Kiss & Tell on Tuesday, Dec 15 in NYC

Posted on December 10, 2009 in events | No Comments

I’ll be reading at Abiola Abrams‘s new series Kiss & Tell here in New York City on Tuesday, December 15th at 7pm. Abiola is one of the other models in the 2010 Sex Blogger Calendar, and she and I (along with Audacia Ray and Shira Tarrant) were on a panel on feminist sex recently, and I was glad to get to meet her. She’s got some great stuff going on and I’m thrilled to be a part of it.

I don’t know what I’m reading yet, but it’ll be juicy. Perhaps I’ll see you there!

Abiola’s Kiss & Tell
Storytelling & Performance Reading Series
A Party Like A Book Star-Studded Monthly Soiree
Bestselling Authors, Skanks, Intellectuals, Comics & Everyone In Between
Every 3rd Tuesday at MADAME X
94 West Houston Street between LaGuardia & Thompson
FREE with $5 Kiss & Tell Champagne Cocktails and $4 beers
Drinks & Mingle at 7PM;
Show begins at 7:30PM SHARP

December 15 Premiere Show:

Debut Show Honoree CANDIDA ROYALLE, author of How to Tell A Naked Man What to Do and Feminist Erotica Pioneer.

Inaugural Readers & Performers: (alphabetical order): Mo Beasley, Rachel Kramer Bussel, Anna David, Dave & Ethan, Hollie Harper, Demetria Lucas, Nando Rodriguez, Candida Royalle, Sinclair Sexmith, Kenya Stevens aka JuJuMama, Urban Gypsy, featuring hot Burlesque Dancers SHiNE & Lady Luscious.

Your personal invitation to be in attendance comes from Miss Abiola herself:

More information at abiolaabrams.com

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Come Say Hello! My Fall ’09 Events

Posted on October 15, 2009 in events | 4 Comments

I’ve been doing some housecleaning around Sugarbutch since I now have some serious time on my hands. Perhaps you noticed by, for example, the four posts in a row on Monday and the articles (like My Evolving Masculinity Part Two from yesterday) that I’ve been promising for ages.

I also keep meaning to post some of my upcoming events, and a personal invitation to you reading to come and join me in New York City and beyond.

Friday, 16 October 2009 – Feminist Sex panel discussion
With Abiola Adams, Audacia Ray, & Sinclair Sexsmith
Moderated by Shira Tarrant, PhD
Bluestockings Bookstore
7 pm, 172 Allen Street between Stanton and Rivington
Lower East Side, New York City

Sunday, 19 October, 2009 – Kink on Tap Podcast
Broadcast LIVE on Sunday nights at 8pm EST, 5pm PST
Maymay, Emma, and I will be talking about all sorts of things, from pronouns to images as activism to masculinities to power dynamics. We’ll follow along the Kink on Tap chat room so you can ask questions and participate in the conversation.
Tune in at live.kinkontap.com

Saturday, 24 October, 2009 – Jess’s Top Surgery Fundraiser & Party
with me & Kristen! Freedomgirl & Leo MacCool! Of course, the hosts, Jess & Tina! And all the way from the West Coast, special guest Jesse James!
Can’t make it? Don’t worry, you can still donate!
9pm on in Norwalk, CT

Friday, 6 November, 2009 – Sex Blogger Calendar Release Party!
Remember the outtakes from my calendar shoot by Amanda Morgan with Audacia Ray? Come and see the final shot revealed! Celebrate the release of our Limited Edition 2010 Calendar! Meet your favorite sex bloggers and the hot photographers who shot them, get a free gift bag and maybe win an amazing raffle prize donated by on of our many sponsors and supporters. Support Sex Work Awareness with a $20 calendar purchase.
6:30 – 9:30pm at Fontana’s, 105 Eldridge Street, New York, NY
www.sexbloggercalendar.com

