Shiris was a “player” in the first round of Submissive Playground, and after that she participated she came back to do an interview about masochism which is now part of the course. We sat down recently to talk about what her experience was like.
What drew you to Submissive Playground? Where were you before you took the course?
I had been an owned and collared submissive for 16 years before starting Submissive Playground. However, I was at a place in my journey where I felt like participating in the program would benefit not only my personal journey, but my dynamic with my Ma’am as well. I wrote out a long diagram for Ma’am explaining the different ways that Submissive Playground would benefit me and us, then I presented it to her and asked to join the course.
What was your favorite part of the experience?
The homework! I just adore tasks! I loved being given homework to read or watch, and in addition to the journal writing I was doing for Ma’am, I needed to be sure to post online in Submissive Playground as well. I loved having a list of things to accomplish. I’m a very busy person in my day-to-day life, so Submissive Playground was a way for me to be required to slow down and read, write, think, explore. It came along at just the right time for me, a time when I was yearning to slow down and reflect and focus on my submission and my D/s dynamic with my Ma’am.
What did you learn?
In addition to learning a basic two-column tie (which I’ve used COUNTLESS times since), I had a wonderful personal discovery about my own D/s path thus far, a lot of pieces came together for me. I wrote about it in the Submissive Playground and then expanded on it for my Ma’am later. It was probably my biggest take-away.
What kind of skills did you build?
I definitely picked up some basic bondage skills!
What changed with your relationship to submission?
Nothing changed with my relationship to submission, exactly. But coming to the course as a seasoned submissive, I did find a sense of clarity about my path, some personal understanding about where I have come and where I want to go. I also felt energized and filled up to continue exploring on my own.
What changed with your relationship to your dominant?
My Ma’am enjoyed checking my homework and reading my writing. We would talk each week about how it was going, it was a lovely reason for us to slow down and connect in our dynamic during a time when we had both been busy for a long while – this is one of the reasons I used to talk Ma’am into letting my take the course – that it would strengthen our dynamic. I said, when I reflect on my submission it is a reflection of Ma’am because that submission belongs to her. Submissive Playground brought us closer together.
How & why would you recommend this to other submissives?
This is a wonderful course for new and seasoned submissives. It’s tailored to allow each person to have the experience they want. You can connect with other submissives and have it be very interactive, or you can be a little more introverted and introspective. It’s a wonderful journey and I found I got out of it what I put into it.