My Work in the Wild: Columns, Guest Posts, & Other Writings

Sugarbutch is home base, but the work has always spilled out into other places. Over twenty years, I’ve been asked to write columns, erotica series, cultural criticism, and sex advice for publications across the queer internet and beyond — and I’ve said yes more often than not. This page is where you can find all of it: the work that found its home somewhere other than here.

On Autostraddle

Constellations is a short series of interconnected erotic stories published on Autostraddle in 2020 as part of their erotica series “Slick.” They are accessible to Autostraddle A+ members.

View From The Top was a column that ran 2015-2016, edited by Ryan Yates, and produced some of my favorite writing that I’ve ever done. Read the entire VFTT archive here.

Here are some of my favorite pieces:

On The Lesbrary

On Body Trust

 

On Lamdba Literary

On Carnal Nation

  • This column ran on Carnal Nation with a focus on masculinity from the perspective of a queer butch. The site Carnal Nation no longer exists, but I plan to archive the columns here. (Eventually. When I can find the columns again.)

On What They Are Asking

On SexIs Magazine

“Mr. Sexsmith’s Other Girlfriend” ran in late 2010 and early 2011. Who was Mr. Sexsmith’s Other Girlfriend? New York City.. Pieces covered sex positivity, shame, public health activism, Valentine’s Day relationship dynamics, and New York City life.

“Mr. Sexsmith Says” ran from late 2011 through mid-2012 and was more explicitly an advice and perspective column, with titles that read like direct responses to questions or provocations. The column covered:

  • Butch identity and sexuality (“Don’t Assume All Butches Are Stone,” “Are Butches Who Fuck Butches Too Gay?”, “From One Butch To Another, Here’s How To Get Off More Easily”)
  • Body image and dysphoria (“She Likes My Butch Breasts and I Don’t”)
  • Strap-on sex (“Strapped On Blow Jobs Are Deeply Pleasurable,” “Get Off While Strapped On,” “Bring Your Average-Size Cock, Just In Case”)
  • Kink and identity (“Don’t Worry, Be Kinky,” “If You’re a Bottom, Own It”)
  • Monogamy and needs (“You Can Get Your Needs Met Within Monogamy”)

On Kinkly

On AfterEllen

Other Places