Kristen & A Spreader Bar

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Kristen, featured here with the spreader bar, Liberator Throe, leather ankle cuffs, and Spartacus leather paddle. You can’t see it in the photo, but her hands are tied together and to my headboard.

Though I know photographs are worth a thousand words, I have one thing to add about the spreader bar: because it does not have attached cuffs, you need hooks (shown here with carabiners) and cuffs (or rope) of your own in order to secure a person to the bar adequately. This also means that she’s not exactly held in place, there is a lot of room for her to move around and does not hold her securely in place. If I bought another spreader bar (which I might, I really do love the immobilization) I would purchase one with cuffs included, so there wasn’t as much wiggle room for the person being tied down.

But certainly that doesn’t mean that it’s not beautiful to feel her strain against the force of being spread open.

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Published by Sinclair Sexsmith

Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them) is "the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queers" (AfterEllen), who "is in all the books, wins all the awards, speaks at all the panels and readings, knows all the stuff, and writes for all the places" (Autostraddle). ​Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award, and they are the current editor of the Best Lesbian Erotica series. They identify as a white non-binary butch dominant, a survivor, and an introvert, and they live outside Seattle as an uninvited settler on traditional, ancestral, & unceded Snoqualmie land.

8 thoughts on “Kristen & A Spreader Bar”

  1. meldyke says:

    Oh my.

    My heart just skipped many beats…. which I have never experienced before looking at spreader *anythings*.

    To SS and all the butches out there…. my heart is skipping for you!


  2. Kelley O says:

    That is a stunningly beautiful picture, of a beautiful bottom. Thank you for sharing. Thanks to Kristen as well. Gorgeous.

  3. Gray says:

    Wow, this picture is awesome. She is just adorable!

  4. e says:

    THAT is a spectacular picture! I'm not into bdsm at all but I love a beautiful bottom… thanks to both of you!

    I do have a question, though. Do you get in the open triangle? Would that put the bar behind your legs? Or is it more of a bent over the bed kind of gizmo?

    … I'm getting a little tingle… :-)

  5. Britni says:

    What a beautiful picture. What I wouldn't give to be the one wearing that spreader bar!

  6. Britni says:

    What a beautiful picture. What I wouldn't give to be the one wearing that spreader bar!

    Sorry for the duplicate comment; I had to fix my URL!

  7. What a gorgeous body! Thank you for sharing this.

  8. I have on many occasions said that one of the main reasons I became a prodomme was so I could learn how to use a spreader bar. As it turned out, I'd already been using it correctly … but spreader bars are kinda fundamentally flawed precisely for that wiggle room you're talking about. Recently I found a solution. Dungeon Delights sells a "Bondage Set with Spreader Bars" (scroll midpage here:… ) which, if you tell Rick I sent you, you can have special ordered as a "rigid spreader bar" system. Metal. Bolt fitted. No flex. Zero wiggle room. Hot stuff.

    Just like you. ;-)

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