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Kristen & Sinclair Answer Your Questions, Episode 2: “How To Have a Successful Threesome”

June 11, 2012 | Kristen, sex | 6 Comments

Following up Episode 1, “I Want to be Taken”, Kristen and I answered another question for y’all, this time about threesomes.

Raven asks, “Any advice for occasionally bringing in a third? While still maintaining full commitment to one another and with no one getting hurt?”

Hope it’s useful!

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