Mailing Lists & How to Get the Password

Sugarbutch Chronicles has two different mailing lists, and one way to get the password to the protected posts. Since I’ve had a few more password posts than usual lately, I’ve had some folks asking, so it’s about time to put up a new explanation.

1. The Newsletter

The newsletter is the once-a-month mailing list where I send out announcements about the site, special offers (sometimes I have passwords or offer codes from some Sugarbutch sponsors), and general updates. Email me – aspiringstud[at] – to get on this mailing list, or leave a comment with your valid email address in the comments of this post.

2. Sugarbutch Daily to your email inbox

If you aren’t really a “blog person,” if you don’t read half the internet every day (like I do), if you don’t subscribe to RSS feeds and spend a lot of your time on the web, but you still love reading Sugarbutch, you might want to consider subscribing via email.

Entering your email address in below will send you ONE email per day with the text of all the posts that have been published that day. If there are no posts, you won’t get an email.

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3. Password protected posts

The password protected posts tend to be more personal, often musings about my own self-awareness, emotional processes, or the details of my relationships, which often feel vulnerable in a way that writing about sex does not (I know, weird, but that’s how it is). (Sometimes they are very smutty, dirty stories, with kinks or explorations that are dark and difficult to reveal – so it’s not all omphaloskepsis, there is some sex stuff too, sometimes.) Leave a comment in this thread with a valid email address and a link to your blog, your myspace, your facebook, or some other way to verify that you are a real person. If you ask for the password, I’ll also add you to The Newsletter mailing list.

Published by Sinclair Sexsmith

Sinclair Sexsmith is "the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queer women" (AfterEllen), who "is in all the books, wins all the awards, speaks at all the panels and readings, knows all the stuff, and writes for all the places" (Autostraddle). ‚ÄčTheir short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for the Lambda Literary Award. They identify as a white non-binary butch dominant, a survivor, and an introvert, and use the pronouns they, them, theirs, themself. Follow all their personal writings and all the updates through

346 thoughts on “Mailing Lists & How to Get the Password”

  1. sarah says:

    Could you please send me the password?

  2. Kim says:

    Please send the password!! Thanks.

  3. Rachel says:

    I'm a real person and I would love the password and to be added to the newsletter. Although my FB page is rather private, you should be able to tell that I exist.

    I've been enjoying your blog for a while.


  4. Alexis says:

    Your writings are my favorite reason to check my RSS reader or Tumblr. I'd love to have access to the ones I'm missing. Thank you for all that you share online. Sometimes it seems that your posts are putting words to conversations I was just hoping I could have. Refreshing, honest, articulate. Check my website or blogs to verify my existence :)

  5. Ashley says:

    I'm a real person and am interested in reading some of these password protected posts. Thank you for sharing all that you do.

  6. R says:

    I'd love a password. Thanks!

  7. Matt Hillsman says:

    Hi – love your blog. Thanks.

  8. Steph K says:

    Hi, I love your blog. Can I have the password?

  9. Rhiannon says:

    Password would be great, thanks

  10. redwine says:

    Hi, I don't do Facebook, MySpace, or a blog, but I am indeed a real (butch) person who would love to read the password-protected posts. Thank you for sharing so much of your life on this site!

  11. Steph says:

    I've been following you for a while; would love to have the password. Thanks!

  12. Shaina Loos says:

    Hi Sinclair, May I please have the password? I've been reading your blog for the last year and I love it. You're an amazing wrtiter and you've helped me a lot with becoming more comfortable with my femme side. I don't have a blog or myspace, I do have a facebook page, but it's hard to get to. Any other way I can convince you I'm a real person?

  13. James says:

    Hello! I love your blog and would be sincerely appreciative of the password however the only personal site I have on the internet is the website I'm building for my Web Tech class, and that currently has my homework on it. Is that good enough to prove I'm real? Thank you!

  14. evelyn tremble says:

    I'm a new reader of this blog and I would indeed appreciate access to the password protected part of it. As my own blog posts are almost exclusively lesbian orientated, I find this page an often interesting and sometimes instructive read. I think a quick look at my blog ought to prove something. What, I'll leave up to you. Thanks … in advance.

