Giveaway: RodeoH Harness!

Hot on the heels of my RodeoH harness review, I was chatting with one of the two girls from the good ol’ Mission District of San Francisco behind RodeoH, and talked ’em in to making a RodeoH harness available to Sugarbutch readers via a giveaway.

Your choice of size and color: Black/red, black/dark gray, or black/gray, in waist sizes 23-24″, 25-26″, 27-29″, 30-32″, 33-35″, 36-38″, 39-41″.

Want it?

Leave a comment in this thread with something about your first strap-on harness, the most exciting place you ever had strap-on sex, if you’ve ever packed out in public, the name of your favorite harness, or why you want to win this … or something else entirely. You must enter a valid email address to win (otherwise, how can I tell you that you won?).

One commenter will be chosen at random on Monday, 24 October.

If you can’t wait, you can go right now to the RodeoH online store and enter code “SexSmith” to get $10 off your purchase. They’re only $45, so that’s a pretty good deal.

Thanks, RodeoH!

Published by Sinclair Sexsmith

Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them) is "the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queers" (AfterEllen), who "is in all the books, wins all the awards, speaks at all the panels and readings, knows all the stuff, and writes for all the places" (Autostraddle). ​Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award, and they are the current editor of the Best Lesbian Erotica series. They identify as a white non-binary butch dominant, a survivor, and an introvert, and they live outside Seattle as an uninvited settler on traditional, ancestral, & unceded Snoqualmie land.

70 thoughts on “Giveaway: RodeoH Harness!”

  1. Alex says:

    I recently moved back to Toronto and changed my location on OKCupid. Mere seconds later, an old friend of mine from university found and messaged me, and it turns out that we both love hot sex? And he’s a big time bottom, which is delightful because I’m a big time top. It’s cosmic. So.. that’s why I’d like to win. Support my cosmic sex habits.

  2. Ra says:

    The first time I had strap-on sex it was a giggle fest. Both of us were new to it and both of us were excited about it, but our awkwardness manifested through non-stop laughter. Looking back, that was a great way to try something for the first time.

  3. Steez says:

    My first experience using a strap? Lol, its funny because the strap wasn’t mine, but it was a loyal friend who at the time never used it. The experience of this was on me & my ex girlfriends patio right outside of our room. After the sex was over I felt like a real [wo]man, lol. Using a strap for the first time on a girlfriend that was about 7 years older than me and to have her like it? I was really winning. After that experience it was great. Woman iv dealt with after her would always ask the question “Do you have a strap??” My answer of course is no because I don’t even own one. Honestly, straps + harnesses are expensive and right now running a business I don’t have the extra cash. So when I saw this I thought to myself “Hey, this would be a perfect start to getting one”. So to make this long story short I haven’t had one yet nor have I used one since. So these are legit reasons why I really wanna win this giveaway challenge. Good opportunities from good people. :)

  4. C says:

    I went to a super tiny nerdy college where everyone had a tendency to over-share.
    My girlfriend and I decided we wanted to try out strap-on sex so she ordered a beginner hardness + dildo on the internet. I was in class when it arrived in the mail, so she tried it on and decided to show off to all her bro friends.
    She wandered over to the section of the dorm that was as close to a frat as existed at this school. They proceeded to all try on the strap-on (over their clothes) and run around. It was hilarious.
    By the time I showed up, they were practically pushing us back to my girlfriend’s room. “You have to tell us how it goes!!” They were so excited.

  5. Lisa says:

    My girlfriend and I are both pretty excited about strap-on sex, which is the next thing on our to-try list. It’s something new for me, so I don’t have any super-cool stories to answer your question with…! (File this under “something else entirely.”)

  6. Emil says:

    I’m organizing a Crashpad screening for my school’s Coalition for Gender Awareness club. I want a RodeoH.

  7. A says:

    The first harness my partner and I used was super cheap and made of nylon with a metal o ring, we sprang for an expensive cock but couldn’t bring ourselves to purchase a spare parts or leather harness.

    The first time we tried using the strap on it went fine, until after when I realized that the o ring had a tiny gap and had left me with a tiny tear on my outer labia. Sex related injury!

    Needless to say we immediately threw the cheap one away and went for the washable and comfortable spare parts harness.

    I would love to surprise my partner with the rodeo harness.


