Posts Tagged ‘there’s nothing to do but work and self-care and kindness and time’

• Oh hey there.

  I'm Sinclair Sexsmith, the kinky queer butch top behind this site. I'm an erotic educator, coach, and writer who studies literature, erotic embodiment, kink, BDSM, leather, and queer, trans, and feminist theory. I prefer the pronouns they and them.
  
  More about me and my work at mrsexsmith.com
  
  Photo by Meg Allen
  
        
  

• Love Letters

  Monthly announcements & newsletter & exclusive dirty stories. Plus, the password for protected posts.
  

• Upcoming events

  • 03/21/14 - 03/24/14 Saratoga Springs, CA at M/s Retreat
  • 04/06/14 Seattle, WA at Private venue Buy Tickets
  • 04/24/14 - 04/27/14 San Francisco, CA at International Ms. Leather
  • 05/03/14 San Francisco, CA at Threshold SF
  • 08/28/14 - 09/01/14 Northern California, CA at Camp Queer

  See my full list of events →

• Things I obsess over

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  Some of my intimate relationships: Allyson Butcher Callie DateDyke Gabrielle Hailey Jesse James Joy Kristen Madeline Mike Penny Red rife The Ex The Femme Top

• Most Recent

  • Protected: This week in photos: Playing tourist in SF Monday, March 10, 2014
  • Review: Aneros Evi G-Spot Massager Sunday, March 9, 2014
  • Protected: “And bowing not knowing to what” Wednesday, March 5, 2014
  • Ready to explore “embodiment”? Three workshop offerings in Seattle & San Francisco in March & April Tuesday, March 4, 2014
  • When I’m getting off Monday, March 3, 2014

• All Time Favorites

  • The quiz is here! What kind of s-type are you? 58 comments | 89,190 views
  • The Boy at Summer Camp 52 comments | 48,299 views
  • Thanksgiving in Texas 4 comments | 36,351 views
  • Reconciling Feminism & Sadism 13 comments | 33,644 views
  • The Three Minute Game 36 comments | 33,536 views
  • The Dirtiest Kristen Stories 2 comments | 26,674 views
  • Review: Packing Cocks 101 12 comments | 26,019 views
  • Open Relationship Mini Interview with Charlie Glickman: "Being poly doesn't make you more evolved" 3 comments | 25,085 views
  • How to take butch cock seriously 17 comments | 23,128 views
  • Is genderqueer (or butch) a stepping stone to transitioning? 11 comments | 22,897 views
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• Friends with Benefits

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  The other really good affiliates:

  QUEER PORN: Indie Porn Revolution | Queer Porn TV | Crash Pad Series | Pink Label | Heavenly Spire | Hot Movies 4 Her
  
  SEX TOYS: Good Vibes | Babeland | Early2Bed | FTM Essentials | Eden Fantasys | Favorite sex toys of all time at Good Vibrations | JT's Stockroom
  
  & ETC: Sugarbutch Recommends on Amazon | A Small Orange web hosting | Dreamhost web hosting
  
  

  What I'd bring to a desert island

  New York Toy Collective | Vixen Creations | Indie Porn Revolution