2025 was a lean year for publishing here. Since my separation (& subsequent divorce) in 2022, I’ve been very financially unstable — without a job or other steady income right now, aside from Sugarbutch’s writing, coaching, and teaching. There were still some exciting posts here in 2025, though — some hot fiction, a spectacular guest post, a toy review I did with friends, a long-overdue support post, and a whole lot of teaching.
Sugarbutch started in 2006, which makes it 19 years old as of April 2025. Nineteen years. I don’t know whether to celebrate that or sit down and cry about it! Maybe both. (What should I do for Sugarbutch’s 20th anniversary in 2026?!)
Even in a quiet year, I’m proud of what went up. Here’s the best of it.
Note about the password-protected posts: The password is available to everyone who supports me on Patreon. It truly makes a difference — if you love this work and have even a few dollars a month to spare, please consider joining.
Erotica
A butch on their back, a femme in a loose black robe, an exchange of spit, power, and desperate need. This one came out of a Writing Spicy writing prompt — technically the third prompt from last year’s countdown. I was hoping to finish all of them before the next session started in September. It’s short, it’s real, it’s needy in all the ways I find most interesting to write — and most true. — Did I Say You Could Touch Me?
CN: flogger, whip, beating (fists), slapping, face slapping, suffering, skin breaking (brief mention of blood), biting, crying, catharsis, safewording. They wanted to suffer. That’s what they asked for. To scream and cry and resist, to yell no, to beg for me to stop — and to have me keep going. This is a story about what it means to be given exactly what you asked for, about the catharsis in the breaking-open, and about the way the sadist in me finally gets some room to breathe. One of my favorites I’ve written in a long time. — You’ll Take Whatever I Can Dish Out
The Milk series finally got its third installment in 2025, continuing the mama/boy nursing kink story. It’s password-protected — you’ll need to join the Patreon in order to get the password to read it — but if you’ve been following parts one and two, or if you like nursing mama/boy stories, I suspect you’ll enjoy it. — Milk: Part Three (protected)
Smutty Things by Amazing Writers (Guest Posts)
CN: Daddy/boy, boot sucking/licking, boot play, kicking, desperation, humiliation play, crawling, cock play, caning, impact, making daddy proud.
Macsen K. Rhaff is a genderqueer, switchy pervert and writer of liberating trans smut. Wielding words in both healing and horny ways, Macsen infuses their work with personal explorations of gender, pleasure, and power. This piece blew me away when I first read it — it’s written in second person, which is hard to pull off, and Macsen absolutely nails it. It’s tender and brutal in equal measure, the way the best Daddy/boy writing is. The ending wrecked me. — What I Will Call You, Guest Post by Macsen K. Rhaff
Cock Confidence Review
I got to review four very large silicone cocks with two friends who are absolute connoisseurs of XXXL toys, and honestly, it was a delight. Dee’s Big Daddies is a new venture from the folks at Uberrime, which makes some of the only triple-density silicone available. We reviewed Diedrich, Duke, Dante, and Duncan — and Duncan has stood out as the clear front runner, and I’m obsessed. If you are someone who likes a big toy and cares about silicone quality, shape, and sheer sensory delight, read this review. — Dee’s Big Daddies Really Are Big: New High Quality XXXL Silicone Toys
New Book: Leather & Lust
One of the biggest things I did was at the very beginning of 2025: I published a leather romance novel, Leather & Lust, on Theo Reads. Theo is a platform for serialized romance fiction, and I was brought on as a founding author, which was a real honor.
What’s it about? Handsome and dominating, Harrison navigates San Francisco’s BDSM scene seeking his perfect match. When he meets Sidra and Addie — two submissives who awaken both his dominant desires and his heart — he faces a choice. Should he choose one perfect partner? Will he dare to build the leather family of his dreams? It’s a slow burn, a why-choose, a love story set deep inside leather and kink culture.
You can read the whole thing for free on Theo Reads (for now; eventually there will be a few chapters as a free preview, and you’ll need a subscription to read it in its entirety). It’s about a 3 1/2 hour read, give or take, depending on quick or slow of a reader you are.
Workshops & Teaching
Despite the quiet on the blog, I taught a lot in 2025 — roughly 25 workshops and events across the year. I taught through five different organizations and venues: Wicked Grounds, Patreon, Pan Eros (here in Seattle), and >Charlie’s Queer Books in Seattle. The most frequently taught topics were Daddy 101 (three times), Writing Spicy (multiple runs, both in person and online), and Cock Confidence (twice). I ran five workshops exclusively through Patreon as part of the Power and Pleasure monthly series, covering topics like High Protocol for D/s, Fierce Submission, Frameworks for D/s Training, and writing craft.
For conferences, I traveled to Sacramento for Northwest Leather Celebration to be a judge in May, and to the Baltimore area for Dark Odyssey: Fusion in June.
One of the most exciting new offerings this year was the Building Blocks of D/s Intensive, a four-hour in-person workshop I ran in Seattle through Pan Eros in September. This was the first time I’ve done a D/s intensive of this length — four hours is a very different container than a two-hour workshop, and it allowed us to go much deeper into the foundations of power exchange in a way that just isn’t possible in a shorter format. I’d love to do more of these.
Looking ahead: my 2026 workshop calendar is already up, and I have events booked through the end of the year. I’m still available to book for workshops — online, and possibly in person depending on the event. Writing Spicy isn’t on the calendar yet for 2026, but it will probably happen in the fall — keep an eye out.
And as always, D/s Playground is available anytime if you want to go deep on D/s at your own pace.
On Keeping This Going
This was the year I finally published the post I’d been sitting on for two years. I don’t like feeling like I’m begging, but I don’t feel like I have much of a choice. The amount on Patreon right now is less than half of what it was in 2022, and that is the primary income I’ve been relying on. I wrote 8 Ways To Support Sugarbutch & Sinclair because I needed to, and because I think people genuinely want to help and don’t always know how. If you’ve been a reader for years and never thought about what it takes to keep this place running — that post is for you.
