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  • Jacks on Stardust and Sunshine, Sundust and Starshine
    I love your new photo on the sidebar (in the jacket - great jacket, btw!) and you look so happy in t...
  • Vulnerable Verbiage on Stardust and Sunshine, Sundust and Starshine
    Lovin' these updates, Hon!! You look so good! So happy!! Good luck in your travels and last weeks in...
  • Lenore on Stardust and Sunshine, Sundust and Starshine
    What do you think of Finding Your Way in the Wide New World? I had a period of reading quite a bit o...
  • Shereen on Exploring Gender Through Photos: The new headshots by Meg Allen
    I love the series in front of the colourful graffiti best. You look the most comfortable to me in th...
  • Vulnerable Verbiage on Exploring Gender Through Photos: The new headshots by Meg Allen
    Wow! You look AMAZING!!! Handsome, as always!! Best part is...it looks like you had a really fun tim...

• Elsewhere

  • “Evolution Has Nothing to Do With It,” Open Relationship Mini Interview with Charlie Glickman picked up by the Stranger’s Slog Friday, January 11, 2013
  • “What if you shut down or feel detached during intercourse?” Advice on What They Are Asking Tuesday, December 4, 2012
  • The Three Minute Game on Good Vibes Magazine Wednesday, November 7, 2012
  • Dirty Filthy Nasty on Good Vibes Magazine Thursday, November 1, 2012
  • “How do I share my porn preferences with my long time girlfriend?” Video on What They Are Asking Wednesday, October 17, 2012