password protection

If you’d like to be included on the password email list, leave a comment with your email (and blog URL, if you have one) and I will update you with the password when I write a protected post.

I’ve written a few password-protected posts lately, mostly they are private journaling about my own process and thoughts, which is why they aren’t public.They are not some secret smut stories, or half-naked Thursday photos, though they may be, in the future.

I’m sure y’all know that I’m happy to reveal quite a lot about myself, though sometimes my own process feels not only self-indulgent but, occasionally, too intimate for the general internet public. Especially as this little writing project has gotten bigger and bigger, I seek a little more privacy on occasion.

But, on the other hand, personal self-reflection and processing is precisely why I started this writing project almost two years ago, and I gain such tremendous insight through writing out my process and my thoughts, as well as through the useful, constructive, responsive, and supportive comments. Sometimes readers have such insight into what’s up, and I so appreciate that feedback and conversation. Other times, readers tell me they are going exactly through the same thing, or that their girlfriends are just like me, and I find so much value in the sharing of our stories, in the places we are similar.

I don’t want to entirely lose the ability to write through my process here, but I had to do it slightly differently now that this site has grown. Hence, password protection.

Leave a comment if you’d like to be included on the mailing list to receive passwords in the future.

Published by Sinclair Sexsmith

Sinclair Sexsmith is a genderqueer kinky butch writer who teaches and performs, specializing in sexualities, genders, and relationships. They've written at since 2006, recognized numerous places as one of the Top Sex Blogs. Sinclair's gender theory and queer erotica is widely published in anthologies like Take Me There: Trans and Genderqueer Erotica, and online at Feministing, Autostraddle, AfterEllen, and more; they are the editor of Best Lesbian Erotica 2012 and Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica, both published by Cleis Press. Sweet & Rough: Sixteen Stories of Queer Smut, Sinclair's first book of short erotic stories, was published in 2014. They use the pronouns they, them, theirs, themself, and live in Oakland, CA with their boy.

355 thoughts on “password protection”

  1. Christophe says:

    I'm a fan, would love the password.

  2. loria says:

    wow i've been behind on this site. i would very much like the insight into your protected entries but leave it up to you to decide.

  3. bittersweet says:

    I, too, am late in the game. And I, too, would be honored. Because I’ve loved this site ever since I first stumbled across it, and because my gender questioning/femme-loving self delights. (I find it funny that despite your very easy-going attitude towards the passwords, it took me several beers to get up the courage to post a comment and ask if I could read what you have written.)
    Oh so many thanks.

  4. Julia says:

    Getting the passwords would be super cool. No, really, super cool.

  5. Jacqui says:

    Can I become number 104 and ask to subscribe your rightly so protected entries?

    Can I suggest that breaking up is even harder when your country recoginses you as a common law couple? There are moments when I pause and wonder if there were no such laws, breaking up would be afar simpler process.

    Thank you

  6. carys says:

    if you don't mind, i'd really like to be able to read your protected posts. i already take too much time out of my work day to read your blog, why not go all the way.

    my blog's in norwegian, by the way. yes, you have international fans!

  7. tempcontretemps says:

  8. wordchef says:

    hvala lepa – thanks

  9. jes says:


  10. MsF says:

    Hey Sinclair,
    Also late in the game: my curiosity can’t be contained anymore: I’d love the password!
    ps: Your blog is the first thing I read in the morning, after checking my email! Keep it up!

  11. samantha says:

    password, please :)

  12. jenny says:

    Your blog is part of my drinking coffee and waking up in the morning routine!

  13. Babs says:

    Hi Sinclair,

    Could I have the password, please? Love your blog. Thanks! :-)

  14. Ramona says:

    I'd like to be on the list, please, thank you.

  15. conquest says:

    I totally lost the password :(

  16. Cecily says:

    Yes, please. :)

  17. Kate says:

    Yes please. Love your blog! Thanks!

  18. claude cahun says:

    yes, please!

  19. Kari says:

    Yes, please. thanks!

  20. rascalgrrl says:

    I'd love to be on your password list. I'm so very glad to find a place where labels are claimed proudly. I'm a femme and I love my butchgrrl. I wouldn't change our dynamic at all, though I've gotten hassled for being in the "dark ages".

  21. aag says:

    Yes please?

  22. Jade says:

    I just adore reading your blogs.

    I devour them as quickly as possible.

    Then go back for seconds.

    And thirds.

    Orrrr whenever the mood strikes.

    Please scribble me onto that password list.


    I am looooooving the pictures of the butches!!

  23. Nora says:

    Oh, let me get on the bottom of that list too! (no pun intended.)

    Keep writing!

  24. Janet says:


  25. apple says:

    me too !

  26. dls says:


  27. zingrrl says:

    Just listened to the Saturday night replay on Diana's show. Wow! Please please please allow me to view your password protected blogs. I submit to your will…

  28. mouse says:

    please, me

  29. The Divine says:

    me too, please.

  30. des says:

    please and thank you!

  31. meg says:

    oh, yes! i can't believe it took me this long to ask for it.

  32. Chicory says:

    I, too, would like a password. I've been lurking on your site since Lesbiandad linked to you (if you've been wondering who from the US Securities and Exchange Commission has been hanging around, that would be me). I also introduced you to some friends in Maine.

  33. Daddy's Princes says:

    You have made me laugh, cry and blush. I miss your thoughts. Please may I have a password.

  34. sascha says:

    may I be added please?

  35. Shaz says:

    As you seem so often to write about the ideas my butch friends and I discuss (butch flight indeed), I think it only fair that I have a password – just to see how similarly "this gender stuff" translates across the Pacific…

  36. Al says:

    I'd love the password, I always look forward to your new posts with eager anticipation.

  37. laura luna says:
  38. Sara says:

    Got around to posting any of those half-naked Thursday photos yet? Either way, I'd be both interested and honored to share some of you more private posts.


  39. ocean eyes says:

    I absolutely love your writing and your take on butch-femme – would love to be added to the password list. thankyou!

  40. Imogen says:

    Oh, please include me on the password list, I adore your blog. Always look forward to what you have to say.

  41. Patience says:

    Yes please? I just found you, and I already have a feeling you'll be at the top of my favourite blogs by, um, the end of tomorrowish.

  42. jesse says:

    Am an unabashed lurker, but would love to have the password–lots of good thinking here.

  43. kaye says:

    Yes Please? I recently just found your blog and I love it.

  44. Jan says:

    Hi Sinclair,

    you sent me a password a few weeks ago, but it didn't seem to work today?! it was:

    w*** s****

    If there is a new password, please send it to me. Thanks!

  45. Jan says:

    OOPS! thought I'd try the password again and it worked. Sorry for any confusion.

  46. Voyager says:

    Just a lurker and I don't have a blog myself, but I love reading yours. Would like to get a password. Thanks!

  47. debbie says:

    awesome awesome site. please add me to your list, please.

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