  8. Elizabeth says:

    My first time having strap-on sex was with my boyfriends cock and harness with him on the receiving end. It was super hot and gender-bending. I would love to finally own my own harness and I love the look of the RodeoH!

  9. Alo says:

    First words out of my mouth after putting a strap-on for the first time, “I feel simultaneously powerful and absurd. Is this what it’s like to be a man.”

    I still wonder.

  10. E. E. says:

    The timing for this couldn’t be better because I’ve been spending the last few weeks trying to see if I can scrape together enough money to buy a harness. I am a poor law student and I am also apply to masters programs. Not a cheap process, so I’m pretty much broke and not having to pay for a harness would be great. I’ve never used a strap on before although nothing turns be on more then that thought of doing so. I do pack all the time though although right now I’m just putting my packer in a sock with a hole cut in it and pinning it my underwear.

    so yeah . . . that’s my story.

  11. sterhymeswithtree says:

    First strap-on was horrible. We picked the cheapest vegan harness we could find, and it just would NOT stay in place. Constant re-adjustment is not sexy. My partner and I were just in exploration mode, so it didn’t matter whether things worked or didn’t work, we were just trying things out and everything was fun, but we didn’t try it again for years. By then we knew enough to research our sex toys before buying and to pay for what we wanted, though the harness we got was actually quite cheap (and vegan!)

    Before trying it with my partner I decided to give it a “dry run” and masturbate while wearing it to see what kind of control I had and whether or not I could get off while I was wearing it. Excellent idea! It gave me a lot of confidence when we finally played together and we had a lot of fun.

  12. willow naeco says:

    I love my thigh harness because it’s simple to use and leaves easy access to the person who is strapped.

  13. Sullivan says:

    The first time I tried strap-on sex, I would up fucking the back of my girlfriend’s knee.

    That is all.

  14. Bailey says:

    My first experience using a strap on was pure hilarity. Inappropriate. Wrong. Intoxicated. Clumsy.

    This was my second lover. We’d been together just a few months. I had purchased our first strap on, and was on a tight tight budget. SO — it was a three strapped elastic thing that freaking SNAPPED onto the base of the only cock it worked with, a hollow thing of decent size and shape. Really the best thing about it.

    We started, and it kept slipping. Middle strap came loose. To hell with it, keep going, right? Try to make this work?

    It keeps slipping, upward. I keep ooching downwards to keep its target area stationary, even if the cock is now, well, sticking out of my bellybutton.

    It keeps working its way up, til it’s lodged in the middle of my chest. Finally! Leverage! Stability! I go to it with vigor. It seems to be working.

    Until — she looks down at me, my head at her waist, and says “This must be what its like to have sex with a midget!”

    Hilarity ensues. The strap on never got used again. Ever.

  15. wendy says:

    my favorite, a sparkly red nylon aslan supergirl harness, my favorite place, the shower at my boyfriend’s house. <3

  16. carlye says:

    My girlfriend introduced me to your website and Ive been fascinated eversince. Your writing is so wonderful.

  17. stonefemme says:

    My amazing bf has decided his old, broke-down, too small harness plain old sucks and with him out of work and job-hunting and me finishing up grad school, a new harness hasn’t been affordable. while non-strap-on sex is super hot and fulfilling, I do miss a little butch cock in my life. Won’t you please throw a femme a bone?

  18. Best place? In the front seat of my Girl’s new pick up truck, parked in a public lot behind my vet’s office – a lot shared with a church. We went to “go parking,” and within minutes I was naked, hands bound above the headrest, and She, with only her fly open, was making me forget to be afraid of being caught. Oh. My. God. We tried again the next week, behind a grade school by her house, only to be interrupted by a late-night janitor, stunned to silence after he banged on the truck and two middle-aged women sat up…

  19. Ali says:

    Living in rural Georgia at 17 and queer was not ideal, but convincing a straight friend to purchase a strap-on for me from the local porn shop was priceless. Though she came back with a piece make with purple sparkles–NOT my style shall we say…

    Most exciting strap-on sex was on the dyke (oh yeah) in Provincetown, surrounded by fog and chill.

