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Queering Power Dynamics Workshop in Seattle Tonight!

Hello! I am rushing around but I gotta tell you that I have a big workshop in Seattle tonight. Hope you might make it!

Date: July 7th, 2011
Time: 7:00pm – 9:30pm
Place: The Annex at the Wet Spot
Price: $20

Queering Power Dynamics

Top, bottom, switch, and everything in between: many of us like to explore what it’s like to give up or take power in our sex play. Some of us even like to play with psychological domination and submission. Add a gendered or age component, and the power distance index (PDI) increases. So what happens if we severely increase the power distance, through 24/7 role play or domination and submission? What happens when we incorporate identities like “Daddy” from the leather community? What could other age play roles of bigs and littles, Daddies and Mommies, boys and bois and girls and grrrls, have to offer us as we seek deeper and more fulfilling sex explorations? This advanced kink workshop explores power, gender, and age play in a queer context, where we’ll discuss bringing a power exchange relationship of any sort from the bedroom into a 24/7 lifestyle, what the benefits are for both, and how to go about navigating long term fulfillment for all parties within the relationship.

Published by Sinclair Sexsmith

Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them) is "the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queers" (AfterEllen), who "is in all the books, wins all the awards, speaks at all the panels and readings, knows all the stuff, and writes for all the places" (Autostraddle). ​Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award, and they are the current editor of the Best Lesbian Erotica series. They identify as a white non-binary butch dominant, a survivor, and an introvert, and they live outside Seattle as an uninvited settler on traditional, ancestral, & unceded Snoqualmie land.

11 thoughts on “Queering Power Dynamics Workshop in Seattle Tonight!”

  1. Elsbeth says:

    If only I’d known about this sooner… as it is, I have a supper commitment at a queer co-op I may move into. And then blues dancing. Too many awesome things tonight.

  2. Hdawg says:

    Bummer! Would have loved to come. Doing anything else on your short visit?

    1. Sinclair says:

      Hdawg — nope, nothing else this time. it’s mostly a family/personal trip, so I’m not doing much work. I hope to come back and do others, perhaps this fall.

  3. AngelicBrat says:

    Thank you for coming out the CSPC! I really enjoyed the workshop. I learned a lot about how to go about trying things out, and what others have learned from their experiences. Great job!

  4. sarah says:

    We are so bummed we missed you! Are you still in Seattle this weekend?

    1. Sinclair says:

      Sarah— Sorry, no, I am back in New York now. That workshop was the only one I did while visiting. I’ll be back though, and I promise I’ll give slightly better notice next time!

  5. Kathy Costello says:

    Was glad to have your thoughts on the matter of Daddy/girl under the queer umbrella. I like the freedom to be what I am and the idea that “experimenting” is a better idea when going into the unknown.

    Thanks,

    Kathy C.

  6. I really really REALLY had wanted to go to this, but I unfortunately couldn’t get out of other responsibilities. Any chance that there are presentation notes you’d be willing to share?

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