What’s Happening In February


Everything is happening in February. I hope you are excited to come out and see me, because I am going to be everywhere doing all the readings and workshops!

Events with Mr. Sexsmith

Friday to Sunday, February 3-5 Celebrating the Body Erotic for Women through the Body Electric School. Did you know that “cunt” means “holy well”? New York City. Contact me at northeast@b-e-school.com for more information.

Wednesday, February 8, show at 7pm The Inspired Word performance series is excited to present a new event that will become a regular part of our calendar, Queer Apple: NYC GLBT Life in Poetry & Prose, featuring some of this city’s best GLBT writers/performers – Sinclair Sexsmith, Christa Orth, Ocean Vuong, Samantha Barrow, Kestryl Cael Lowery, Kelli Dunham, Brandon Lacy Campos, and Jessica Halem . In addition, there will be a 12-slot open mic (4 minutes each slot) to bring your own GLBT experience to the party. Must be GLBT themed. A night of transcendence of words through narrative, poetry, and humor. Hosted by Aimee Herman . Doors open for sign-up @ 6:30pm Show starts @ 7pm Cover Charge: $10 Read more here! 116 (formerly The Gaslight Cafe) 116 MacDougal Street (between Bleecker Street and Minetta Lane) Downstairs Lounge Manhattan, NY 10012 (212) 254-9996 (917) 703-1512 By subway, take the A, B, C, D, E, F to West 4th Street-Washington Square

Thursday, February 9, 7:30pm Find a Valentine at the Best Erotica Reading! Celebrate sex love a few days early with readers from the books Best Lesbian Erotica 2012 and Best Gay Erotica 2012. Readers include: D.L. King, Ali Oh, Julia Noel Goldman, Deborah Castellano, Anne Grip, James Earl Hardy and Greg Norris! More to come (so to speak). Hosted by Kathleen Warnock & Sinclair Sexsmith. RSVP on Facebook Bluestockings Bookstore, 172 Allen Street, New York, NY 10002, Lower East Side

Monday, February 13, 7:30pm workshop at Columbia University! I think it’s Fucking With Gender Columbia University, upstate Manhattan, NY

Thursday, February 16, 7pm Owning Your Birthday Suit: Embodiment for Better Sex Sugarbutch & Butcher are at it again! Join us for this introductory workshop about embodiment. Kinky, poly, leather, sex-positive, and other outlaw folks often find it easy to explore sex, but it might still be hard to be present in our bodies, to feel the powerful connection between genitals, heart, and mind. Explore a variety of playful experiential exercises to increase embodiment while respecting stone sexualities and everyone’s boundaries. Learn some simple tools to feel erotic energy, build connection to your desires, and feel more alive and at home in your body. Experience the taboo power of sharing this exploration within community.

This workshop will be with clothing on, touch optional. $20 at the door. RSVP on Facebook. Event details.

Amy Butcher and Sinclair Sexsmith met at a tantra retreat three years ago and have worked together for deeper embodiment and gender liberation ever since. They both study erotic energy and write smut.

The Center for Sex Positive Culture Annex
Seattle, WA

February 23, 7pm American University workshop … I think it’s Fucking With Gender again Washington, DC

February 28 & March 1 Workshop & Panel at Smith College! Northampton, MA

Events in New York City (& Beyond) You Shouldn’t Miss

Saturday, February 11th, 7-11pm BOXERS OFF! An Evening of Butch Burlesque–February Love Edition. Boxers Off! An Evening of Butch Burlesque invites you to join us as we explore representations of butch identity in a bold, new, sexy way. Lea Robinson emcees this evening of HOT burlesque from some of New York City’s finest performers! Who wouldn’t want to spend Valentine’s Day weekend with L Boogie and a few hot butches? Performers include the sexiness of Goldie Peacock, Drae Campbell/Miss Lez 2010, Elizabeth Whitney as Tricia Clayton Biltmore, Victoria Libertore as Liza, Ariel Speedwagon, Luscious Von Dykester, and Daddy T.Y.E.! Anna Charlotte will be here all the way from New Orleans to burn your britches! Stage Kittens for the evening will be Best Bites and Tom Cruiser. Join us for raffle fun, signature drinks, red light/green light, love advice, and of course your host L Boogie! A portion of the night’s proceeds will go to FIERCE, an organization building the leadership and power of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ) youth of color in New York City! Stonewall Inn, New York City. Admission $10

Friday, February 17, 8pm Lesbian Sex Mafia: The Fine Art of Dirty Talk with Amy Jo Goddard Feeling shy about talking dirty? Have a lover who wishes you would, but you sometimes clam up or struggle with obstacles to saying those sweet nasty things? Wish you could open the door to dirty words without shame? This workshop will be a fun exploration of dirty talk, why we like it, what we want from it and how to incorporate it with partners and make our scenes hotter. There is no one size fits all, so you’ll explore and practice what feels good for you, how to find common ground with your partners, and walk away with a bigger dirty vocabulary. Attendees can decide how much to participate but it will be guaranteed fun! C’mon’ say it like you mean it! LGBT Center, 208 West 13th St. (7th/8th Ave), Manhattan, NY

Saturday, February 25th, 10pm Submit Party, submitparty.com, a BDSM play party for women and trans folks only. $15 before midnight, $20 after Brooklyn, NY. For exact location call 718.789.4053 or email Red@submitparty.com

Thursday, March 1, 8pm Red Umbrella Diaries, www.redumbrelladiaries.com Happy Ending, 302 Broome Street between Forsyth and Eldridge, Manhattan, NY

Saturday, March 3, 7pm Queer Memoir: Leather. New York’s only queer storytelling event is back with a special guest curator, Sassafras Lowrey, editor of the Kicked Out anthology and nationally known storyteller. This Leather themed storytelling evening is a benefit for Boston’s Write Here Write Now founded by Toni Amato. Announcing the amazing line-up of storytellers: Sinclair Sexsmith, Emily Millay-Haddad, Kelli Dunham, Ignacio Rivera, Sara Vibes, on Facebook. Queers For Economic Justice, 147 W. 24th St., 4th Floor, New York, NY 10011

I’m booking gigs for the spring (February through May), and I’m aiming for Boston, Chicago, Atlanta, Portland, Seattle, San Francisco, Durham, DC, and more. Want to bring me to your college or university or local bookstore or sex toy shop? I’d love to visit! Things that are important to know!

Any events I missed? Add ’em in the comments.

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Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them) is "the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queers" (AfterEllen), who "is in all the books, wins all the awards, speaks at all the panels and readings, knows all the stuff, and writes for all the places" (Autostraddle). ​Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award, and they are the current editor of the Best Lesbian Erotica series. They identify as a white non-binary butch dominant, a survivor, and an introvert, and they live outside Seattle as an uninvited settler on traditional, ancestral, & unceded Snoqualmie land.

2 thoughts on “What’s Happening In February”

  1. Mack says:

    FYI: It’s Smith College.

    1. Sinclair says:

      Hm yes, of course it is. Fixed, thanks!

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