* Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica
Book of 12 short stories, all by Sinclair Sexsmith
Published by Maverick Press, 2015
Signed by Sinclair!
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Pen Play: Online Erotica Writing Workshop Series
Quarantine and sheltering in place has been intense this year, and as we move into the fall and winter, it looks like we will be…
Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year Volume 5
Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year Volume 5 Paperback & Ebook Release Date: December 08, 2020 ISBN: 9781627783088 eISBN: 9781627785211 Lesbian Erotica, BDSM, Fiction: LGBTQ…
This Is A Conversation About Duties: On M/s Language
Sinclair’s note: rife & I have been gathering and publishing anonymous statements about the impact of using the words “master” and “slave” in a kink…
I’m Voting Biden/Harris, But I Still Want A Dyke For President
Am I excited about voting for Kamala Harris and Joe Biden? No. Am I going to vote for Kamala Harris and Joe Biden? Abso-fucking-lutely. Of…
The Impact of M/s Language: Voices from the Community
rife and I are starting to compile different statements and quotes from people in the leather, kink, and M/s communities about the use and impact…
On Stepping Away From M/s Language
Content: Discussion of the uses of the words master and slave in a consensual kink context, the politics of using them in community, and the…
Breath as a Healing Tool During COVID-19 with M’kali-Hashiki
M’kali-Hashiki is an erotic breathwork facilitator whose work has been transformative for me personally. She is a leather dyke, polyamorous, and a BDSM practitioner, and,…
Announcing: D/s Book Group & Nonbinary D/s Discussion Group
I accidentally started two groups this month! I say “accidentally” because I intended to create one — a D/s Book Group — but the discussion rife and…
Feeling Yourself: Getting Acquainted With Your New Strap On
So you bought a strap on harness and dildo — great! Exciting! Congratulations on choosing from the dozens of excellent products that are out there,…
Let It All Go, Boy: Part Two, Guest Post by Sonya Bolus
Content: mommy/boy role play, sex. All characters are consenting adults. Read Part One here. ** Mommy: I pull away. Stand up, looking down at you….
Cartography of Control: A Map For Areas of Dominance & Submission
When it comes to control in D/s dynamics, there are a lot of questions to ponder and theorize about. How do you give over even…
A Bullet-Point Decade
Inspired by Maggie Stiefvater, who has quickly become one of my favorite authors after reading the Raven Cycle series, here is a bullet-pointed list of…
Let It All Go, Boy: Part One, Guest Post by Sonya Bolus
“Are you a little boy?”
“Well, yeah. Guess so.” I know I’m blushing again. “But I still like to play hard. Rough. And to serve. I want all that, too.” Long pause, then quietly, “I need it.”
Five Essential Apps for Sex Bloggers
Over the 13 and a half years of blogging about sex (that’s right — since April 2006!), many folks ask me about the tools that…
Best Lesbian Erotica
I love this series. I have been honored to have my stories published in it, and to be an editor for multiple volumes. Editions I’ve…
What Are You Going To Do With That Women, Gender, Sexuality Studies Degree?
I wrote & performed a poem called “What I’m Going To Do With My Women* Studies Degree” at the Gender, Women, Sexuality Studies graduation in…
Announcing: D/s Playground! Summer 2019
D/s Playground is a course for dominants, switches, submissives, folks who are curious, folks who aren’t sure where they fall, and anyone in between. Starts May 2019!
Dear (Cis) People Who Put Your Pronouns On Your “Hello My Name Is” Name Tag
Dear cis people who put your pronouns on your “hello my name is” nametags:
Thank you.
When you do that, I feel more comfortable putting they/them.
And I feel much more comfortable talking to you, bc you already tell me you know a little about the gender binary.
Love,
me
Making Your Strap-On Part of Your Body
When someone straps on, it’s easy for it to feel like an awkward protrusion rather than something connected to their actual body. But there are ways to practice embodying a strap-on so it feels more like you, which can then make it feel more exciting and more connective when using it during play.
Top Hot Butches
The 2009 List 1. Rachel Maddow Photo: Vogue Magazine Ah, Dr. Maddow: in the past six months she has put butch chic in the New York Times Magazine, made…
Things I Didn’t Know I Didn’t Know: Part One
“Feel it fully.”
“Don’t shy away from your feelings.”
“Let all your emotions flow through you without getting attached to them.”
“Don’t push them away or resist them, they’ll just get stronger.”
“Just be with the pain.”
How many times have I heard these things? I’ve been studying self-actualization spiritual self-help psychological philosophy things in the “transformational communities” since I was in high school — that’s a good 20 years now. I couldn’t even count how many times I’ve heard these, or things like these. These kinds of aphorisms are so heavily embedded in almost all the narratives about bettering the self.
I have taken them in and internalized them and really truly believed that that is what I’ve been doing all along.
But I was wrong.
