost everything in the store will be 25% off, with many toys marked down up to 40%. Warming refreshments will be served. Stop by a Babeland store in Seattle, New York or Brooklyn.more

Shared Items – December 26, 2008

12/26/2008  |  No Comments

Some of my favorite posts this week from around the blogosphere ... sex, gender, and relationships, queer culture, and more. Browse around, find some new reads.more

Define: “butch in the streets, femme in the sheets”

12/26/2008  |  20 Comments

I ran across the phrase "butch in the streets, femme in the sheets" (again) the other day, and it bothered me (again, still). So I started thinking: It generally means - and correct me if I'm wrong - that this supposed "butch in the streets," once taken to bed, liked to or wanted to get fucked. This is operating on an identity alignment assumption: that butches are tops.more

Protected: letter to a friend

12/26/2008  |  Enter your password to view comments.

Do you remember: once, we were driving in your car, not sure where we were going, perhaps home from writing class, we spent a lot of time in your car then, but I remember precisely where we were, on the freeway under the Convention Center on I-5, and I think we were coming from an event somewhere, downtown maybe. We were talking about our friends, and living our own truths, and you said you can often see the downfalls and shortcomings of those around you. So I asked you what you thought mine was. "Power," you said. "You don't know your own power, your own strength."more

Sugasm #155: Top Three!

12/26/2008  |  1 Comment

The best sexblogger posts from the past week ... and Sugarbutch is in the top three!more

In response to what you want

12/23/2008  |  5 Comments

I would love to watch you dance. From the way that you fuck I can imagine how your body would move, all sweet s-curves and slow gyrations: there is such precision in your physicality, such openness. I can see the way you'd raise your arms to float at shoulder-height, eyes heavy to the floor or on the bodies around you, so tuned in to the music, the beat, the rhythm. You're aural that way, I can feel it in the ways you speak with your body, a language all to itself I am just learning to interpret and read under my fingertips like braille, waves of energy rising falling.more

How to Read Sugarbutch

12/22/2008  |  8 Comments

Welcome to Sugarbutch 4.0! I've made some changes around here in the past two months, and unless you're a purely RSS reader who never comments, you've probably noticed. It's no longer a typical blog layout with the recent posts displayed chronologically on the front page of the site - the layout is more magazine or newspaper style, with the most recent post for each of the categories displayed in different sections. Here's a breakdown of how to navigate through the front page of Sugarbutch Chronicles 4.0.more

Catherine Opie Exhibit at the Guggenheim

12/22/2008  |  15 Comments

I spent Sunday afternoon wandering through the Guggenheim, revisiting the exhibit of the Catherine Opie retrospective. I'm not sure how much of it I can really put into words, which is why I haven't mentioned it yet, here - I've wanted to write up just how powerful it is to see images of queers hanging in a museum gallery. How powerful, but also how strange and revealing, how vulnerable. I stood in the portrait galleries, tears streaming down my face, reaching for my handkercheif, attempting not to notice the way that other galleryviewers were watching me interact with the photographs. Here is a sampling of some of the photograph series included in this amazing retrospective.more

We’re just getting started

12/20/2008  |  4 Comments

I won't tell you much about this date. There is no scene to report, no interesting beginning-middle-end with links to the toys I used (though I did go through three cocks). I won't speak of the ways I took her, the ways she opened and clenched tight. The tender places we both touched and from which we backed off (too too fragile). I won't speak to her mouth, her mouth, her near-perfect mouth and the way she tosses her head back, mouth open, this half-circle arc, when she comes. more

Review: Alumina Revolve

12/20/2008  |  2 Comments

Um ... woah. This is the Alumina Revolve, one of Tantus's new line of aluminum toys, called Alumina, and there are four - all of which unscrew at the center so you can mix-and-match the handles and shapes. I want the whole set.more