Sinclair Sexsmith

Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them) is a queer trans butch writer focusing on sexualities, genders, kink, and relationships. Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award, and they are the editor of 5 editions of Best Lesbian Erotica. Their latest book is Your Year in Kink: A Workbook to Reflect, Plan, & Create Your Kink Life. They lead the online erotica writing group, Writing Spicy, annually.

Is psychological kink play “healthy”?

August 25th, 2014 • 3 minute read • by

I need you to take a little more for me.

August 14th, 2014 • 5 minute read • by

The Sugarbutch Guide to Cock Confidence: Soft Packing (Part 2)

August 7th, 2014 • 4 minute read • by

The Sugarbutch Guide to Cock Confidence: Soft Packing (Part 1)

July 31st, 2014 • 5 minute read • by

Where I Come From

July 21st, 2014 • 4 minute read • by

The Girl in the Red Dress (Excerpt from Sex Still Spoken Here)

July 20th, 2014 • 7 minute read • by

Protected: Daddy’s Good Boy

July 11th, 2014 • 7 minute read • by

Bored Kinkster Blues

June 30th, 2014 • 3 minute read • by

Happy Pride! Last Chance Submissive Playground Sale

June 27th, 2014 • 2 minute read • by

Free download: Submissive Starter Kit

June 27th, 2014 • 2 minute read • by

“I know I’m submissive. But where do I start?” aka “I just read Fifty Shades of Grey and I want THAT.”

June 26th, 2014 • 5 minute read • by

What you should know about privacy, secret identities, and kink communities

June 24th, 2014 • 8 minute read • by

A Little Note About Father’s Day

June 13th, 2014 • 2 minute read • by

Submissive Playground Winner!

June 11th, 2014 • < 1 minute read • by

Review: Butt toys from Adam + Eve

June 7th, 2014 • 2 minute read • by

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: I’m a sub, but my partner is not a dom. What do I do?

June 6th, 2014 • 4 minute read • by

Protected: This week in photos: porn, pancakes, and green things.

June 5th, 2014 • < 1 minute read • by

Protected: Two Weeks Ago in photos: California staycation

June 4th, 2014 • < 1 minute read • by

The Identity Project: “Butch daddy poet” and “Genderqueer leather boy”

May 30th, 2014 • 2 minute read • by

Review: Nipple Suction Toys (via the Stockroom)

May 28th, 2014 • 6 minute read • by

Protected: From the archives: The most holy things I do

May 22nd, 2014 • 5 minute read • by

Check it out: New “Cock Confidence Guide”

May 20th, 2014 • < 1 minute read • by

Protected: April in photos, part two: IMsL, green hills hike, and some personal moments

May 14th, 2014 • < 1 minute read • by

Fantasy, Gardens, & Politics of Butch Identity in April’s Book Roundup

May 6th, 2014 • 5 minute read • by

Protected: This month in photos, part one: in which I turn 35 and visit Seattle

April 28th, 2014 • < 1 minute read • by

Giveaway! Want a membership for Indie Porn Revolution? Of course you do.

April 25th, 2014 • < 1 minute read • by

Happy Birthday, rife!

April 24th, 2014 • 2 minute read • by

Treehouse Poem

April 21st, 2014 • 2 minute read • by

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: I struggle with my feminist beliefs and my bedroom preferences … help!

April 18th, 2014 • 7 minute read • by

Protected: Vulnerability is a challenge

April 15th, 2014 • 7 minute read • by

The Longest Running Queer Porn Site, Courtney Trouble’s Indie Porn Revolution, is the April Feature

April 9th, 2014 • 2 minute read • by

Protected: From the archives: You’re Fucking Mine

April 4th, 2014 • 6 minute read • by

March Book Roundup: Sex, sex, and more sex

April 3rd, 2014 • 8 minute read • by

Protected: This week in photos: That green spring color

March 26th, 2014 • 2 minute read • by

The Beautiful Permission

March 25th, 2014 • < 1 minute read • by

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: How Do I Use My Girlfriend for My Pleasure?

March 19th, 2014 • 6 minute read • by

Counting Down

March 17th, 2014 • < 1 minute read • by

Protected: This week in photos: Playing tourist in SF

March 10th, 2014 • < 1 minute read • by

Review: Aneros Evi G-Spot Massager

March 9th, 2014 • 3 minute read • by

Protected: “And bowing not knowing to what”

March 5th, 2014 • 3 minute read • by

Ready to explore “embodiment”? Three workshop offerings in Seattle & San Francisco in March & April

March 4th, 2014 • 6 minute read • by

When I’m getting off

March 3rd, 2014 • 2 minute read • by

To All the Tops Who Are Afraid to Make a Move

February 25th, 2014 • 6 minute read • by

Protected: This week in photos: Yosemite & back

February 24th, 2014 • < 1 minute read • by

Protected: This week in photos: Snow, mostly

February 13th, 2014 • < 1 minute read • by

It’s Valentine’s Day, so here’s some Desert Island Toys

February 12th, 2014 • < 1 minute read • by

February Feature: Crash Pad Series & strap-on queer porn scenes you gotta see

February 11th, 2014 • 3 minute read • by

On the road again … Portland + Princeton

February 4th, 2014 • 2 minute read • by

Is genderqueer (or butch) a stepping stone to transitioning?

February 3rd, 2014 • 5 minute read • by

Protected: This week in photos: freakish Bay Area winter

February 1st, 2014 • < 1 minute read • by