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Review: The Tantus Realdoe

I’ve had a Tantus Feeldoe in my toy box for a few years now, and aside from reviewing it, I almost never get it out. There were quite a few things that didn’t quite work, then: that there isn’t enough control without harnessing it, that I don’t love something inside me, that it’s hard to ‘drive’ when on top (without a harness, anyway). I thought it would be good for staying on my back and having someone straddle on top of me, or for times when my harness was just too far away, but the truth is I just have too many good cocks to bother.

But then, along came the new and improved version, the Realdoe, one of the hot new items in Babeland’s Gender Expression category. I kind of expected it to fall into the same category, but it doesn’t. I use it. A lot. Mostly, however, just when I’m alone.

I didn’t expect it to become a staple in my own getting off practices, but I really like it. I guess the combination of using a Pure Wand in the last few years (I love the weight of it) and also wanting to have something to jerk off while I’m getting off that makes the Realdoe excellent.

It probably helps that it’s a bit smaller than the other Feeldoe I have—which, I am reminding myself, they call stout for a reason. The Realdoe one is slimmer (than the biggest one—comparable to the smaller ones) and probably for that reason feels much more comfortable when inserted. And since it’s in a pretty strong V shape, it’s still really easy to get to my clit (which is what I need when I’m getting off).

I have used it to actually strap on and fuck pretty rarely, though once or twice. It is really convenient to have it nearby the bed and be able to just grab it. And because it is actually inserted, I can feel more, and feel more attached to it than when one of my strapped-on cocks is being jerked or sucked on.

It’s become an essential toy box feature, and gets stored in the one right by the bed these days. Definitely recommend it.

The Realdoe was sent to me from Babeland for review. Pick up other sex toys from Babeland, still my favorite feminist, queer, friendly, educational neighborhood sex shop.

Published by Sinclair Sexsmith

Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them) is "the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queers" (AfterEllen), who "is in all the books, wins all the awards, speaks at all the panels and readings, knows all the stuff, and writes for all the places" (Autostraddle). ​Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award, and they are the current editor of the Best Lesbian Erotica series. They identify as a white non-binary butch dominant, a survivor, and an introvert, and they live outside Seattle as an uninvited settler on traditional, ancestral, & unceded Snoqualmie land.

11 thoughts on “Review: The Tantus Realdoe”

  1. You have some borked html in the second paragraph.

  2. Sinclair says:

    oops—thanks, fixed it.

  3. rexicon. says:

    awesome. i had the feeldoe as well and.. it seemed like it was too rigid to be functional for me. hopefully they come out with a stout version for this. some of us are greedy. love that you reviewed this.. i was wondering.

  4. i have the feeldoe classic and i’d like to try to use it with a harness. are there any you recommend? something on the cheaper side of things would be preferred.

  5. Julian says:

    Hey, I was just wondering if you’ve ever used it when with someone else without using a harness? I would like to buy it mostly because of the fact that I could potentially have sex without having to wear a harness, but $150 is quite a lot to dish out when I already have a useable cock. I’d really appreciate your feedback.


    1. Sinclair says:

      Yes, I’ve used it without a harness. I’m not sure I’d recommend it exactly, it’s hard to have the level of control that I have with a harness, so it disappoints. It’s fine for some things—if she’s on top, for example, and blow jobs—but for balls-to-the-wall fucking, it doesn’t really stay in place. At least, not for me.

  6. Sasha says:

    Hey Sinclair,

    I’m fairly new to your blog and haven’t posted before but I really am enjoying it. I found this review to be really interesting as a point of discussion for the topic of masturbation.
    Even though I have my share of queer sex, I masturbate in a fairly gender-normative way. Your review made me think about the unseen privilege of normative masturbation and how
    images and descriptions of masturbation tend to fit that paradigm. Anyway, not to get too heavy (this is a sex toy review after all!), but it just makes me think about how even a topic like masturbation has its own limitations and need for discussion when it comes to breaking gender and sexual boundaries. Thank goodness for your blog! :)

  7. babyt says:

    Great feel, BUT…it’s hard to do much of anything to you’re partner it won’t stay where it’s,suppose to

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