What Happened in May

June 3, 2008  |  miscellany

May was an incredibly busy month for me – not only did I take two trips out of New York City, I also had visitors, performances, writing deadlines, and started seeing Penny a bit more seriously. I took a break mid-month and didn’t do any writing here for more than a week, so it was a fairly light month in the number of posts.

The new masthead quote comes from a conversation with Ally, long ago. The photo is a snippet of my tie collection. Kind of a departure from the usual black-and-white I’ve been going for, but hey, it’s summer now, seems fitting.

Here’s what happened in May:



  • On misperceiving someone as femme or butch, and then a follow up further clarifying was the hinge of this past month. In fact, I got so frustrated by the conversations around these posts that I stopped writing for a while and took a break. It’s hard to do this kind of gender writing and work sometimes, I guess I just needed to step back and think about it, and attempt to get to a place where I was not taking it so seriously.
  • Eventually, I posted gender frustrations and clarifications about my response to those two posts, and some round-up thoughts on onward & upward, gender explorers. I’m not going to stop writing entirely, but I do need slightly more structure and, occasionally, self-protection around this work, because sometimes, clearly, it gets to me.



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  1. what a wonderful collection!

    referring to the ties, but now that i mention it, the collection of stuff that happened in may is pretty great too =)

  2. your tie rack is the sexiest tie rack I've ever met, or imagined.

    good work on gender in May, Sin. thank you.

  3. June's banner says it all….This woman wants to be in your head and your bed. Unfortunately you are too young for me/I am too old for you.

  4. I agree with all of the above. Except that unlike Jan, I also wanted to be in your stories, but luckily, that happened :)

    Moreover, I'm more likely to be too young for you, not the other way around :)

  5. Well, I guess I should say that I am just perfect for you ;)

    Your site is a delight.

  6. Those are definitely some lucky ladies in your head and in your bed…

  7. hi sinclair, i've been reading your blog for a couple of months now, and i love it! i would love the password, since you're still offering to give it out. and unfortunately i was too busy to comment then, but i appreciated your posts and conversations on misperceiving someone as femme or butch. tough stuff that needs to be talked about!

    — xo from a loving femme fan in mpls

  8. i'd appreciate the add!


  1. what happened in June

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