13-14 November, 2009 – Knox College, Galesburg, Illinois
Workshop TBA

Monday, 16 November 2009 – Conversio Virium
Gendering Power: How to Spice Up Your Role Play
A Workshop with Sinclair Sexsmith
An interactive workshop on how the addition of gender to power dynamics in sexual role play scenarios can increase desire, vulnerability, and intimacy, as well as explore deep inner personal gender identities.
Columbia University’s BDSM Student Group, www.conversiovirium.org
302 Hamilton Hall, 1130 Amsterdam Avenue on 116th Street
9-11pm

Friday, 20 November 2009 – Trans Day of Remembrance
TBA

Thursday, 3 December 2009 – Smith College
workshop TBA
Northampton, MA

If you’d like to book me for an event at your college or in your town, contact my booking company, Phin Li, at (646) 418-5152 or bookings (at) phinli (dot) com. Some of my workshop offerings and bio are up on Phin Li’s website.

And while you’ve got your calendars out, also make note of these. They aren’t my events, but I do plan to be there.

22 October 2009 – April Flores’ Love Toy Art Show
join Sex Work Awareness and muse April Flores at the Museum of Sex, 233 Fifth Ave at 7 pm for the one night only Love Toy Art Show. Examine the work of 20 artists, including Molly Crabapple, Erika Keck, George Pitts, and Eli LIvingston, who have painted the new April Flores love toy to their liking. $10 at the door. Money raised from the raffle goes to support the work of Sex Work Awareness.

Sunday, 1 November 2009 – S. Bear Bergman, The Nearest Exit May Be Behind You reading
7:30pm (Doors open at 7pm)
Presented by Derivative Theater Company
45 Berry Street, corner of N 11th St, Brooklyn, NY
(Subway: L to Bedford or G to Nassau)
pay what you can, suggested donation $15 includes snacks
sbearbergman.com/tour

Thursday, 5 November, 2009 – Sex Worker Literati
Hosted by Audacia Ray & David Henry Sterry
Happy Ending, 302 Broome Street between Forsyth and Eldridge, in New York City
Doors at 7 pm, reading from 8-10, 21 and up + FREE
Portion of proceeds from the bar supports sex workers rights groups
www.hoshookerscallgirlsrentboys.com/reading-series

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Pioneers, Visionaries, Safe Havens, and Glitter

Posted on June 19, 2009 in activism | No Comments

My article on the 2009 Lambda Literary Awards is up on CarnalNation, and I’m proud of it. I loved going to the awards and I am grateful to CarnalNation for sending me – and to Seal Press for sending me a couple of the books that were finalists!

It’s amazing how little news coverage the awards got, really. I was looking around as I was drafting this and all I saw were bitty little mentions on blogs, no major news coverage. I guess that’s not surprising, just a little sad.

Here’s the beginning of my article, to entice you to read it:

The 21st annual Lambda Literary Awards returned to New York City for the 2009 ceremony at the New School for Graduate Studies in midtown Manhattan, after presenting last year’s awards in Los Angeles. It seems appropriate that the awards would come of legal drinking age in Gotham, amidst solid grey skies and a drizzle, where writers stoop over bourbon in dark East Village bars. Writerly brooding just isn’t the same on the beach with bikinis and sunshine.

The Awards began in 1988, and though the specific categories have evolved since then, with the addition of bisexual and transgender categories and, eventually, the fizzling of the AIDS-related category, the Awards reflect the movements of the queer community for the past twenty years, and the best of the best new and seasoned authors are recognized and awarded. It is one of my life-goals to read all the winners—at least for the lesbian fiction category, if not all the others.

As someone whose life was changed and saved by queer books, I was thrilled to be attending the awards ceremony. I sat in the back so I could see the authors jump up when their name was announced after “and the winner is…” so I could see their lovers’ and friends’ faces as they hugged, clapped their hands, kissed on the cheek. And then the long walk to the stage and the acceptance speech: “I know it’s cliché to say that I didn’t prepare anything because I didn’t expect to win, but it’s true!”

Read the whole thing over at CarnalNation.

The complete list of winners is at the end of the article; pick out just one of them, at least, and read it, will you? These are amazing books which have been honored, and deserve reading.

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Two podcast interviews: sex, sex, and more sex

Posted on June 15, 2009 in interviews | 1 Comment

I’m still behind on, well, everything, so this is just links for now, no commentary. I had fun recording these interviews and recommend their podcasts in general – lots of interesting guests!

