Posts Tagged ‘language’

Things I, as a white sex educator, do to foster inclusivity in this community

Things I, as a white sex educator, do to foster inclusivity in this community

12/16/2014  |  4 Comments

On Facebook recently, Mollena asked: "White ‪#‎SexualityEducators‬: what are you doing to actively foster inclusivity? Diversify your audience? Support your... more

Define: Spectrum Banging

01/07/2010  |  6 Comments

I'm not sure exactly where the term spectrum banging came from—my friends and I used it in college, I have... more

What do you call your butch?

04/20/2009  |  36 Comments

Specifically, when she's a top, what do you call her in bed? Sir? Daddy? Master? Boi? If she's a bottom,... more

My slutty little girl.

04/02/2009  |  25 Comments

Or, how her dirty talk got me off. Twice.In my bedroom. We both knew we only had a few hours... more

Gendered Sources of Physical Power: Beauty vs Strength

02/15/2009  |  12 Comments

I don't know exactly where I first heard it, but somewhere I read once: men want to feel powerful, and... more

Define: The Do-Be-Do-Be-Do Complex

02/09/2009  |  18 Comments

The Do-Be-Do-Be-Do Complex referrs to getting involved in relationships where (especially in retrospect) you were drawn to the person because you wanted to be like them, not necessarily do them. more

Sexual Autonomy & Freedom

01/23/2009  |  15 Comments

Written for the 15th Feminist Carnival of Sexual Freedom & Autonomy. Thoughts in response and reflection to my own call... more

Define: “butch in the streets, femme in the sheets”

12/26/2008  |  20 Comments

I ran across the phrase "butch in the streets, femme in the sheets" (again) the other day, and it bothered me (again, still). So I started thinking: It generally means - and correct me if I'm wrong - that this supposed "butch in the streets," once taken to bed, liked to or wanted to get fucked. This is operating on an identity alignment assumption: that butches are tops.more

Marriage is so gay*

10/24/2008  |  6 Comments

Last week, I dreamt of my future wife.That's a strange thing to write down and admit, actually, especially publically;... more

define: need a word for …

09/10/2008  |  31 Comments

Now that I'm on the subject of definitions, I have a request. I need a word for something.Sometimes the English... more