What’s Happening in December

November was huge.

I mean like gigantic. I don’t think I even understand everything that happened in November. December means things are slowing down a bit, thank goodness, because I need time to integrate. There’s so much coming up in the spring for me, but for now, just a few exciting things.

Events with Mr. Sexsmith

Monday, December 5, 2011 Owning Your Birthday Suit: Embodiment for Queers, Genderqueers, & Other Outlaws: Queer, genderqueer, trans, and outlaw folks often find it hard to be present in our bodies, to feel the powerful connection between genitals, heart, and mind. Explore a variety of playful experiential exercises to increase embodiment while respecting stone sexualities and everyone’s boundaries. Learn some simple tools to feel erotic energy, build connection to your desires, and feel more alive and at home in your body. Experience the taboo power of sharing this exploration within community. Amy Butcher and Sinclair Sexsmith met at a tantra retreat three years ago and have worked together for deeper embodiment and gender liberation ever since. They both study erotic energy and write smut. LGBT Center, 208 West 13th St. (7th/8th Ave), Manhattan, NY. gaycenter.org

Thursday, December 15, 7pm Best Lesbian Erotica 2012 release party at Drunken! Careening! Writers! Featuring: Amy Butcher, Deborah Castellano, Julia Noel Goldman, Anne Grip, D.L. King, Ali Oh, Xan West, Introduced by Sinclair Sexsmith, With your hostess (and series editor) Kathleen Warnock. Join us for our annual holiday tradition at Drunken! Careening! Writers! Each December, we celebrate the publication of Best Lesbian Erotica, because we’re religious that way. Copies of the book will be on sale. Buy one for grandma! Contributors from near and far are congregating on our little corner of the East Village to read from their work, including this year’s Guest Editor, the lovely & talented Sinclair Sexmith. Drunken! Careening! Writers! is a reading series based on the proposition that all readings should be by: 1) Good Writers; 2) Who read their work well; 3) Something in it makes people laugh (nervous laughter counts). And 15 minutes tops. For more information, please email careeningwriters@aol.com, visit www.kathleenwarnock.com, or follow me on Twitter @kwarnockny. KGB Bar, 85 E 4th St, New York, NY 10003, East Village. Free!

Events in New York City You Shouldn’t Miss

Thursday, December 1, 8pm Red Umbrella Diaries, www.redumbrellaproject.com Happy Ending, 302 Broome Street between Forsyth and Eldridge, Manhattan, NY

Friday, December 2, 7pm Ruckus reading series: Ruckus is a reading series showcasing the work of Queer and Transgender writers, artists, and performers of color. Curated by kay ulanday barrett and Victor Tobar, Ruckus features some of the most dynamic QTPOC artists, we strive to create a space of safety, integrity, and artistry. This month’s Ruckus features Ashley Phillips, Kirya Traber, and Tara Shuai. Bluestockings Bookstore, 172 Allen Street, New York, NY 10002

Saturday, December 10, 10pm “Why is the Fat one Always Angry?” Kelli Dunham’s CD Recording party in SF! Kelli Dunham is a genderqueer Brooklyn based ex-nun nerdcomic; a Wisconsin farmboi transplant who juxtaposes midwestern friendliness with New York attitude in a way that has been described as both “horrifying” and “hilarious.” In “Why Is The Fat One Always Angry” (her sixth one person show and her third comedy CD) she continues on her quest to make comedy where slam poetry dares not tread. The show will address the important questions of our time, such as: Why were there so many failed tubal ligations the year Kelli was born? Is it okay to call your mom for the sole purpose of obtaining comedy material? How is the Bible like the DSM? What does being over 40 have to do with dead rabbits and the butch ego? How many library books can one person take on vacation anyway? IN SAN FRANCISCO, The Dark Room Theater, 2263 Mission Street (btwn 18th & 19th Sts), San Francisco, CA 94110