The Mystical and The Profane
In late July, I spent five nights near Albuquerque, New Mexico, at a zen center on a hot springs. Body Trust held our fifth annual…
Writing Ourselves Whole: Transformation, Healing, & Queer Sex
I am thrilled to share a beautiful interview with Jen Cross, author of Writing Ourselves Whole: Using the Power of Your Own Creativity to Recover…
A Ten Year Retrospective: Portraits by Bill Wadman
I was in New York City in November and met up with Bill Wadman, an amazing portrait photographer and friend of mine. As we were…
Erotica, Journal Entries, and Feminist Kink: What I Wrote in 2017
The Novellas! Getting these ebooks compiled, uploaded, and released into the world was a HUGE accomplishment of 2017. They weren’t actually written in 2017, but…
The Personal Blog Is Not Dead
I’ve been writing personal journal entries online again. For a while, it was on a completely different WordPress subdomain, but recently I imported all those…
2017 Sex Blog Lists
A couple big news sex blog roundups came out today — Cosmopolitan listed this site at #2 on their “7 Best Places To Read Literotica…
Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year Volume 6
Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year Volume 6 Paperback & Ebook Release Date: January 4, 2022 ISBN: 9781627783132 eISBN: 9781627785266 Lesbian Erotica, BDSM, Fiction: LGBTQ…
Which harnesses work with double dildos?
Featured image l-r: Feeldoe Realdoe; Injoyus; Double by BS Atelier; Fuze Tango Double-Ender Dear Mr. Sexsmith, My girlfriend is visiting soon and is buying a…
The Best Uncut Strap-Ons: Uncut #1 by Tantus & Ellis by New York Toy Collective
Let’s go ahead and get it out of the way: There is no silicone strap on that I know of which has foreskin that actually…
Femming the Strap-On, Guest Post by Artemisia FemmeCock
I used to think I wasn’t gay enough to have a cock. I cringe at that now, wondering what the hell it even means to…
Five Blow Jobs on the Me & My Boi blog tour
Sacchi Green’s new erotica anthology Me & My Boi is finally out! It’s been multiple years in the making, and it includes one of my…
Review: 4-in-1 Natural—Pack, Pee, Play, & Pleasure from FreeToM Prosthetics
I don’t usually review or play with very many “prosthetics” because, well, I’ll be honest: they are usually incredibly expensive. But recently I’ve noticed a…
A Personal History of Best Lesbian Erotica
Best Lesbian Erotica 20th Anniversary Edition is out now, and I’m part of the blog tour editor Sacchi Green has organized on it’s behalf. The…
Introducing View From The Top: My BDSM Journey
I’m so excited to have started writing a column over on Autostraddle called “View From The Top,” detailing my BDSM journey from being a bottom…
On the Importance of Queer, Women Centered, & Feminist Sex Toy Shops (Map)
When I was traveling around to toy stores and bookstores across North America for the release of Say Please, I started keeping a list of…
Microagressions & Misgendering: “Right this way, ladies.”
Interacting with service industry folks—in restaurants, at retail stores, at airports, schools, or health care offices—can be daunting and exhausting for genderqueer folks like me….
Read These Books! (Perhaps Some Holiday Gift Ideas?)
I read a lot—and of course I obsessively read queer and sex-positive and revolutionary pleasure books all the time to figure out what’s going on…
The Best Queer Sex Blogs
A friend of mine emailed me this week asking for recommendations for other queer erotica online. I emailed her back with some links off the…
Review: What’s the Best Wand Vibrator?
In general, I’m not much of a fan of vibrators. I used to be—small, buzzy egg vibrators were some of the first sex toys I…
The Tender Sweet Young Thing, Guest Post by Xan West
Dedicated to the members of the Church of the Movie Musical As a heads up, this story includes descriptions of gender play, blade play, edge…
“Submission is mine to define for myself.” Interview with Miss Piggy
Miss Piggy was a player in Submissive Playground in 2014, and is signed up to join us again. She is the Social Activities Director of…
7 Tips For Flirting As A Submissive
One of the most common questions I get asked from submissives is, “How do I flirt with dominants!?” And while learning some basic flirting tips…
“I found a sense of clarity about my path:” Interview with Shiris
Shiris was a “player” in the first round of Submissive Playground, and after that she participated she came back to do an interview about masochism…
Workshops
What’s happening in 2023? The 2023 schedule is still to be announced! Check back in January 2023 for the schedule. Calendar of Upcoming Events What…
Table of Contents
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100 Bedtime Strokes (Mistress Elise Winter & morgan #2)
“May I sit?” morgan’s voice surprised Elise; she hadn’t seen him approach. She looked up from her book and blinked, then composed her face and…
The Bootblack Boy (Mistress Elise Winter & morgan #1)
Elise is so over these regular play parties. She sits in the corner drinking sparkling water through a straw—no need to muss her lipstick over…
DJ’s Birthday Gangbang (Kai & DJ #4)
I have always wanted to throw someone a gangbang. And by someone, I mean DJ. Maybe because they’ve thrown a few for me—it’s amazing how…