16 responses

  1. whatthepork
    Sunday, June 5, 2011

    Hi there – longtime reader, first time commenter. My advice for first time strapping is: Let it be possibly awkward, let the experience be whatever it is, and let it be an opportunity for you and your sweetie to be closer.

    It’s been a long time since I started playing with strap-ons, and I don’t recall my first time wearing one, but I do remember feeling some performance anxiety. Actually, that feeling has never entirely disappeared, though it has minimized, and it’s allowed me to better appreciate the times when I’m not the one wearing the cock.

  2. A
    Monday, June 6, 2011

    The first time I had strap on sex(receiver), communication was key. Unfortunately we bought a cheap harness and the o ring had a slight gap in it. The open space in the ring kept “grabbing” at my lady bits and about an hour later there was swelling. Not good at all.

    Now with a year of experience and a slightly more spend-y harness my partner and I are having some pretty delicious sexy times with our harness and cocks:)

  3. thoughtsunderconstruction
    Sunday, June 19, 2011

    thank you for this beautiful words. – a femme

  4. L. A.
    Sunday, January 15, 2012

    I think that the harness is extremely important. I used a cheap harness at first but never really felt in control. Then I bought a SpareParts harness and finally realized how satisfying the experience could be! You get what you pay for, I suppose.

  5. Aaron E.
    Thursday, August 29, 2013

    I was so awkward and embarrassed the first time I wore a strap on. I used to have to hide under the covers to get it on or have all the lights off – anything so that she didn’t see me having to strap-on my cock! It was humiliating to me that I didn’t have a real cock and I didn’t want her to see the process of me putting it on instead of whipping it out of my pants.

    After a few months, all my shy ebbed away but I think its something to keep in mind: wearing a cock for the first time can be really vulnerable especially if the wearer is butch because it is so much more than just a piece of silicone. It really does become her cock. My partner was always so good at seeing that and respecting the cock as an extension of my masculinity – my self – and not just some toy we ordered from Babeland. Because of she really saw me and saw what that cock meant to me, I was able to truly embody it and own it for myself. Now we just fuck like crazy with it and I freaking love it!

    Oh, and I totally agree with L.A. : forget cheap harnesses. I love my Aslan leather harness. So worth the money.

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