“To all of the kick ass, beautiful fierce femmes out there …”

26 Responses to ““To all of the kick ass, beautiful fierce femmes out there …””

1. Kelley O
   April 14th, 2010 @ 3:01 pm

   That was AWESOME!!!!!! Ivan is HOTTTTT!!!

2. Mnl
   April 14th, 2010 @ 3:27 pm

   This gave me chills. I'm not full-bodied, and I don't wear five-inch heels, but otherwise, I felt she was speaking to me. And I've long thought Ivan E. Coyote was damned handsome.

3. mc
   April 14th, 2010 @ 4:13 pm

   Perhaps it's because I've just been reading Leslie Feinberg's chapters in Joan Nestle's The Persistent Desire (and Feinberg usually makes me emotional), but this is making me tear up like I'm cutting onions, it's almost embarassing. I had to pause halfway and excuse myself to the washroom.

   Also, Sinclair, there's a picture of a 1950s butch in that anthology – "Lynne Berry in Worcester, Mass, 1955", a piece written by Elizabeth Kennedy and Madeline Davis. The resemblance to you is a little scary!

4. lauren
   April 14th, 2010 @ 4:45 pm

   Thank you for sharing this – it was so beautiful. My butch doesn't always have the words – but Ivan does. Thank you again.

5. Benjamin_Beks
   April 14th, 2010 @ 5:04 pm

   all i can say is, thank you. my own identity has been in tatters recently and this was just the boost i needed to let me know that i'm not a freak, i'm not messed up, and i'm not alone.

   brought a tear to my eye.

   just…thank you.

6. Vivan
   April 14th, 2010 @ 10:24 pm

   Simply amazing…

7. Shinydan Howells
   April 15th, 2010 @ 12:59 am

   Simply fantastic. Balls of tungsten steel, right there. Thank you.

8. Britni TheVadgeWig
   April 15th, 2010 @ 1:36 am

   Guh. Thank you so much for posting this. I cried. A lot. I cried so much that I had to repost it on my own blog.

9. Distracted
   April 15th, 2010 @ 1:43 am

   Heavy sigh. Lots of tears. Thank you for sharing.

10. green-eyed girl
    April 15th, 2010 @ 3:19 am

    This made me feel pretty in a way that being seen only can. Thank you, Ivan.

11. bzzzzgrrrl
    April 15th, 2010 @ 4:28 am

    SO great. And you, and Ivan, are welcome. Just so's you know.

12. gndrfuklvr
    April 15th, 2010 @ 8:57 am

    Thank you! I cried and cried. I am a femme who some days hates being able to "pass". This lovely video has made it all worth it though!!! Thank you Ivan!!!!!

13. Jay
    April 15th, 2010 @ 10:55 am

    Brava! This is very much appreciated. From the very beginning I connected to every descriptor given. My butch and I watched it together, this is EXACTLY how she feels. I, myself, am grateful of the recognition of the unique struggles of being femme (i.e. "passing", perpetual coming out, invisibility to our own community, etc).

    I work hard to maintain my full body and stay perched in those stilettos.

    Lovely. Made me feel good about myself. :)

14. femme in butch cloth
    April 15th, 2010 @ 1:08 pm

    Weeping! I think I read this piece somewhere but it's so wonderful to see it read out loud.

15. Shannon
    April 16th, 2010 @ 3:41 am

    I'm in awe. That was beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing.

16. Marie
    April 16th, 2010 @ 7:54 am

    I was there! Ivan was simply amazing. So very moving to see him read live, no matter that I'd read this piece before. (And yes, he is so handsome. ;) )

17. Kyle
    April 16th, 2010 @ 8:42 am

    Though I've seen Ivan read this in person, seen it on youtube, read the essay myself.. every time, it makes me tear up. He's an amazing story teller and his honesty is an inspiration.

    plus I have complete butch envy for his haircut and clothes

18. Claire
    April 17th, 2010 @ 10:27 am

    Lovely :)

19. Jax
    April 17th, 2010 @ 5:35 pm

    To those who want to read the essay:
    http://www.xtra.ca/public/National/Hats_off_to_be...

    LOVE this piece.

20. CMM
    April 18th, 2010 @ 6:52 am

    Thanks so much for this.

21. Amanda
    May 1st, 2010 @ 4:55 pm

    Im a bit late to the game, but this was amazing. I want to have Ivan's babies!!

    Honestly speechless, and wanting to hear it again.

22. Sarah M.
    May 3rd, 2010 @ 8:00 pm

    Thank you so much for posting this! I've read this before and am about to tears hearing it out loud. My butch girlfriend and I went to the girl bar last night. It got me down…I get evil "what the hell is she doing here stares." While my girlfriend gets random conversations or smiles. It really killed me last night, in particular. We so rarely get to go out to the bar. We're nervous about walking into a straight bar around where we live. But, sometimes I'm tempted to give it a try since I get just as much discrimination at my own girl bar! If not worse…because it's my own friggin' community!!

    My loving girlfriend had the fortune to hear my rant. Thankfully, she is so very understanding.

    Anyway. I really needed to hear these words tonight. Thank you very much! It's such a confidence boost knowing that our butches are so proud to wrap their arms around a sweet hot femme! Thank you, again!

23. Lizzy Kaelar
    October 15th, 2011 @ 1:40 am

    Beautiful. Absolutely beautiful. Made me smile, and made me tear up too. Thank you for posting this!

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