  15. Renee says:

    I enjoy reading your blog and would absolutely love the password.

  16. Laura says:

    Hello, I would absolutely love the password to your darker/deeper posts, with a cherry on top. Please?

  17. xXNappySoulXx says:

    I would like to have the password to the inner workings of your mind. Thanks!

  18. St says:

    i am a real person too and would love the password. thank you for sharing!

  19. Sassafras says:

    I don't have a page to share because of my work, but I have pictures I would personally send to you to prove that I am a real person. I would be extremely happy if you would share the password with me. I have been following your blog for a long time. Thanks!

  20. t. e. says:

    I'd like the password; i'm engaged in a lot of gender contemplation and i enjoy reading your thoughts.

  21. Dark says:

    Hey Sinclair,

    I would love to be able to read some of your deeper posts. Can I have the password?

  22. Miranda says:

    Hi Sinclair,

    I’ve been reading your blog for awhile and I’ve also seen you read twice at Bluestockings in New York, most recently at the feminist sex panel last week (I LOVED your piece). I would love to have the password for your other posts. You can find me as a fan of Bluestockings on Facebook, I believe!

  23. Renee says:

    I'm afraid the password was filtered out into my junk email and deleted. Would you please send it again? Thank you.

  24. JB says:

    Hey, Sinclair!

    I'm a real person, most of the time, learning a lot from your blog. (Thank you.) May I have the password for the other posts, too?

    1. Sinclair says:

      You bet — the links are in the sidebar on the right-hand side, under the 2010 Sex Blogger Calendar button. One says "Sugarbutch on Carnal Nation" and then there are three images underneath with the three major articles I've written for them, Radical Masculinity column #1, Queer Books Saved My Life, & the Lambda Lit Awards roundup. The others in that long list of mine are all "Perv Panels," where I answer a question sent in by a reader, so those are the three that are important.

  25. Julia says:


    I would love your password and I am a real person…I can personally email you my link or pics to prove it :) please?

  26. Dak says:

    Please send password! Gracias

  27. Pip says:

    I'm a real person, incredibly touched and turned on by everything I've read. Password request.

  28. Celia says:

    Hola Sinclair,

    Password me please. Gracias!

  29. wandalove says:

    password, please.


  30. kate says:

    would love to receive password et al.

    real person, with really not updated blog:

  31. Carly says:

    hi. i would like the password, etc.

    creative writing blog, updated less & less.

    love your work–good quality, sexy writing.

  32. Simone says:


    I'm a student getting into sex writing and your blog is so inspirational! In fact, you'll be coming to speak at my school soon (at Conversio Virium) and I'm familiarizing myself with your work. May I please have the password so that I can read your blog chronologically?

    Here's my facebook:

  33. Juliet1012 says:

    I would really enjoy the password to you blogs. However I do not have time due to my busy schedule to keep up with a blog, fb page, or myspace. I barely have time to do anything but I seem to always find time to read your blog. I can assure that I am a real person though!!

  34. Melissa says:


    I love your blog. You certainly know how to hold a woman's interest. I would love to read the password protected entries also. Thank you and keep up the great writing.



  35. N. says:


    I would love a chance to read the password protected stuff. And please, newsletter me.

    Thank you,


  36. Karen says:

    You sent me a password for the protected posts a long time ago. Do I need to ask again?

  37. S.Ree says:

    I'm so glad to have found your blog!

  38. Kayla says:

    love your blog, could i get the password pls?

  39. Dawn says:

    Hello, Sinclair

    You write beautifully, and I would love to know the password to access your protected posts.

    Thanks so much,


  40. Jack M. says:

    Hi Sinclair, I love your work and would like to request the password/add to the mailing list. Hope a link to my livejournal counts. Thanks!

  41. Jo says:

    I'd love a password also. :)

  42. Jessica A says:

    Hey, your writing is awesome and I'd love to have the password so I can read more!

    Newslette me, too, please. :)

  43. Josette says:

    Would love the password to your secret writings. Yum!

  44. SyrBoots says:

    real butch.. lol.. I'd like the password please, if you don't mind giving it to an old and grey leatherdyke from the uk? Thanks….

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