“There’s a Man in the Woman’s Room NOT” by Kelli Dunham

I can’t resist posting this. Kelli Dunham, comic, former nun, friend of mine, and nerd extraordinaire, posed a question on her Facebook page about what genderqueer folks do when needing to pee at Penn Station: go into the woman’s room, and get yelled at? Or brave the men’s room’s grime and row of urinals?

In response, a friend of hers suggested she write a catchy song, and voila, she did. Here’s the whole explanation, and the song, in the video:

Check out more Kelli Dunham online at kellidunham.com and on Twitter at @kellidunham.

If you’d like to see her live, she’s got a show coming up with Cheryl B. (who you may know as my co-host from Sideshow), Katie McCabe, Elizabeth Whitney, and Lea Robinson, aka the Famous Lesbian Comedy Roadshow* (*famous lesbians not included) at Stonewall Inn this Tuesday, July 6th. It’s the DIRTY FILTHY RED HOT SUMMER SHOW, clearly not to be missed.

Published by Sinclair Sexsmith

Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them) is "the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queers" (AfterEllen), who "is in all the books, wins all the awards, speaks at all the panels and readings, knows all the stuff, and writes for all the places" (Autostraddle). ​Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award, and they are the current editor of the Best Lesbian Erotica series. They identify as a white non-binary butch dominant, a survivor, and an introvert, and they live outside Seattle as an uninvited settler on traditional, ancestral, & unceded Snoqualmie land.

2 thoughts on ““There’s a Man in the Woman’s Room NOT” by Kelli Dunham”

  1. Frances says:

    Oh. YAY for this. A real serious vote for YAY! There has to be a queer music industry insider who can make it so this song plays if you listen to a Justin Bieber song backward. If you are reading Secret Agent Queer your time has come. Make it so.

  2. cahun says:

    "By a woman from Iowa": the imputation of homophobia from the periphery of the urban is, well, really irriatating. Also: if women think there is a man in the bathroom, shouldn't we, as feminists, support their protest?

    So, children are better allies than adults that we can rationally expain our sitation to? What is it about our fantasy of the working class periphery (surely the ruling class doesn't pee in dirty bathrooms!) that we can't imagine having a basic conversation with them?

    Fight in the street, not in the bathroom.


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