Friday, December 16, 8pm Lesbian Sex Mafia: Leather Storytelling with Sassafras Lowrey. Leather Storytelling is about taking ownership of why we find solace, and pleasure in the things that we do, and coming out of the shadows to make our voices heard. This workshop is designed for all variety of folks who find leather to be a driving force in their lives regardless of context or dynamic(s). The workshop is not specifically about writing porn/erotica though of course sexually explicit themes are welcome, but rather this is focused on telling the stories of our dynamics, of our communities, and of ourselves. Leather Storytelling is focused on exploring what it means to tell our stories when as leather folk we are often silenced, and pushed out of even the most progressive spaces who deem us as inappropriate or obscene. Through guided writing exercises, workshop participants will discover the transformative power of storytelling and how it can be used to break down divides, foster and preserve community, and build coalitions within leather community and beyond. LGBT Center, 208 West 13th St. (7th/8th Ave), Manhattan, NY

Saturday, December 17th, L Boogie Productions presents, Boxers Off: An Evening of Butch Burlesque, with your emcee—L Boogie. Join us as we explore representations of butch identity in a bold, new, sexy way. Lea Robinson, as L Boogie, emcees this evening of HOT burlesque from some of New York City’s finest performers. Join us for raffle fun, go-go dancers, sexy sound cues, and of course your host L Boogie! A portion of the evening’s proceeds will go to a local LGBTQA youth organization! Dixon Place, 161A Chrystie Street, between Rivington and Delancey, NYC. Tickets: $10 (advance), $15 (door)

Saturday, December 24th, 10pm Submit Party, submitparty.com, a BDSM play party for women and trans folks only. I suspect Submit is NOT happening in December, will update this when I get that confirmation. No Submit party in December! It’ll return in January. Brooklyn, NY. For exact location call 718.789.4053 or email Red@submitparty.com

Saturday, December 31, 9pm-1am New Year’s Eve, Party, Lounge, Performance, NEW YEAR’S EVE: USHERING IN A GREAT COSMIC SHIFT. A great cosmic shift is coming in 2012 and we want you to ring it in with hot queers, old friends and new lovers. Join us for a great show of comedy, music and burlesque plus a hot, sexy DJ all night long. Drink specials all night long so come on in and have drinks, hang with your friends, meet a new lover or two, and let your ball drop. Or both!

Show starts at 10 pm. DJ starts at 11 pm. Join Bevin Branlandingham, your Femmecee, with: Diana Cage – Queer (Femme)inist, Author, Kelli Dunham – ex nun, nerdelicious author & comic, Bambi Galore – the chameleon of tease, Jessica Halem – bad feminist, Ben Lerman – Sick and brilliant ukulele comedy.

Dixon Place, 161A Chrystie Street, between Rivington and Delancey, NYC. Tickets: $10 cash only at the door

My schedule is kept up on mrsexsmith.com/appearances if you want to see if I’m coming your way. You can even subscribe to the RSS feed (if you read things that way—I’m mourning what Google Reader just did and probably in search of a new aggregate reader) and it’ll tell you when I update anything new.

If you’re interested in bringing me to your town or college, check out what S. Bear Bergman wrote: Bear’s Guide to Getting the Artists You Want. It’s got some great tips for how to fundraise and make an offer to bring the people you admire to come do some custom work just for you & your friends. (Hint, hint.)

Last but not least, here’s my 2011 workshop offerings in a PDF so it is easy to download, you can also download my one sheet PDF or high res photos in my press kit). Get in touch if you’re interested in booking me, you can contact me directly—mrsexsmith(at)gmail—or my booking company, PhinLi, at bookings(at)phinli.com.

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Published by Sinclair Sexsmith

Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them) is "the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queers" (AfterEllen), who "is in all the books, wins all the awards, speaks at all the panels and readings, knows all the stuff, and writes for all the places" (Autostraddle). ​Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award, and they are the current editor of the Best Lesbian Erotica series. They identify as a white non-binary butch dominant, a survivor, and an introvert, and they live outside Seattle as an uninvited settler on traditional, ancestral, & unceded Snoqualmie land.

One thought on “What’s Happening in December”

  1. cahun says:

    Really? No speaking events at an Occupy, a la Judith Butler? Now’s the time to interorganize with queer politics and anticapitalists!

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