Quick Anal Interview: YOU!

Okay folks, Anal Week is coming to a close, you’ve had a chance to read Quick Anal Interviews with Dylan Ryan, Bailey, Tawny, Madison Young, Sophia St James, and Erudite Hayseed. Perhaps you read through some of those thinking, jeez, they left out this really important thing!

Well, here’s your chance: I’d like to hear YOUR answers to the quick anal interview questions! Here are the questions, add your answers to the comments.

1. What one tip would you suggest (aside from the obvious: lube, communicate, go slow)?
2. What lube do you recommend?
3. What position do you find excellent?

Any bonus perspective, tip, story, or thing that you’d really like to share?

Anal Week has been a really fun project, I’ve learned a lot in collecting all this data, Kristen and I have had some great conversations, and I’ve had some great comments and emails from folks saying they have had similar reservations, but that these tips and perspectives are encouraging.

Please do chime in, if you’d like to add something.

Published by Sinclair Sexsmith

Sinclair Sexsmith is a genderqueer kinky butch writer who teaches and performs, specializing in sexualities, genders, and relationships. They've written at sugarbutch.net since 2006, recognized numerous places as one of the Top Sex Blogs. Sinclair's gender theory and queer erotica is widely published in anthologies like Take Me There: Trans and Genderqueer Erotica, and online at Feministing, Autostraddle, AfterEllen, and more; they are the editor of Best Lesbian Erotica 2012 and Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica, both published by Cleis Press. Sweet & Rough: Sixteen Stories of Queer Smut, Sinclair's first book of short erotic stories, was published in 2014. They use the pronouns they, them, theirs, themself, and live in Oakland, CA with their boy.

3 thoughts on “Quick Anal Interview: YOU!”

  1. randy says:

    I know I put many of these thoughts in an earlier reply but…

    1) Do to yourself first what you would do to another.

    2) Astroglide has been great for me/us and is readily available.

    3) Doggy-style (both as receiver and giver)

    BTW, the "go slow" mantra is an oversimplification, useful for first-timers, but what is more important is understanding what's controlled by the autonomic nervous system (particularly the parasympathetic nervous system–see Wikipedia). It's pretty hot and exciting for both when with experience, the right knowledge and timing, it's possible to "go fast".

    PS: I added a link to the relevant Wikipedia Pelvic Control section.

  2. MF says:

    1. Vibrating butt plugs=your best friend.
    2. Babelube from Babeland
    3. I haven’t heard anyone else saying this, but I like to do it recipient-on-top, so that I can control the intensity, depth and speed. Maybe other people don’t do this, but it’s my favorite.

  3. Pocketfemme says:

    The only thing I really have to add is that when I first started having anal sex, the best position by far was me on my side; a kind of spooning thing. That position helped me relax and adjust. After a while of fucking like that, I was able to move into other positions without any discomfort.

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