Coming to your college campus (spring tour dates!)

Since 2009, I’ve been traveling around, visiting different colleges around the US and Canada, and teaching workshops about sexualities, genders, relationships, and kink. Generally I do this in the spring and fall semesters, so I have the summer and a few months in the winter to work on other things, revamp my classes, and send out even more pitch letters saying, “Hey! Bring me to your school! :)”

I’ll be traveling again this spring to a variety of places! I’d love to come visit YOUR college campus, too. Here’s some info about how to bring me, if you’re interested, and where I’m already planning to be this spring.

  • January 21-25 – Seattle, WA, private retreat
  • February 24 – Los Angeles, CA
  • February 25-27 – San Diego, CA
  • March 4-5 – 5 College Conference, Amherst, MA
  • March 11-13 – San Jose, Butchmann’s Experience
  • March 18-20 – Oakland, CA, Body Trust spring equinox
  • March 31 – April 4 – Asheville, NC
  • April 5-7 – Atlanta, GA
  • April 15-17 – Houston, TX
  • April 29 – SUGARBUTCH’S 10TH ANNIVERSARY (there will be a party)
  • May ? – Twin Cities, MN
  • June 10-12 – Palm Springs, CA for DESIRE Leather Women
  • July 7-11 – Seattle, WA, private retreat
  • July 20-24 – Body Trust’s annual Portals of Pleasure retreat

More details of these events TBA!

If you are near any of these places, I might be able to add on a day or two to stop and do a workshop with YOU (that often means costs are cheaper since I can do ’em in bulk).

This is what a workshop with me is (kinda) like

My most popular workshop is Fucking with Gender, which I’ve done for more than 5 years now and continues to be asked for at colleges all over the US. It’s kinda edgy, and full of genderqueerness and trans things and frank talk about sex and power and the intersectional issues of fighting the kyriarchy. Download the PDF of all the descriptions of my workshops here.

More details about my workshops over here on the workshops page at my portfolio site. Get in touch with Shelly from OUTmedia, who is helping me to organize these travels, at info@outmedia.org if you want to ask more questions or see if I’m a good fit to come chat with you.

On the road again … Portland + Princeton

I’m dotting my i’s and crossing my t’s and fucking the boy one last time and packing a bag (as soon as I can find my suitcase? How did I misplace that?) and having a few meetings and setting up the last week of the Submissive Playground and fighting with the airlines about last minute tickets and getting ready to leave on a round-the-country adventure tomorrow!

FIRST: I will be in Portland at Lewis & Clark tomorrow night, doing my signature college class FUCKING WITH GENDER.

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5pm, Gregg Pavilion, Wednesday 5 February

Let’s explore gender expression, identities, labels, transcending the mutually exclusive binaries, queer culture, and hot sweaty sex. Academics love deconstructing gender—and yet, we still have to navigate this gendered world. How do you build your gender intentionally? Are there ways gender can “hurt” less? And how do you develop your gender in ways that enhance and sustain a satisfying sex life?

THEN: I’ll be hopping a plane (hopefully after visiting Erika) and heading over to IvyQ, held this year at Princeton. Last year was a blast, and though we all got snowed in at Yale, I got to spend some lovely extra time with Mollena and Charlie Glickman and Erika Moen and it was fantastic.

So this time, I’m doing a new workshop that is based on my Advanced Cock Confidence and my Fucking with Gender classes, called FROM PRAXIS TO FETISH: ADVANCED GENDER FUCKERY

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4pm, Friday February 7, Princeton campus.

Beyond the deconstructions of the gender binary, beyond radical gender performance, lies a cornucopia of genderfuckery: self-creation and unicorn pronouns, responsible masculinity and radical femininity, trans* riots and kinky unquiets. Join Sinclair Sexsmith to discuss gender, sex, and the intersectionalities of transgressing the norm, asking questions like: What is “advanced gender”? How do we move beyond deconstruction of gender into embodiment of our fluid and shimmering selves? Are we post-identity or post-post-identity? Is gender a language you speak fluently? How does it intersect with other anti-oppression politics? What happens when our politics don’t go along with the personal desires of our boners? When is sex a political act, and when is it dirty pleasure?

Keywords: gender, genderqueer, queer, intersectional, theory, praxis, sexuality, fetish, kink, participatory, Q&A, ask me anything, identity, labels. Trigger warnings: dirty words, frank talk about sex

I’m nervous AND thrillingly excited to be visiting IvyQ again—they haven’t even announced who else is doing workshops there this year, but I’m sure there will be awesome amazing folks and I’m looking forward to hanging out, meeting a bunch of students, and talking to them about what’s going on in the worlds of gender and queerness in colleges these days. I always learn so much when I get to actually hang out and talk to people!

Plus: I’m bringing these little brochures that rife made (he’s such an incredibly talented designer, I had no idea that having a designer as a service submissive would be so incredibly useful to my business, but hey, it really is)! They are super cute and kind of based on my “Unsolicited Advice to a New Butch” mini-book poems, but they have a bunch of quirky text and photos and information about my workshops and how to contact my booking agent, Ripley.

(Ripley decided to get his very own phone number and it’s (512) 93-SEXED, which I kind of think should be (512) 93-SEX-ED, but he likes that it says “sexed!” as in “I am so thoroughly sexed, baby.” These are the kinds of things we have meetings about.)

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Aren’t they cute?

I’ll miss being at home in my little Oakland house where I’m trying to grow some things in our yard and have a routine and train for a 5K run (gulp) and write a bunch of things, but I also really love my job. I feel so lucky.

So hey, want to come out and chat with me? I’d love to meet you. See you in Portland, or at Princeton.

UW Madison tonight!

Hey folks! I’m here in beautiful (rainy, snowy) Milwaukee, had a great time at The Tool Shed last night. And did I mention the cheese plate I had for dinner? These folks know how to do cheese.

Oh hi, Lake Michigan. I almost didn't see you there

I’ll be at UW Madison tonight in Madison, Wisconsin, and since I didn’t ever post the info, here is it:

Fucking With Gender writing workshop (bring a pen & paper!)
with Sex Out Loud
8pm
University of Wisconsin Madison
Humanities building, located on Park Street

I don’t know which room exactly but I assume there will be signs. I’m looking forward to it! This is one of my favorite workshops to do.

Big day ahead of me, better get going—see you tonight!