Hey You! Want To Bring Me To Your Town?

Dear friends & fans & folks who just happened across this website and have no idea who I am:

As I gaze longingly at my ever-filling fall and spring schedule, I can’t help but wonder: Is there somewhere I’m missing? Is there somewhere I should be aiming to go that I don’t even know about yet?

That’s where you come in. Where would you like me to travel this year? Do you have any contacts for colleges, arts venues, spoken word nights, queer/feminist toy shops, or queer/feminist bookstores in your area that you’d just love to help me book?

I’ve got quite a few workshops aimed at college students and ready for community centers and toy shops, like “Radical & Responsible Gender” and the acclaimed “Fucking with Gender,” and I’d love to get out there and meet more of you, chat, learn about what’s going on, and talk to you about my ideas for all of this stuff.

If you have any thoughts about where you’d like to see me perform, or what kind of workshops you’d like me to do, I would love your input.

Your buddy,



For booking contact: mrsexsmith+booking@gmail.com
Phone: (917) 475-6316
PhinLi Bookings, LLC at bookings@phinli.com
Phone: (347) 829-7446

Press kit and materials available upon request

Please forward to colleges, universities, students, and organizations.

Represented by PhinLi Bookings, LLC, in New York City, SINCLAIR SEXSMITH is a writer, performer, student, and teacher of sex, gender, and relationships. Visit Sinclair online at sugarbutch.net, mrsexsmith.com, or on Twitter @mrsexsmith.

“Sinclair Sexsmith writes with such rare clarity and passion that she is one of the best reminders we have that sex and gender are not abstractions of theory, but essential to our everyday humanity.”
—Chris Hall, editor of CarnalNation.com

Speaks, performs, and facilitates on the issues of:

Creative writing, social justice, LGBTQ activism, intentional gender, feminism, healing, sexual liberation and enlightenment, communication skills, accessible feminist theory, queer liberation, archetypes, social change activism, sexual freedom, and writing as a tool for self-awareness.

Past performances and workshops of note:

Butch Voices National Conference, Oakland, CA
The Center for Sex and Culture, Seattle, WA
Rainbow Book Fair at the LGBT Center, New York, NY
Lesbian Sex Mafia, New York, NY
SXSW Interactive, Austin, TX
Chapbook Festival, New York, NY
Sex 2.0, Seattle, WA
Butch Voices NYC, New York, NY
The Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health, Pawtucket, RI
Columbia University, New York, NY
Smith College, Northampton, MA
NYU, New York, NY
Hamline University, Minneaplis, MN
UW Madison, Madison, WI
Syracuse University, Syracuse, NY
Harvard University, Boston, MA
Drew University, Madison, NJ
Brown University, Providence, RI

Published by Sinclair Sexsmith

Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them) is "the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queers" (AfterEllen), who "is in all the books, wins all the awards, speaks at all the panels and readings, knows all the stuff, and writes for all the places" (Autostraddle). ​Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award, and they are the current editor of the Best Lesbian Erotica series. They identify as a white non-binary butch dominant, a survivor, and an introvert, and they live outside Seattle as an uninvited settler on traditional, ancestral, & unceded Snoqualmie land.

10 thoughts on “Hey You! Want To Bring Me To Your Town?”

  1. kk says:

    ummmmm. Toronto please. :D

  2. *sigh* the south never does get any love.

    i know, i know, you’ll be at sxsw – and i can’t really complain, as i’m not putting forward the effort to get you here! so, a more relevant question: are you planning on going to creating change? i believe it’s in baltimore this (next) year, and i’m hoping to (finally) make it.

    1. Sinclair says:

      the sxsw date was 2010, so I won’t be there this time. I am trying to get to a few places southward (austin, durham, new orleans) but I don’t have a lot of contacts down there—let’s talk!

      I haven’t planned on creating change (yet) but I should add it to the calendar. it’d be lovely to see you again!

  3. rhapsodyblue says:

    Please pretty please consider coming to Pomona College in Claremont, CA! I’m sure the Women’s Union (open to all genders) and the Queer Resource Center would both be delighted to have you visit. I don’t work at either place, sadly, so I’m not super-useful to network with, but I would attend any workshop you offered.

  4. spankysoriginal says:

    ummmm… there is a whole country directly to the North of you just waiting to be explored…

    I can probably connect you in the centre and on the West Coast – if you have any interest.

  5. Jeri says:

    What does “private training” mean when you are in Seattle?

    1. Sinclair says:

      It means I’m attending a training, so I’ll be there, and I’m looking for gigs around that time. I hope to visit the UW at least, that’s in progress. If I get a public event I will announce it here & on the appearances page definitely.

  6. Iz says:

    If you could come to Mills college in Oakland that would be awesome.

  7. Jeri says:

    I hope you can find a gig while you’re in Seattle. If not, would seeing you around town be out of the question? Capitol Hill is gay-tastic!

  8. Sinclair says:

    Jeri—maybe! I am working on a gig and I think I’ll do *something* at least. I went to college there and I love that town, I look forward to being back there!

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