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Enter your password to view comments. | Category: Kristen, omphaloskepsis | Tags: basically a diary entry, communication, d/s, d/s outside of the bedroom, daddy/girl, dealing with issues, domination/submission, em dash, family dynamics, healing vs perpetuating, I tend to use a lot of dashes, issues, making sense of the tangle in my brain, my own inner thoughts, password, power dynamics, power theory, self-awareness, ways d/s leaks into relationships, why bdsm is for extraordinary communicators

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