    And I would Loooove this one for its red peek-a-boo! Mmmm

  20. Rusty says:

    The RodeoH harness looks like the most perfect harness for me ever. I like strapping-on, but feel kind of silly/uncomfortable/not myself using a typical harness. My solution has been to wear American Apparel style briefs and utilize the fly hole to keep my cock in place. This makes me feel totally hot, but my girl says the fucking feels less deep for her since the briefs don’t provide as much stability as a harness does. I love the look of the Rodeoh and think it would be the perfect answer to our form vs. function predicament!

  21. LissaB says:

    The funniest story about strapon sex can be found on my twitter feed. Recently a friend tweeted that she wanted to buy a strap-on harness, but didn’t know where to start. I proceeded with a series of 13 tweets asking questions to narrow it down and then giving her my take on several different harnesses.

    The exchange was 13 tweets long and ended with “Who knew the Femme knew so much about harnesses, eh?”

  22. Ash says:

    i haven’t yet had the opportunity to use a strap on, but i’ve been looking into finally purchasing one. i think the rodeoh harness would be a great way to ease into strap on sex without having to worry about chafing or straps fitting properly. this harness seems like it would fit really well, looks awesome, and would probably be great for a first harness! i’d love to win it!

  23. Nik A says:

    Hottest strap on sex? For me, it was with the love of my life. We had just started dating, and found ourselves alone in the store she worked at, after hours. Store front was all windows. Things started to get heavy with her sitting on my lap in this big ole leather chair. She feels that familiar bulge, pulls it out and rode me right there for the world to see, that is, if they were watching.

  24. m says:

    My first time using a strap on was in a small cabin in the middle of a state park. It was my first trip with my girlfriend, and both of us were totally new to using a strap on. Our first time was full of nervous laughter and uncertainty, but it was great and it’s only gotten better since then.

  25. Jen says:

    The first time was with a pretty lame harness, but an amazing purple glitter toy. My straight girl friends call it my unicorn horn…

  26. tuesday says:

    I still haven’t ever used a strap-on, but last halloween we made a boy friend of ours use a super cheap one we got as a free with purchase thing from hustler to simulate a blow job with a jack-o-lantern. It was so funny I’m not sure anything this halloween will compare.

  27. Anagrams 7 says:

    I love sucking my girlfriend’s cock.

  28. beforethedawn09 says:

    I have been ogling these. I’m a baby butch who has been waiting for the chance (money, lack of women) to use a strapon on a cute girl…

    I was on the receiving end once and it was not my thing. But I think they’re really really reallyyyy hot and that these ones are amazing.

  29. rachel says:

    … there is nothing hotter than having a date night with my partner where she gets all dressed up in a suit, smelling like cologne and looking like the lawyer she is, and at dinner i put my hand on her thigh and realize she’s packing.

    makes me want to get all pretty woman on her ass.

  30. Ruby says:

    i guess i started out pretty well. i live in toronto and come as you are was right across the street from my then girlfriends work.
    i’m still rocking the aslan leather harness i bought a couple years ago.
    i really love it.
    if only i could learn how to get off while fucking with it.
    but a packing harness has been on my wishlist for a while.

  31. LH says:

    I remember the day the package came in the mail with a discreet return address… I was nervous about it and wasn’t sure if I’d like my first strap-on. I carried it upstairs to my bedroom, shut the door, and unwrapped it like it might break in my hands. I slid it into my pants, and immediately a rush of energy flooded my pelvis like a dam had just been lifted for the first time. So grateful for that day. :)

  32. Ren says:

    I’ve never used a harness because they’re so expensive, but my partner and I talk about me wearing a harness and it really turns us on. This looks like a fun way to start out with harnesses and I like that I could pack with it too. I’d really like to win the rodeoH and then I’ll have some stories for you. ;D

  33. n says:

    i guess this would be something else entirely….i’m feeling shy today. i promise something better next time if i win!

  34. Kae says:

    My first time using a strap-on was in a cheap, sleazy motel, after splurging on our first dildo, with my first lover and current partner (way back in high school). Now, it seems tiny, but that little blue dildo seemed huge at that time and we were a bit clumsy at first. I also wasn’t sure if I was supposed to like it so much, as a lesbian. Years later, we still love strap-on sex, definitely need a new harness and my girlfriend has started packing (thanks for those reviews too!), so this would be a great addition to our new gender-bending toy collection! My favorite times with a strap-on involve my partner, Goodfella (thanks for the review!!!), and our balance of rough sex/lovemaking. I’d love to try the rodeoH!

