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Erotica Writing Joy, Protocol Game, D/s, & Other Recent Media

Lots o’ stuff going on over here! Grateful for all the amazing folks who have had me on their podcast lately, who have written about my work, and who have tried out the Protocol Game! Love hearing about your adventures with all of it.

Here’s a small roundup of some of the recent happenings!

Kink Quest Podcast, Episode 13: The Protocol Game

We have been trying to play Sinclair Sexsmith’s Protocol Game for years now, and have just started to really make it work for us lately. In this episode, we talk about some of the experiments that went well, others that went… less well, and what it all means to us!

Listen to Episode 13 of the podcast here

You can purchase the Protocol Game cards in my shop!

How a story about spanking helped me find myself: For queer and trans readers, erotica can provide a roadmap for realizing our truest selves, By Andy Bandyopadhyay on Xtra

I’ve followed Sinclair Sexsmith’s blog, Sugarbutch, for many years. I love the combination of true stories, erotica and reflections on queer kink. So when they announced an erotica writing workshop, Writing Spicy, centring queer, trans and kink writing, I signed the fuck up.

I wish I’d done that sooner. […] Sharing that piece in class also helped me feel less alone. Transmasculine classmates reacted with instant recognition: the way you can belong somewhere but not belong, the isolation of feeling just outside the door, the need to see our own kink journeys in kink media.

Read Andy’s account of the Writing Spicy class on Xtra Magazine here

American Sex Podcast Episode 183 — Dominant & Submissive D/s Dynamics with Sinclair Sexsmith

On Ep 183 of American Sex Podcast, we talk with Sinclair Sexsmith about dominance & submission. While most are aware that Dom/sub play is common in kink, we also have a very narrow view of what it entails. D/s isn’t always cruel & authoritarian. We talk about the many ways people engage in D/s & how they find strength by surrendering to powerlessness, including:

  • The different types of D/s & selecting areas of control
  • Building healthy dynamics
  • “Subs hold all the power”
  • Balancing fantasy & reality
  • “Giving up” safe words
  • D/s as an “intimacy fetish”
  • Deconstructing power

Listen to Episode 183 here, or with your favorite podcast app

Review: Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year, Volume 6, from the Itinerant Librarian

I can say after reading this book that the editor succeeds in presenting a diverse, enticing, at times moving collection of experiences and erotic adventures. This is an anthology that pushes the boundaries of what erotica can be and can do, and it is reflective of the times we live in. Rather than being escapist, the stories take us away on various journeys while working within the current reality. Just because the times are hard now it does not mean we forget pleasure. On the contrary, the stories strongly show and hold on to pleasure, and they bring us readers pleasure as well plus a way to connect their experiences and ours in the act of reading.

Read the review over on the Itinerant Librarian blog

Published by Sinclair Sexsmith

Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them) is "the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queer women" (AfterEllen), who "is in all the books, wins all the awards, speaks at all the panels and readings, knows all the stuff, and writes for all the places" (Autostraddle). ​Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award. They identify as a white non-binary butch dominant, a survivor, and an introvert.

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