Hello! I’m Sinclair

Photo by Lauren Cohen-Frankel at Feelmore 510 in Oakland

I’m a writer and teacher, and I lead workshops online and at colleges about using identity and power as tools for liberation. That’s a fancy way of saying that I write and study ways of becoming more myself. Through fields like feminism, queerness, trans & genderqueer genders, BDSM & kink, the transformative power of creative expression, and a variety of spiritual practices, I study myself and the places where I interact with the world.

After years of studying erotic embodiment, I’m part of a collaborative that founded Body Trust in 2014 with the mission to do more radically inclusive erotic embodiment work.

Currently, I travel during the fall and spring around to colleges and give workshops, and I run ecourses online regularly, including Submissive Playground an 8-week course jam-packed with curated content from D/s experts and guests, each of the 4 units has materials to consume, an experiment to do (on your own or with a dominant), and homework to complete.

About the site

Sugarbutch was started in April, 2006 and received many awards, and has been highly regarded as one of the highest ranking sex blogs online.

Site Credits:

Design by me andrife / Rowdy Ferret Design. Hosted on Dreamhost using WordPress and the Wild Book theme.

The official Mx. Sexsmith bio

Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them) is “the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queer women” (AfterEllen), who “is in all the books, wins all the awards, speaks at all the panels and readings, knows all the stuff, and writes for all the places” (Autostraddle). ​Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for the Lambda Literary Award. Sinclair identifies as a white non-binary butch dominant, a survivor and an introvert. Follow all their writings — public and private — at patreon.com/mrsexsmith.

Want to get in touch?

Y’all, I get so much email. So. Much. And I spend a lot of time answering it, but it still piles up. In an attempt to make my email inbox more manageable, please use the contact form to get in touch.

You can also reach me on Twitter, I’m @MrSexsmith, or Facebook, under fb.com/sugarbutch.

My email address is [email protected], but I’d much prefer you use the contact form—it helps keep my inbox under control. Thank you!

26 thoughts on “Hello! I’m Sinclair”

  1. Jan says:

    I love your blog, Sinclair!

  2. Blade says:

    Dude, you are a real dude's butch! I'm wanting a password to read the protected stuff. Would be psyched! Thanks, Blade

  3. Azaan says:


  4. Rose says:

    I love your writing – what a breath of fresh air! – love your ties and your latest posting too. Looking forward to reading more – could you please send me a password?

  5. Jeni Quirke says:

    You are a great writer x

  6. B.T says:

    I just found this website and already it has changed my life.

  7. Sarah says:

    I found your site and I'm pretty sure I want to marry you. Thanks for having this space out there. Can I have the password, since I am a pretty femme who is terribly intrigued by your writing?

  8. Politico says:

    I have spent several hours over the past few days reading your posts. I must say they are incredible. I am a butch feminist and find your gender writings very interesting but who are we kidding, I have really become addicted to the smut. I would be so appreciative of a password if you should see fit.

  9. CB from Germany says:

    I tried to mail you a few butch pics of my humble self plus some feedback via the contact-me-link on this site.Unfortunately my mail returned, please send me your correct mailaddress.

  10. Chrissy says:

    can i have accessssss please??

    wanna read.

  11. Jane says:

    I'm not butch, and I'm not a lesbian, but your blog is AMAZING to me. You are a fabulous writer and you make me wish I was "traveling in your circle." I think that I will so enjoy reading your stories and exploring a side of me that has yet to be, um…"tapped" :0)

  12. Julia says:

    Your insight is awesome, after having read some of your posts on the difficulty of explaining/defending the Butch-femme dynamic I have been better able to explain to my straight and even confused queer friends, as a Femme I am constantly asked why don't I just be with a man, it can be very difficult to explain that "yes i am a lesbian, but I want a big 'ol butch. I would love to have access to your protected entries, and I am looking forward to your future entries, thanks for sharing your insight with the queer community.

  13. Kate says:

    Hi. i would love a password to the protected posts. if the unprotected ones are this good, what can the protected ones be hiding?

  14. A. says:

    Hey man, reading your smut entries during medical school classes makes lecture MUCH more entertaining. I need more to read so I would love to get into the password protected posts.


  15. Christina says:

    Great writing-frank and funny.

  16. joeycherrypop says:

    Your writing is glorious, celebratory, proud and so, so hot, where have you been all my life?! Much love. X

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