Sex, Gender, & Relationship Workshops at Your College

Hey! Students at colleges, universities, and beyond! I’m still working on booking workshops, readings, and gigs this fall and spring.

I’m available for the Trans Day of Remembrance in November, for example. Want to book me?


I am already planning some visits to certain places! If you can help me book something there while I’m visiting, I would be very grateful. Are you in any of these cities? Do you know who I should talk to? Would you help me get people out to an event? Thanks!

These are the dates I *am available* to book something in these cities:

November 7-8, 2011: Seattle, WA
November 9-10, 2011: San Francisco, CA
November 28-30, 2011: Atlanta, GA
February 16 or 21, 2012: Seattle, WA
February 23-27, 2012: San Francisco, CA
April 14-19, 2012: San Francisco, CA
April 10-15, 2012: Durham, NC
April 10-15, 2012: Boston, MA
April 15-30 or May 15-30, 2012: Chicago and/or Milwaukee
May 2-3 or 7-8, 2012: Portland, OR
May 3 or 7, 2012: Seattle, WA
July 9-10 or 16-17, 2012: Seattle, WA
July 17 or 23, 2012: Albuquerque, NM
Fall 2012 (TBD): Toronto, ON
September 20 or 24, 2012: Seattle, WA

The rest of the time, I’m based in New York City and I can travel all over the Northeast seaboard, from Boston, Providence, and Burlington, down to Philadelphia, DC, and Durham. And if you want to bring me somewhere that isn’t on this list, I’m game for that too! I’m just hoping this will help me get in touch with you folks who are already in these cities.


My workshop list is online at mrsexsmith.com/workshops, and I’ve got an online press kit at mrsexsmith.com/about/press-kit with photos, one-pagers, etc. My booking company usually charges a certain amount for a workshop plus travel + lodging, but I can be flexible about that and work with the budget you’ve got. I do have a minimum that I need to cover, but I am willing to negotiate.

Right now my most popular workshops are Radical & Responsible Gender, which is more academic and made for folks who are used to breaking down gender to start think about how to build it up in ways that are empowering and liberating, and Cock Confidence, which is a strap-on 101 type of workshop that focuses more on the psychology of strapping on and insecurity than on the how-to, though there is also a part for strap-on technology, meaning the toys that are available and what to buy. That one I rarely do at colleges, though I bet it’d be a blast.

I have also been working on doing a two-event set, being an afternoon workshop on exploring sex, gender, and relationships through writing as a way to develop self-reflection, introspection, and identity, and then having a showcase in the evening with the folks from the writing workshop reading and me doing a :30-:45 spoken word set.

If you’ve got any ideas, requests, or contacts, I’d love to chat with you. Please do get in touch with me via email, mrsexsmith (at) gmail dot com, and see what we can do.


For booking contact: mrsexsmith+booking@gmail.com
Phone: (917) 475-6316
PhinLi Bookings, LLC at bookings@phinli.com
Phone: (347) 829-7446

Press kit and materials available upon request

Please forward to colleges, universities, students, and organizations.

Represented by PhinLi Bookings, LLC, in New York City, SINCLAIR SEXSMITH is a writer, performer, student, and teacher of sex, gender, and relationships. Visit Sinclair online at sugarbutch.net, mrsexsmith.com, or on Twitter @mrsexsmith.

“Sinclair Sexsmith writes with such rare clarity and passion that she is one of the best reminders we have that sex and gender are not abstractions of theory, but essential to our everyday humanity.”
—Chris Hall, editor of CarnalNation.com

Published by Sinclair Sexsmith

Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them) is "the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queers" (AfterEllen), who "is in all the books, wins all the awards, speaks at all the panels and readings, knows all the stuff, and writes for all the places" (Autostraddle). ​Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award, and they are the current editor of the Best Lesbian Erotica series. They identify as a white non-binary butch dominant, a survivor, and an introvert, and they live outside Seattle as an uninvited settler on traditional, ancestral, & unceded Snoqualmie land.

8 thoughts on “Sex, Gender, & Relationship Workshops at Your College”

  1. Liliha says:

    So glad to see Atlanta on the list!

    In Atlanta, you’ll want to contact Charis Books (“Your Independent Feminist Bookstore”), for sure, and maybe Outwrite Books, too. There are two major lesbian bars in town: My Sister’s Room and Bellissima. Not sure if they host workshops, though. Aphrodite’s Toybox would have been a perfect fit, but they are in the middle of a never-ending “move” (I hope they come back!). I also imagine that Emory University would have an appropriate organization. There are any number of holistic centers here, although I can’t think of one off the top of my head. I’m sure I’m forgetting something obvious here, but those are good places to start. Wish I could be of more specific help!

  2. yarrowkat says:

    I don’t presently know the folks at the Feminist Research Institute at University of New Mexico, but I do know that they bring speakers to campus on a regular basis. They can be reached at femresin@unm.edu, or aobermei@unm.edu (director, Anita Obermeier).

    I also sent Self Serve Toys your info; they are a really awesome women-owned sex toy & education shop in Albuquerque, who do lots of classes & workshops. They are at: http://www.selfservetoys.com/store/

    The LGBTQ resource center at University of New Mexico can be reached at: http://lgbtqrc.unm.edu/
    or lgbtqrc@unm.edu

    i hope something works out!

  3. Amy says:

    I don’t have any college ties, but I’m about an hour out of Seattle and would love to help. (:

  4. Rachel says:

    In SF, you could present at good vibes, obviously, femina potens, or The Exiles have a monthly workshop…

  5. Sid Need says:

    Hey, I put a word in for you at SheBop yesterday and told them you were interested in coming to Portland in May. They said you had been there before so I take it you’re familiar. (And.. I found your blog through them, btw:) So, yeah, hope it works out. I’m really looking forward to seeing you in Portland!

  6. Molly says:

    I scrolled down saw that black and white image and froze. Hahaha..what a dork. :)

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