Posts Tagged ‘lots of good gender writing this month’

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  November 7, Columbia University, New York City
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• Dirty Stories

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  • The Boy at Summer Camp
  • The Three Minute Game
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  • Sugarbutch Star: Maze – "The Girl in the Red Dress"
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• Essays

  • Reconciling Feminism & Sadism
  • To the femmes on whom I've crushed this past year
  • A Love Letter to Femmes
  • On Femme Invisibility
  • Open Relationship Mini Interview with Charlie Glickman: "Being poly doesn't make you more evolved"
  • Fucking & Making Love
  • Quick Anal Interview with Dylan Ryan
  • in praise of femmes: hair & shaving
  • Define: "butch in the streets, femme in the sheets"
  • The Great Reader Mini-Interview, Part Four: "Shut up and get hit," Communion, and fun erotica
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• Reviews

  • Masturbation is Great! (Review: Off With Your Head Hitachi attachment)
  • Ask Mr. Sexsmith: Tomboi vs RodeoH brief-style harness?
  • Hogtied.
  • Review: Packing Cocks 101
  • Keeping a Leather Harness Clean
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• Advice

  • Reconciling Feminism & Sadism
  • Ask Mr. Sexsmith: Tomboi vs RodeoH brief-style harness?
  • Ask Me Anything: Strapping On For the First Time
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• Journal Entries

  • Coming Out Genderqueer: An Open Letter to My Family & Friends
  • Thanksgiving in Texas
  • Northern Exposure Kink Conference in Anchorage, AK! And: Judging the International Ms. Leather Contest
  • Two years with Rife
  • How Do I Let Go of a Past Hurt?
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• Poetry

  • How things start to melt open
  • Making Peace #14
  • Unsolicited Advice to a New Butch (aka The Butch Poem)
  • What It Means
  • Your Body Remembers
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• This Week

  • The quiz is here! What kind of s-type are you? under miscellany
  • Reconciling Feminism & Sadism under advice
  • Ask Mr. Sexsmith: Tomboi vs RodeoH brief-style harness? under advice
  • Review: Packing Cocks 101 under reviews
  • Thanksgiving in Texas under journal entries

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• Conversation

  • rife on The Gender Book’s crowdfunding campaign is funded! But you should still go buy a copy for yourself right now
    Thanks Kyle! I forwarded on your kind words to the other creators, too. I wish someone had come to m...
  • rife on The Gender Book’s crowdfunding campaign is funded! But you should still go buy a copy for yourself right now
    Thanks so much, Jacks. We are built up by the support of allies like you. Thanks for sharing the pro...
  • rachel on The quiz is here! What kind of s-type are you?
    According to the test I came out Classic Submissive and it describes me 100% So fo me this test was ...
  • Kyle on The Gender Book’s crowdfunding campaign is funded! But you should still go buy a copy for yourself right now
    This is tremendously and wonderfully awesome news. I have been looking forward to this campaign - a...
  • freeper on The quiz is here! What kind of s-type are you?
    According to this i am a "classic submissive" although i identify myself as a slave. Interesting.

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• Elsewhere

  • BUTCH At the Lexington Club Thursday, November 21, 2013
  • Butch: Not Like the Other Girls Thursday, October 24, 2013
  • “Motley Hosts Open Mic and Guest Speaker in Celebration of National Coming Out Day.” Saturday, October 12, 2013
  • Sinclair named one of the Top 10 Sex Bloggers of 2013 by LittleHussy.com Thursday, September 26, 2013
  • Sinclair is #44 of the Top 100 Most Stylish DapperQs Tuesday, July 30, 2013

• Recommended

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  • As Soon As You Care, You Lose, or The Difference Between Hungry and Starving Thursday, December 5, 2013
  • Deep, So Deep Saturday, November 30, 2013

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