Sex, Love, and Intimacy Podcast episode 92 with Chip August. “Sinclair Sexsmith defies categorization. He’s a self described lesbian, kinky writer, queer butch top, feminist sex educator in New York City. Join us as we talk about gender expression, identities, labels, transcending the mutually exclusive binaries, queer culture, concepts of how gender identity and sexual identity intersect, butch/femme roles as a language of desire, how labels can be restrictive or liberating and so much more. And don’t miss the exercise for you to try at home.”

Masocast with Unspeakable Axe and me: Could You Just Use Your Fist? “Sinclair talks about gender, swagger, sex in public, cock confidence, how she’s having the best sex of her life and more.”

Download the mp3 files directly from the websites, or subscribe to the podcasts using something like iTunes.

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Virgin Night in New York City – this Thursday

Posted on April 14, 2009 in events | No Comments

A little reminder that I’ll be reading this Thursday in New York City! Come on out – no cover, free cupcakes, giveaways, and lots of literary smut. It’s going to be a good time.

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IN THE FLESH EROTIC READING SERIES
VIRGIN NIGHT
April 16th at 8 PM
AT HAPPY ENDING LOUNGE, 302 BROOME STREET, NYC
(B/D to Grand, J/M/Z to Bowery, F to Delancey or F/V to 2nd Avenue, http://www.happyendinglounge.com)
Admission: Free
Happy Ending Lounge: 212-334-9676

http://inthefleshreadingseries.blogspot.com

In The Flesh is proud to present its second annual Virgin Night, featuring new authors and first-time readers. Texan Jenny Block reads from Open: Love, Sex, and Life in an Open Marriage, Smart Bitches, Trashy Books blogger and co-author of Beyond Heaving Bosoms Sarah Wendell shares the sexy side of romance, memoirist (I’m Perfect, You’re Doomed) and ex-Jehovah’s Witness Kyria Abrahams talks about losing her virginity, Jehovah’s Witness style, while Nerve.com Scanner blogger Emily Farris delivers a sex story and erotic romance novelist (Stranger, Dirty) Megan Hart reads her steamy prose, along with Gideon Levy of Kinky Jews and Sugarbutch Chronicles blogger Sinclair Sexsmith, and first-time reader Nicolette Dixon. Books will be available for sale by Mobile Libris. Hosted and curated by Rachel Kramer Bussel (The Mile High Club, Do Not Disturb, Spanked). Free candy and cupcakes will be served.

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Virgin Night at In the Flesh: April 16th, NYC

Posted on April 3, 2009 in events | No Comments

I’m reading at In The Flesh on April 16th – if you’re in New York, come on out & say hello! Details below.

There will be giveaways of the game Sexy Slang (formerly PervArtistry) and cupcakes by Baked by Melissa.

IN THE FLESH EROTIC READING SERIES
April 16th at 7:30 PM
AT HAPPY ENDING LOUNGE, 302 BROOME STREET, NYC
(B/D to Grand, J/M/Z to Bowery, F to Delancey or F/V to 2nd Avenue, http://www.happyendinglounge.com)
Admission: Free
Happy Ending Lounge: 212-334-9676
http://inthefleshreadingseries.blogspot.com

In The Flesh is proud to present its second annual Virgin Night, featuring new authors and first-time readers. Texan Jenny Block reads from Open: Love, Sex, and Life in an Open Marriage, Smart Bitches, Trashy Books blogger and co-author of Beyond Heaving Bosoms Sarah Wendell shares the sexy side of romance, memoirist (I’m Perfect, You’re Doomed) and ex-Jehovah’s Witness Kyria Abrahams talks about losing her virginity, Jehovah’s Witness style, while Nerve.com Scanner blogger Emily Farris delivers a sex story and erotic romance novelist (Stranger, Dirty) Megan Hart reads her steamy prose, along with Gideon Levy of Kinky Jews and Sugarbutch Chronicles blogger Sinclair Sexsmith, and first-time reader Nicolette Dixon. Hosted and curated by Rachel Kramer Bussel (The Mile High Club, Do Not Disturb, Spanked). Free candy and cupcakes will be served. Read more

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Come to KinkForAll on Sunday!

