Free download: Submissive Starter Kit
Since I know some of you aren’t the type to make the first move, I’m going to be bold.
Here’s a taste, a little tease, just for you.
What’s in the Submissive Starter Kit?
Okay, so maybe you’ve completed these first five steps and you’re still pretty damn sure that you’re submissive or want to play that way sometimes, and you are still looking for more.
But now, you’re asking yourself:
- How do I get more kinky play?
- What kind of skills do I need to have or bring as a bottom?
- How do I flirt with tops?
- What are my next steps as a submissive?
- … and more.
So I’ve put together a video (from the Submissive Playground Bondage unit) and submissive journal prompts to support it.
Hey wait! What’s a submissive journal?
It’s the place where you keep all your reflections on being submissive, on service, on scenes, on aftercare, on what things worked and didn’t work, on what to try next time. If you’re in service to a specific person or people, you could keep lists of their preferences in it. I suggest you also bring it to classes or conferences and take notes in it, to keep them all in one place.
You might also keep a list of resources in the back, like books or websites to check out, or people to contact on Fetlife. You can easily tuck some of your cards (if you have them) into it to carry around at events, or tear out a little corner of a piece of paper to write your name and Fetlife profile or contact info on if you meet someone interesting.
Or, in this day & age, you might just designate a page in it to be your “digital business card” with your contact info and name, and invite people to take a photo of it with their phone (assuming they have one that takes photos).
Sometimes, if you’re really lucky, your current or future dominant may give you writing assignments or art tasks, and your journal will come in handy for those things, too.
Oh yeah—I highly, highly recommend dominant/top/D-types have journals, too, where they record pretty much the same things. This isn’t something unique to submissives. I just happen to be focused on submissives at the moment and in this kit.
Start here: Watch the video
Time to get out submissive journal and take some notes of the things in rife’s talk that speak to you.
Here’s your Submissive Journal Prompts for this video:
Rife detailed these four tips for getting more kinky play. Write your notes on each- Have you tried this already? How can you use this in the future more? Which is your favorite and least favorite?
- Go to classes and workshops
- Buy your own toys
- Approach tops you’re interested in
- Consider switching
Write your own 4 best flirting tips in your submissive journal, and share your favorites in the comments.
This is only one example piece of the homework for the Bondage unit. In the course, there are a variety of questions about the erotica assigned, the other guest videos for the module, and the experiment that players are conducting.
Here’s a little ZIP package of two PDFs & an image:
- The transcript of rife’s video
- Select submissive journal prompts for the Bondage unit, including some of your history with bondage and rife’s video above (three pages of prompts!)
- The full image of rife’s illustrated “Prioritize Your Kink” identity development roadmap
You’re welcome! Hope you enjoy.