What Happened in May
Posted on June 3, 2008 in colophon | 9 Comments
May was an incredibly busy month for me – not only did I take two trips out of New York City, I also had visitors, performances, writing deadlines, and started seeing Penny a bit more seriously. I took a break mid-month and didn’t do any writing here for more than a week, so it was a fairly light month in the number of posts.
The new masthead quote comes from a conversation with Ally, long ago. The photo is a snippet of my tie collection. Kind of a departure from the usual black-and-white I’ve been going for, but hey, it’s summer now, seems fitting.
Here’s what happened in May:
Sex:
- SUGARBUTCH STAR CONTEST WINNER ANNOUNCED! – and it’s an easy win with Shanna’s story The Diner on the Corner. Shannon’s story The Photo Shoot was second. (Apparently the ”shan” names were particularly appealing?)
- protected: open up for me. you’re mine today
Gender:
- On misperceiving someone as femme or butch, and then a follow up further clarifying was the hinge of this past month. In fact, I got so frustrated by the conversations around these posts that I stopped writing for a while and took a break. It’s hard to do this kind of gender writing and work sometimes, I guess I just needed to step back and think about it, and attempt to get to a place where I was not taking it so seriously.
- Eventually, I posted gender frustrations and clarifications about my response to those two posts, and some round-up thoughts on onward & upward, gender explorers. I’m not going to stop writing entirely, but I do need slightly more structure and, occasionally, self-protection around this work, because sometimes, clearly, it gets to me.
Relationships:
- Protected: free falling instead of bracing myself, where I panic about dating someone, then talk myself down
Miscellany:
- Eye Candy: triple scorpio, extra dirty, lauren
- Interview with stylist ariel? ariel!
- Review: Crossdressing: erotic stories
- Review: not really a whole review, but a recommendation for a couple of products. Get ‘em while they’re hot
- Video clip from the film Tough Guise about compulsory masculinity
- Call for interviews with lesbian couples
- Pink & bent: queer women art exhibit in nyc
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June 3rd, 2008 @ 11:19 am
what a wonderful collection!
referring to the ties, but now that i mention it, the collection of stuff that happened in may is pretty great too =)
June 3rd, 2008 @ 10:44 am
your tie rack is the sexiest tie rack I've ever met, or imagined.
good work on gender in May, Sin. thank you.
June 3rd, 2008 @ 11:10 am
June's banner says it all….This woman wants to be in your head and your bed. Unfortunately you are too young for me/I am too old for you.
June 3rd, 2008 @ 1:54 pm
I agree with all of the above. Except that unlike Jan, I also wanted to be in your stories, but luckily, that happened :)
Moreover, I'm more likely to be too young for you, not the other way around :)
June 3rd, 2008 @ 5:41 pm
Well, I guess I should say that I am just perfect for you ;)
Your site is a delight.
June 3rd, 2008 @ 5:49 pm
Those are definitely some lucky ladies in your head and in your bed…
June 4th, 2008 @ 10:54 am
hi sinclair, i've been reading your blog for a couple of months now, and i love it! i would love the password, since you're still offering to give it out. and unfortunately i was too busy to comment then, but i appreciated your posts and conversations on misperceiving someone as femme or butch. tough stuff that needs to be talked about!
– xo from a loving femme fan in mpls
June 9th, 2008 @ 5:31 pm
i'd appreciate the add!