May was an incredibly busy month for me – not only did I take two trips out of New York City, I also had visitors, performances, writing deadlines, and started seeing Penny a bit more seriously. I took a break mid-month and didn’t do any writing here for more than a week, so it was a fairly light month in the number of posts.
The new masthead quote comes from a conversation with Ally, long ago. The photo is a snippet of my tie collection. Kind of a departure from the usual black-and-white I’ve been going for, but hey, it’s summer now, seems fitting.
Here’s what happened in May:
- SUGARBUTCH STAR CONTEST WINNER ANNOUNCED! – and it’s an easy win with Shanna’s story The Diner on the Corner. Shannon’s story The Photo Shoot was second. (Apparently the “shan” names were particularly appealing?)
- protected: open up for me. you’re mine today
- On misperceiving someone as femme or butch, and then a follow up further clarifying was the hinge of this past month. In fact, I got so frustrated by the conversations around these posts that I stopped writing for a while and took a break. It’s hard to do this kind of gender writing and work sometimes, I guess I just needed to step back and think about it, and attempt to get to a place where I was not taking it so seriously.
- Eventually, I posted gender frustrations and clarifications about my response to those two posts, and some round-up thoughts on onward & upward, gender explorers. I’m not going to stop writing entirely, but I do need slightly more structure and, occasionally, self-protection around this work, because sometimes, clearly, it gets to me.
- Protected: free falling instead of bracing myself, where I panic about dating someone, then talk myself down
- Eye Candy: triple scorpio, extra dirty, lauren
- Interview with stylist ariel? ariel!
- Review: Crossdressing: erotic stories
- Review: not really a whole review, but a recommendation for a couple of products. Get ’em while they’re hot
- Video clip from the film Tough Guise about compulsory masculinity
- Call for interviews with lesbian couples
- Pink & bent: queer women art exhibit in nyc