Published by Sinclair Sexsmith

Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them) is "the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queers" (AfterEllen), who "is in all the books, wins all the awards, speaks at all the panels and readings, knows all the stuff, and writes for all the places" (Autostraddle). ​Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award, and they are the current editor of the Best Lesbian Erotica series. They identify as a white non-binary butch dominant, a survivor, and an introvert, and they live outside Seattle as an uninvited settler on traditional, ancestral, & unceded Snoqualmie land.

11 thoughts on “Getting My Cock Pierced”

  1. I am so fascinated by the idea of this. I’d love to hear how it goes. I actually want to be a little bit of a fly on the wall and watch while you get it pierced.

    I have no advice or experience, only curiosity. I’ve never pierced anything on my body, attached or not.

  2. In my experience, the ‘most enjoyable piercing’ for a woman to experience depends on her anatomy more than anything.

    I’ve found the frenum piercings lovely on my g-spot myself, and the PA more intimidating, though I think that was due to the massiveness of that person’s jewelry.

  3. Roxy says:

    I think it’s a great idea – pierced cocks look great. Since you’ll be getting it done professionally, your experience will be easier, but I thought I’d offer some details about the piercings I got to do last year in case anyone is considering doing it on their own.

    I had the honor of piercing two cocks at a party at The Citadel over Folsom weekend – Kyle’s and one other, and it was a heady, sexy experience. I found a website selling piercing supplies at very reasonable prices (mspiercing, although I’m sure there are others.)

    We wanted to make the experience realistic, but I was uncertain what iodine or other antiseptic would do to the silicone, so the swabbing beforehand was done with just distilled water. We also chose not to clamp, since bleeding wouldn’t be an issue, over concern about permanent marks (and also because I’m a bit of a sadist.)

    As I’m not a professional piercer, I practiced on a hand-me-down soft packer first, so I’d have a sense of the feel of it. I learned on my first practice run that packys are self-healing, so following the needle immediately with the ring is very important – otherwise you’ll almost certainly not be able to find the hole.

    Kyle opted for a Prince Albert piercing, which is relatively easy. Again, because of the material, I was cautious about using ink to mark the position, so I did the piercing by eye. Kyle was seated, and, after I prepped his cock, I asked if he was ready. He nodded and I thrust the needle through, and there was no question that he felt it – pain flashed across his face and he got a bit lightheaded. I quickly followed it with the ring and positioned the ball to close it.

    For a beginner, C-rings are the easiest, because you can twist-on the ball at the open end and be done. Captive balls can be tricky, especially in a dark dungeon after a long day – you need a steady hand and a good pair of pliers, and I would also advise something on the ground below to catch any errant balls.

    The most important bit of advice I can offer is that you shouldn’t take this lightly – both the piercings I did that night were bloodless, but both were intensely felt. I would recommend lying down or at least sitting, because the adrenaline reaction was identical to the one you’d get from piercing any original parts of the body. Sitting offers the benefit of being able to watch, which can be a transformative experience.

  4. Carrie says:

    I love my friend’s Prince Albert. He has a ring, not a curved barbell. It hits all the right spots, no matter which position we’re in. I can feel it all the way inside me, and it’s amazing every single time. I say do it!

  5. Kyle says:

    Just wanted to chime in here as well. As Roxy said, my packy has a PA piercing and I love it. It’s sexy and dressed up and tough and I’m really glad I had it done. And yeah, I felt it, which I anticipated but which was also an odd feeling.

    Sin, feel free to chat me up if you want to

  6. kendall/genderqueer says:

    Know what? I think that’s awesome.
    I have always thought about if I had a cock I’d pierce it…and when people say, then why don’t you pierce your vag, I say, because it was never really mine… but this could solve that dillema, hope it went well.

  7. That sounds awesome! I really want a cock piercing now, but will a standard piercing needle really make it through silicon? It seems impossible.

    1. Sinclair says:

      Ian—I had it done in a regular piercing studio, so yeah, I assume it was a standard piercing needle. The piercer (Elayne Angel) said that she took more time than she usually does when putting the needle through, in part because she *could,* it wasn’t torturing me to do it slowly. And that probably helped it get through. But if you’ve ever had a cock with a rip or tear in it you know how easily that plastic can keep tearing, once it starts. Anyway I recommend it! I am due for a follow-up post with photos, which I still haven’t done, but will get to sometime (thanks for the reminder).

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