6 responses

  1. Holden
    Tuesday, March 16, 2010

    Good advice. When I first started I spent some time hitting my own thighs so I could guage how hard I was hitting. I've also tested paddles etc that way as well. I think it helped me a lot but obviously everyone's pain threshold is different so it's just a guide.

  2. Erudite Hayseed
    Tuesday, March 16, 2010

    Communication, communication, communication.

    You have to know what your spankee's limits are. My girlfriend, for instance, likes to 'brat' and likes to struggle when being spanked. But I didnt come by that too easily, it took a while of me warming her up until squirming and then moving on to lovemaking, followed by her asking me why I stopped spanking so soon afterwards.

    It's all, at the end of the day, a game. I like using more esoteric instruments when I spank–I've used a clothesline with a knot in the end, a homemade flogger made of large-gauge rubber strips, a wooden spoon, even an incense burner in a moment of particular ingenuity.

    Paddling/flogging/spanking closer to the genitals when it's closer to lovemaking time is an excellent thing, by the way. I also like to make sure I get the place where the ass meets the thigh–she swears that the burning she gets while sitting is the sort of 'dessert' to the play session.

  3. Fleetingimpressions
    Tuesday, March 16, 2010

    I found it important to also take into consideration the strength differences between partners. I'm a lot stronger than my partner was and had to try and tailor my strength to her pain threshold. I liked to work from the ass to the backs of the thighs to the inner thighs and depending on how turned my partner got light slaps to the breasts were also appealing and may be something to try. I know you mentioned to leave the upper back for later, but personally I enjoy being slapped on the upper back much more than my ass or thighs. As a resource I've found certain links and articles on http://www.spankingblog.com to be quite interesting (apologizes as I do not have anything in particular bookmarked).

  4. tuesday
    Wednesday, March 17, 2010

    Not about spanking but I thought you might be amused by this http://artofmanliness.com/2010/03/10/manly-slang-

  5. ~K
    Friday, March 19, 2010

    My first spanking related toy purchase was a riding crop. I still use it to this day with new partners that don't have a lot of experience with being spanked because it's a nice way to introduce you to the sensation; not too rough but you can definitely still feel it ;) Plus, it's really cute and not intimidating to use.

  6. Sarah
    Tuesday, March 30, 2010

    Give me a moment to collect myself after reading this ;)

    I do like it when my Butch spanks just above my ass. Makes my back twitch and sends a different tingle. But everyone is different.

    I have to say the best utensil we've ever tried was the leather belt! We have a flogger, and cattails…but that leather belt gives me a good *smack* from one hip to the next!

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