Posted on March 2, 2009 in events | 1 Comment

KinkForAll, a new unconference, is coming up this Sunday, March 8th, at the LGBT Community Center in NYC. I’ve been really looking forward to this and I think it’s going to be incredible.

Here’s the first description from the KinkForAll webpage:

KinkForAll is an ad-hoc gathering born from the desire for people of the kink, queer, sex-positive and related communities to share and learn in an open environment. It is an intense event with discussions, presentations, and interaction from all participants. It is inspired by and based upon the BarCamp community.

I don’t know if or what I’ll be presenting on exactly. When I signed up I wrote that I might give a presentation about “gender theory, identity development, butch/femme identity, presentation, and dynamics, strapping on & sucking butch cock, how to fall in love without losing yourself … and probably a bunch of other things …” but it’s also really possible that I’ll just be there as a participant. I mean, look at all the other amazing people who have great ideas about what they can present on?

Vitals
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What: A no-limits sex-positive gender and sexuality unconference.
Why: To inspire a creative, interactive and open environment where everyone feels comfortable talking, learning, and being inspired by all kinds of sexuality.
When: March 8, 2009, Sunday, 10AM to 5:30PM
Where: LGBT Community Center, Room 310 at 208 West 13th Street, New York City
Who: Everyone
How much: Free (as in beer as well as freedom)

Details
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KinkForAll is an ad-hoc gathering born from the desire for people of the kink, queer, sex-positive and related communities to share and learn in an open environment. It is an intense event with discussions, presentations, and interaction from all participants. (It is inspired by the BarCamp community.)

ANYONE WITH SOMETHING TO CONTRIBUTE OR WITH THE DESIRE TO LEARN IS WELCOME AND INVITED TO JOIN. When you attend, be prepared to share with others. When you leave, be prepared to share it with the world.

A KinkForAll is a special kind of gathering because there are no spectators, only participants. Attendees must give a talk or a presentation, help with one, or otherwise volunteer/contribute in some way to support the event. This is called sharing and we like it. All presentations are scheduled the day they happen—there are no pre-scheduled presentations or keynote addresses. The people present at the event will select the presentations they want to see.

Anyone can present, on any topic related to sexuality. You do not necessarily have to teach a new skill or idea. You might share an experience, review a product, or read a poem. The goal is to start a discussion, make connections, and exchange knowledge. Presentations promoting specific commercial products or companies are discouraged.

Learn more about what to expect at http://kinkforall.pbwiki.com/WhatToExpect

Learn more about the event guidelines at http://kinkforall.pbwiki.com/TheRulesOfKinkForAll

Get Involved
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We need your help in spreading the word. Please help by participating. Here’s how:

1. Get excited by reading the ideas on http://kinkforall.pbwiki.com/KinkForAllNewYorkCity
2. Add your name or handle to the list of participants
3. Join the mailing list and introduce yourself by emailing kinkforall@googlegroups.com

Still have questions? Read the Frequently Asked Questions at http://kinkforall.pbwiki.com/FrequentlyAskedQuestions

or email kinkforall@googlegroups.com for more details.

Perhaps I’ll see you there!

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jenny shimizu, strappy sandals, and me on the radio

Posted on June 9, 2008 in interviews | 6 Comments

I’ll be on Sirius OutQ Radio for The Diana Cage Show tonight at 10pm EST. You may know of Diana from such fabulous things as books like Box Lunch, Girl Meets Girl: A Dating Survival Guide, or formerly editing the fantastic dyke sex magazine On Our Backs. And now, she blogs at OurChart.

Get a 3-day trial for OutQ radio – news, interviews, and music for the queer community 24/7 – online at SiriusOutQ.com. Listen in tonight to hear me ramble about really good sex with Penny, dating, being an aspiring stud, butch identity politics, and who knows what else.

Jenny Shimizu is also scheduled to be on the show tonight, and I hear Diana promised to wear strappy sandals for me. It’s also nearly a hundred degrees in New York City – it’s gonna be fun.