    P.S. Just read your past post and once I’m done with college midterms, will go back and comment, cause I love your blog and it’s helped me a lot over the years.

  35. Just says:

    My first strap on was so much fun. It was a classic leather strappy one. I switched to this kind that were like shorts. They fit funny and the control was weird. I must say I prefer leather so far (except on the comfort level, shorts totally took gold). Strapped sex is the best.

  36. Bobbie says:

    My first strap-on was purchased because my biggest crush, who had insisted she was straight for 3 years, one day IMed me out of the blue to suggest that I buy a strap-on. I suggested that she come with me to Ptown to pick it out. She did. And then we tried it out. :)

  37. Nico says:

    I suppose we could call it…low-rent packing? Lol. My girlfriend dressed up as a sleazy pitbull-type character for a costume party, and packed with pairs of socks.
    On the way home, slightly refreshed, she reached into her pants and threw the socks over a fence. Class.

  38. ra says:

    I love the idea of this harness. I like packing in public, and like the idea of being ‘ready’ wherever I am.

  39. Sid Need says:

    When I figured out I could come using a strap-on, it changed my sexual world. It eventually led me to packing (a lot:), binding, and basically playing with gender in so many new ways. I am so grateful for this blog, Sexis, Aslan leather, gender and sex workshops, and so many others for helping me and expanding my mind on what has been a fantastic journey so far.

  40. SA says:

    Well, I like trying new things, so…

  41. Ninja says:

    This product sounds too cool – we could finally have some boy-on-boy action with my lover that we’ve (or at least I’ve) been dreaming about…

    I have to check this out.

  42. e says:

    So, a while ago my girl and I went shopping for a new strap. The old one just didn’t do anything for me ~ didn’t fit right, wasn’t comfortable, just wasn’t working. I really, really like the new one and have been using it enthusiastically!

    Now, I have to ask a question. Does anyone else name their dildos? Surely I’m not the only one with that particular quirk. My vibrators have also been named ~ Mr Thumb and The Armadillo. Our current dildos are Timmy, the little, swirly blue one and Jeremiah, the hefty big boy.

    Tragically, on Thursday evening, we had an unexpected and alarming occurrence. We were in the groove, going to town, getting close, when I murmured, “Turn over, baby.” I sat up on my knees, started to pull out, and looked down. Holy Shit on Fire! Timmy broke off! In my girl! The only thing holding him on was the condom!

    Naturally, I did what a good partner does. Kept my mouth shut, grabbed the broken end and finished the job with my hand doing the work. Then, after the moaning subsided, I confessed. We killed poor little Timmy.

    We laughed about that for quite a while. It’s still bringing a smile to my lips. I would love to try out the RodeoH… Timmy’s replacement, Thomas, is still young and strong.

  43. hank says:

    Our first toy was our feeldoe, so we went a long time without ever getting a strap-on. We got the spareparts pete recently though, and it is glorious on my boy. now it’s even harder to keep my hands off her in public, which she seems to enjoy. The RodeOH looks like it fits in that same category of hard-to-keep-my-hands-away, so obviously I’ve been lusting after it since i saw first saw it.

  44. Mountain Boy says:

    I had a strap on before I even knew how to use my cock. Before I even really knew that I had a cock. Back then it was a novelty, a toy. When I met my girl all of that changed. She made my cock so hard it wasn’t an option. I ditched the old gstring harness for three long strips of cloth. I felt naked and raw. Ready.

  45. Rachel W says:

    I loved buying my SpareParts harness from Babeland a number of years ago and have used it well – I particularly enjoy being able to throw it in the laundry – but would love to try something new.

  46. Well. I have a velvet harness from GV. I am not stellar using it, but I think I would love the RodeoH or something like it- it has got to be more comfortable! :)

  47. E says:

    Got my first one at Oh My in Northampton Ma about 6 years ago, still going strong almost 6 years later. Gotta love leather.

  48. My two favorites right now were both made by my sweetie. One of them is super sturdy all black woven strapping. Its definitely a better-made harness, but somehow I find myself always going back to the first kind of odd one she ever made me <3

  49. Edison says:

    I have packed in public. The first time I did I was so nervous! I went to the local library, nothing big, but you’d thought I was walking naked down Main Street. I do it regularly now.

  50. C says:

    Though I have never used a strap-on, it is on my list of future adventures. Winning this would make it happen so much sooner.

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