Wednesday, April 29th, 2026 is Sugarbutch’s 20th anniversary. Wild!!
Twenty years is a long time to be writing — let alone writing on a website, about sex, kink, & relationships. (If I could go back and give my 27 year old self some advice, I would!) It’s long enough that some of you have been here since the beginning — back when blogging was the thing, before social media ate everything, before “content creator” existed as a job title. Long enough that others of you found your way here recently and have been moving through the archives like it’s a library you finally got a card for.
I have a few things up my sleeve for you to celebrate this anniversary (you’ll find out). As I was reflecting on what would be meaningful for me, I realized what I would most like is to hear from you all.
Here are two ideas — you are welcome to do both, or whichever one resonates, or neither, or something else entirely.
1. Make a post wishing Sugarbutch happy anniversary on 4/29
It would mean a lot to have some noise in the world on April 29th, the actual anniversary date. If Sugarbutch has been part of your life, your practice, your queerness, your kink, your writing, your whatever: make a post. Put it on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Bsky, your own site, or wherever you share things. (Please tag me, if you can, so I can see it! Or email it to me, sinclair@sugarbutch.net, if you’d prefer.)
If you feel so inclined to write things about your relationship to Sugarbutch and the writing here, I’d love that. If you want to share some links to your favorite writings of mine, or talk about my books, or what it has meant to attend my workshops, I welcome all kinds. (Selfishly) I want to see it, but it might also let other people know this place exists and has been here for twenty years. That kind of visibility is how queer writing survives.
2. Fill out the Sugarbutch Anniversary Questionnaire
I want to know what Sugarbutch has meant to you, and I want to mark this anniversary with your voices in it, not just mine.
All the questions are optional (except one), so answer as many or as few as you’d like to. Take five minutes. There are no wrong answers.
There’s also a space to leave a note — a memory, a wish, whatever feels right. I’ll be reading every single one.
This form will be available until May 10th, and then I’ll be compiling the responses (and sharing some of what you allow me to share).
Thank you!
