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Happy 29th Birthday, Kristen

Kristen turned 29 years old yesterday.

We both attended a Body Electric workshop over the weekend—I’m completely wiped and Kristen is energized and tender, so we kept it pretty low-key. We had a very small gathering of a few folks over for cupcakes and champagne and fancy cheese, Kristen received a few sweet gifts, and generally enjoyed ourselves and each other’s company.

There’s a love letter coming, but meanwhile, I want to say happy birthday to my amazing girlfriend. I love that we get to explore and experiment together, and I feel so lucky to have found someone so willing to love well, work well, and grow well with me.

I love you Kristen, thank you for sharing these beautiful years of your life with me. I wish you big dreams and explosions and fireworks in your 30th year around the sun, and I’m so excited that I get to be there with you, here and beyond.

Published by Sinclair Sexsmith

Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them) is "the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queers" (AfterEllen), who "is in all the books, wins all the awards, speaks at all the panels and readings, knows all the stuff, and writes for all the places" (Autostraddle). ​Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award, and they are the current editor of the Best Lesbian Erotica series. They identify as a white non-binary butch dominant, a survivor, and an introvert, and they live outside Seattle as an uninvited settler on traditional, ancestral, & unceded Snoqualmie land.

6 thoughts on “Happy 29th Birthday, Kristen”

  1. sam says:

    (am i really the first?…)

    thank you, kristen, for allowing us sugarbutch readers into your life, for being so willing to have such intimate aspects of your life and relationship shared with all of us. you’re a beautiful and amazing woman for whom i have deep respect. this saturn return period of life (which you and i both happen to be in at the moment) can be a pretty weird and turbulent time, and i wish for you peace, happiness, love, and all things good and beautiful in the world as you move into and through this next year…

    happy birthday, kristen.

  2. jax says:

    Happy Birthday Kristen!! I hope your year is filled with magic, passion, & adventure.

  3. S Tyler says:

    Happy Birthday Kristen! Sorry this one is late. You are a beautiful women who seems to like to laugh (from what I’ve gathered from pictures) and I hope that you get a lot of laughs and fun on your birthday!

  4. I’m so glad to hear you had a wonderful birthday, Kristen!

  5. Caitlin says:

    Happy belated 29th! So…I don’t know how y’all feel about the monarchy, but this picture just came up on a google ad for the queen’s diamond jubilee, and I thought “Gosh she looks familiar.” And then I realized there was something of Kristen in young Queen Liz’s knowing smile :-) so anyway, happy birthday from The Queen and I (and google).

  6. desiree says:

    happy 29 birthday.looks like you had a good time :D i love the pictures .you two are a frigging wonderful couple :D

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